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Top Unis - am I missing something?

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OnTheRoll · 04/11/2024 07:48

DD is in Year 13, predicted 3 A, already has an A from a language A Level she did last year, and 11 GCSEs all 8/9. Got a great work experience in her chosen field, lots of academic reading, etc., etc. Has been working very hard and aiming for a top uni.

The problem is, it seems that unless she gets into Oxbridge, there isn't a suitable option for her?

We are in SE so decided not to go for Durham/Edinburg as the travel is just too much, 5+ hours, and she would not be able to come home more than once a term. She would very much prefer a campus experience rather than a city uni which rules out LSE/UCL in London.

There are of course great options like Warwick, Bristol, Bath, Exeter. We visited and DD loved them and so did I.

But I cannot help thinking that if she were to go to one of those unis she didn't really need to spend that much time working, studying and sacrificing her free time. Does it make sense? Entry requirements in those unis in her subject are all quite lower than her current and predicted grades.

Would appreciate some perspective.

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Oldie73 · 06/11/2024 07:54

Another thing - Oxbridge can be a disconcerting experience for people who have flown through at school and are used to being top. Inevitably there are lots of people who are far brainier than you. I’ve known a few people that have stumbled a bit in that atmosphere.

RampantIvy · 06/11/2024 07:49

@redskydarknight LadyGabriella has some very odd, goady and outdated views about higher education. I have read her bonkers opinions on other HE threads. Ignore her.

redskydarknight · 06/11/2024 07:46

LadyGabriella · 05/11/2024 20:27

Advising Loughborough to a girl predicted to get 4 A stars? Don’t make me laugh. Shame on you.

It comes very high up the rankings for politics, has a lovely campus and is not too far a journey from the SE. It attracts A* students.

In other words, it ticks all OP's boxes. What's the issue with it?
(and no, you don't have to do sport to go there).

Oldie73 · 06/11/2024 07:30

Oxbridge look for a certain way of thinking in a student as well as great grades. Has she had any Oxbridge interview training from school? Has she read any of the books that tell you how to approach an Oxbridge application. My son read ‘Tell me about a Banana’ which is probably hopelessly out-of-date now. He also has a quirky (nerdy?) personality. There’s also techniques for getting in, like applying for a really unpopular subject and then requesting to transfer once you’ve got there. I loved his experience of him being there like dinner in hall, matriculation and graduation in Latin, but it’s a certain kind of experience, which she would need to love too!! I would have thought the social life is trendier/livier at some of the other Russell Group universities. And not all courses at Oxbridge are rated the best in the country either. And the terms are strictly 8 weeks - very short indeed!
Sounds like whatever she does she will ‘fly’. Congratulations!

OhcantthInkofaname · 06/11/2024 02:51

As a retired professor from the US, I would ask what career path is she wanting? Does she have a joy for learning?
I would never discount having an avid intellectual base. It will do her well regardless of what she studies

winkywonky · 06/11/2024 00:03

Please Stop calling in Edinburg OP! Nobody else is and it’s driving me nuts reading this thread. Once is a typo, this number of errors is very ‘the world is build around London attitude’ It’s Scotlands capital city! Sounds like you have ruled it out along with others outwith oxbridge just by your disinterest.

Blacksheepcat · 05/11/2024 23:43

No uni requires 4 A levels …all are 3….even Oxbridge.

Most top 6th form colleges only allow u to take 3 (as 4 is pointless). Achieving A ‘s in all doesn’t mean you are Oxbridge material. It’s all about quotas too. If you are at a top performing 6th form where most students get A then you stand less chance…they can’t take all students from one place now. This was to stop only public schools getting to Oxbridge. They want more diversity and equality. If you are the top performing student in a poor performing school you stand a lot more chance of getting in to Oxford or Cambridge with your 3 A*’s.

Gherkinslice · 05/11/2024 23:42

OnTheRoll · 04/11/2024 07:48

DD is in Year 13, predicted 3 A, already has an A from a language A Level she did last year, and 11 GCSEs all 8/9. Got a great work experience in her chosen field, lots of academic reading, etc., etc. Has been working very hard and aiming for a top uni.

The problem is, it seems that unless she gets into Oxbridge, there isn't a suitable option for her?

We are in SE so decided not to go for Durham/Edinburg as the travel is just too much, 5+ hours, and she would not be able to come home more than once a term. She would very much prefer a campus experience rather than a city uni which rules out LSE/UCL in London.

There are of course great options like Warwick, Bristol, Bath, Exeter. We visited and DD loved them and so did I.

But I cannot help thinking that if she were to go to one of those unis she didn't really need to spend that much time working, studying and sacrificing her free time. Does it make sense? Entry requirements in those unis in her subject are all quite lower than her current and predicted grades.

Would appreciate some perspective.

All the Russell Groups ask for the same grades as Oxbridge anyway, Oxbridge aren't higher. But definitely do your homework and look around the ones offering the degree content and delivery the YP wants, you will get a feel what is right, and it's about the course they want to do, so different at every single Uni. Do they get a choice of modules, is it assessment or exam only. Consider cost of accommodation and availability. My dd turned down her offer of Cambridge as on further consideration her course looked restrictive and quite boring, she has never regretted it and more than happy at her RG Uni with same grades

Goingncforthisone · 05/11/2024 23:42

LadyGabriella · 05/11/2024 20:27

Advising Loughborough to a girl predicted to get 4 A stars? Don’t make me laugh. Shame on you.

Loughborough requires 3 A* for some subjects and comes out top in a lot of Uni tables.What is your problem with it?

Ketzele · 05/11/2024 23:38

OP, I think you're making a number of assumptions. First, that predicted grades are accurate (IME they can be wildly optimistic). Second, that course minimum grades are the same level as those achieved by the students on that course (often they are a minimum exceeded by the majority). And that the best course for your dd is at the most prestigious uni.

My dd has just started doing international history and politics at a northern uni. From memory, there were some very good options for that course in the South, including Bristol and Exeter. It does sound as though she could benefit from a gap year, and thinking seriously about whether she would thrive in a high pressure environment like Oxbridge.

RampantIvy · 05/11/2024 22:50

I was 5.5 hours away from uni, rarely went home midterm.

But the OP's daughter isn't you. Some young people just want the safety net of being able to nip home for the weekend, even if they don't do so.

BumpyaDaisyevna · 05/11/2024 22:46

I think you're mad to rule out Durham / Edinburgh just cos of the five hours travel.

I was 5.5 hours away from uni, rarely went home midterm.

NewFriendlyLadybird · 05/11/2024 22:42

GoodMorningPineapple · 05/11/2024 22:36

Top of my head. For Physical Natural Sciences at Cambridge most candidates have 4 A-levels and do Maths, Futher Maths, Physics and Chemistry.

They may have them but they don’t need them.

Pomegranatecarnage · 05/11/2024 22:39

OnTheRoll · 04/11/2024 07:53

Thanks for replying. I am not moaning and I did list some great unis. But I think you will agree that they are not top ones and you don't need 4 A Stars to get into those.

She is just wondering why did she need to push herself so much if that's her options.

My DD got AAAA* and went to Exeter. She’s doing Marine Biology. She wanted to get the best grades she could.

GoodMorningPineapple · 05/11/2024 22:36

NewFriendlyLadybird · 05/11/2024 21:49

No it isn’t. No one needs 4 A-levels.

Top of my head. For Physical Natural Sciences at Cambridge most candidates have 4 A-levels and do Maths, Futher Maths, Physics and Chemistry.

cherish123 · 05/11/2024 22:22

Lots of students at St.Andrews have 4As at A-Level. I don't know Exeter Uni, but think it's probably similar.

LozMuffin · 05/11/2024 22:17

OnTheRoll · 05/11/2024 20:33

I had an impression that Loughborough is a uni of choice for very sporty kids, that's what it is famous for

Another vote here for Loughborough - one of the best single-site campus in the UK. Its politics course rates much higher than Bath, Exeter, Bristol in the league tables. The university itself is in the top 10 of all league tables for good reason - and while it is more known for sport, there are many other reasons why it is so successful for students.

RampantIvy · 05/11/2024 22:11

You can't really say "Loughborough is this, Bath is that". It will depend on the course. Some of the non prestigious post 1996 universities for example can be excellent for particular subjects. You can look at graduate outcomes for each course.

I agree, but some posters have blinkers on about a university's overall prestige without drilling down into how good a university is for a specific subject.

JollyPinkFox · 05/11/2024 21:55

Can you fly to Edinburgh from where you are? Or get to London to fly? Then it’s not so far. Have you taken her to visit the further away unis and also the London ones? A campus uni is not all it’s cracked up to be in my experience. Nice to be in a big city and feel more like an adult rather than inside the campus bubble (I’ve been to both kinds).

Lockupyourbiscuits · 05/11/2024 21:55

Going to the best university doesn’t give you a pass to a happy life
you are over focussed on the wrong thing

Explore what makes your child happy, secure and resilient

It isn’t as simplistic as going to Oxbridge

NewFriendlyLadybird · 05/11/2024 21:49

PrimoPiatti · 05/11/2024 20:09

I think Oxbridge is 4 A*'s these days.

No it isn’t. No one needs 4 A-levels.

Skodacool · 05/11/2024 21:34

She got a reduced offer from Warwick already
That's because she's doing so well. Universities make lower offers to the students they want.

shehasglasses48 · 05/11/2024 21:32

one child went to Durham. Still at home applying for jobs constantly, no joy. Other one went to a former polytechnic doing extremely well in a major national organisation. Up to them and circumstances in the long run:

Askingforafriendtoday · 05/11/2024 21:27

ThePure · 04/11/2024 07:53

It is an odd post

Obviously there is not going to be a uni to meet every single persons exact requirements!

She'll either get into Oxbridge or she'll be one of the brightest people at one of the other unis and either way she'll do very well in life which is surely more important than A level results or which exact uni she attends

I agree it's an odd post, not quite sure what the issue is. I have been a university admissions tutor for many years... strange dismissal by OP of anywhere but Oxbridge. Many students with these A level grades choose not to go to Oxbridge because they don't like the course as taught, or maybe the ethos. It is horses for courses and some universities suit some students better than others.
As other pp have said 5 hours travel is nothing for university students...please don't limit her options in that way. She can always be proud of her A level results whatever she does, where ever she chooses to study

DinosaurMunch · 05/11/2024 21:24

OnTheRoll · 05/11/2024 20:33

I had an impression that Loughborough is a uni of choice for very sporty kids, that's what it is famous for

I don't know much about the specific subject your daughter is interested in studying. But you need to look at the courses she wants and not the university as a whole. You can't really say "Loughborough is this, Bath is that". It will depend on the course. Some of the non prestigious post 1996 universities for example can be excellent for particular subjects. You can look at graduate outcomes for each course.

Secondly the campus uni thing is a bit of a red herring. In most universities first year students will live in halls together whether they are city or campus based. Often there are halls options close to the teaching facilities so no commute needed or it may be a short bus or bike or half hour walk- perfectly manageable for a teenager. Campuses to me seem mind numbingly characterless and isolating - at least in a city you have options if you aren't loving the student social life.