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Would it annoy you if you kept getting visitors after 5pm on a Sunday

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phanjm · 03/11/2024 16:41

In laws keep doing this recently and it's just not a great time.

Kids are 4 ( at school ) and 2.

They do so unannounced.

My sis and bro in law keep doing it as well, same time. But on a Saturday, which isn't as annoying.

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phanjm · 03/11/2024 16:49

FinallyMovingHouse · 03/11/2024 16:47

I would be texting now, "just in case you're planning on visiting tonight, please don't as it's not a great time to visit". Thanks.

I have typed this out already but not sending it because my DD keeps asking when is she coming - she told her yesterday on the phone that she'll be coming over today.

My DD has made her a card and is crying because she thought she'd give it to her today.

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phanjm · 03/11/2024 16:47

I don't mind unannounced visits by close family. It's just a bit late on a Sunday.

Sis in law said she wanted to stop by today. I should have asked 'what time'.

The only thing stopping me from texting her telling her it's a bit late now is my DD who's been looking forward to it and is expecting a visit.

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FinallyMovingHouse · 03/11/2024 16:47

I would be texting now, "just in case you're planning on visiting tonight, please don't as it's not a great time to visit". Thanks.

morestraightforward · 03/11/2024 16:46

Clearinguptheclutter · 03/11/2024 16:44

I may be in the minority but I can’t cope with anyone turning up unannounced, tho I make exceptions for my kids’ friends

family know better than to just turn up
yanbu

it would be un fathomable for me or my family to just rock up to anyone’s house unannounced

basic common courtesy

morestraightforward · 03/11/2024 16:45

phanjm · 03/11/2024 16:43

To see the kids.

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well in that case

“kids love seeing you. But it’s not a great time, could we start arranging a specific day/time”

surprised you haven’t already 🤷

Clearinguptheclutter · 03/11/2024 16:44

I may be in the minority but I can’t cope with anyone turning up unannounced, tho I make exceptions for my kids’ friends

family know better than to just turn up
yanbu

Pinkpaperclip · 03/11/2024 16:44

It wouldn’t annoy me because I wouldn’t let it be a habit. I’d tell them the first time they knocked at 5pm that they can come in for 30 mins but not to do it again this time on a Sunday because DD has school the next day and you need to get 2 year old ready for bed in the next couple of hours. Then if they did do it again, i wouldn’t let them in.

Zippidydoodah · 03/11/2024 16:44

Can you just say, “lovely to see you, but next week would you mind popping over earlier, at about 3? We start dinner, bath and bedtime at 5.”

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phanjm · 03/11/2024 16:43

morestraightforward · 03/11/2024 16:43

do they just rock up for… a chat?

To see the kids.

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morestraightforward · 03/11/2024 16:43

do they just rock up for… a chat?

morestraightforward · 03/11/2024 16:42

18 mins to go to see if they do today!

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