Would it annoy you if you kept getting visitors after 5pm on a Sunday

I wouldn’t mind mine dropping in but for me, that’s never going to happen because I upset my mil and we’re not close like we were. SIL is busy with her kids in a different town. I think if it annoys you much more then you need to say something because you said lately it’s grating on you.
Hormones?

😂👌🏻 perfect

I think it depends if they would be helpful! For example I have family or friends who will do the kids bath for me which means I can clear up downstairs. Absolutely godsend when I'm alone as DH does long shifts. Means once kid is in bed, my house is fairly tidy, we have a cuppa before they head off!

This^

I'm not a tidy enough person to cope without at least 15 minutes notice. This would cause me massive stress and if it's becoming regular I'd be asking them to let you know in advance as evenings are very rushed for you.

Some people I'm sure would just love to have some family around to visit and wouldn't worry about the time.
If they weren't here anymore you'd miss them and wouldn't care what time they called.
First World Problems.

This

Every relative, friend and acquaintance I have knows that Sunday afternoons are absolutely sacrosanct in my house.

Do not call me, do not arrange to visit.... no one would dare to just "pop in" unannounced.

I just like quiet Sunday afternoons, pottering about and relaxing. No guests or interruptions allowed.

Set the ground rules early and let everyone know it's your time. Sometimes you need to be a cantankerous old bag about boundaries.

I'm a bit puzzled by this. What is wrong with family visiting at 5 pm on a Sunday? If they just stay for an hour or two, and don't expect a full meal, I don't see the issue.

My dm was a terrible one. The only thing I ever took from my upbringing was never to be at anyone's home when they spouse gets in.... Or at dc's tea time...

In laws does the same...every fucking sunday. I have started to ignore them and get on with my chores. Last Sunday I only offered one cup of tea and when they finished I cleared it away
She swiftly left. Making a mental note to not do this to my children.

My DD made it very clear to me whilst pregnant that I couldn't just turn up, and have to wait for an invitation at a convenient time. To them. Harsh, but maybe you should ask politely not to come after 5.00 because of wind-down time, bath, bed etc

This is a DH problem. If you’ve told him you don’t want visitors at this time and he hasn’t sorted this for you then he’s being disrespectful. It’s not for you to keep his parents in check.

Yanbu.
Absolutely ridiculous time to visit, particularly as you are likely doing bed time on your own.

There is nothing wrong with asking for specific times and being clear with the windows of time that suit you.

Anyone with a bit of consideration isn't calling after 5 with young children in the house.

Spell it out that it winds them up too much and it doesn't suit you.

I couldn't be arsed to go out after 5pm on a Sunday - even less so be arsed with visitors then 😂

The first time they arrived at an awkward time I'd not accommodate them tbh, and make ot clear that while it's nice to see them this isn't a good time. I'd definitely suggest a more suitable time so they know they are welcome, just not now.

Why hint? Just say that 5pm is too late. All of this fuss caused by unclear or absent communication.

I can't imaging offending people I love by doing that.

I take it they don't have kids of their own? So they have no idea what it's like to need to get everything ready for the week ahead - in which case YABU not to communicate clearly with them. Do you often have trouble defining your boundaries? I used to be like this and it reflected through my whole life, until I got some counselling and learnt to be more assertive. You'll be doing your dd a massive service if you learn to communicate clearly.

When you heard they had announced their visit to your dd - then was the time for your DH to send them a message to say something like:
Hi SIL, Dd says you might be popping over, we'd love to see you 😊 any chance you can make it over by 3pm latest? Trying to get DD into a habit of getting everything ready for school at 5pm on a Sunday now, as otherwise it all goes a bit pear shaped 🤦‍♂️

No need to be getting all in a kerfuffle, just communicate! I know it's difficult sometimes but just be clear, we love seeing you but can you come earlier in the day? and give us a text before you set off, so we know you're coming cheers!

My ex's brother and wife used to do this. They would often turn up just as I was getting DC to bed then expect me to cook a meal for them. One time I was upstairs bathing the DC and couldn't just go down and let them in. Ex had fallen asleep on the sofa exhausted from work. They were knocking for at least half an. Ex never heard them knocking.

It really depends who it is..I have friends I would happily have in with no notice at any time of day or night.

I would hate that with children so young! It’s just not a good idea when they’re so little.

I don’t love getting uninvited guests at the best of times, but at least now mine are bigger it’s less of a hassle.