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Do you button up your duvet cover before washing?

184 replies

Ultravox · 03/11/2024 15:31

Please help resolve an incredibly minor dispute in our house. I’ve just changed our sheets and when I went to put on the clean duvet cover it was buttoned up so I had to unbutton it to put it on and then re button it. It has proper fiddly wooden buttons and it may be just menopause but I have the rage over this.

So…

YABU: Yes I button up the duvet cover before putting it in the washing machine to stop other items going inside it.

YANU: What a waste of time. If any items go inside the duvet cover during washing then it’s easy to take them out before drying.

OP posts:
Bunnyhair · 04/11/2024 12:51

I can’t believe it never occurred to me to do this. My duvet covers swallowing all the other laundry and turning it into a giant wet sausage is one of those small daily irritations that can reliably tip me over the edge into utter despair.

From now on I will button my duvet covers before washing them and consider it an act of preventative mental health care.

Balloonhearts · 04/11/2024 12:47

Yes otherwise everything goes inside it and it ends up in a massive soggy ball that doesn't spin out properly and the washing machine will be banging loudly because it unbalances the drum.

Getitwright · 04/11/2024 12:45

No. But I tend to do only bedding in a bedding wash…duvet cover, bottom sheet, couple of pillow cases, occasionally mattress cover. Duvet cover will be inside out for ease of getting in back on.

And no, I don’t iron any of this, life is for better things😁

BuzzieLittleBee · 04/11/2024 12:37

mydogisthebest · 04/11/2024 11:03

I don't care if the washing supposedly gets clean in cold water, I will carry on washing my bedding and towels at 60.

I do 3 washes a week so not using lots of electric or water and I use the shorter cycles

Using the shorter cycles uses more electricity and water than longer ones... So if you're choosing them because you want to save money (or energy, or water) then it's actually costing you more. Seems counterintuitive, I know, but it's true.

mydogisthebest · 04/11/2024 11:03

Nannyfannybanny · 04/11/2024 10:51

Towels are Sanderson embroidered, says max 40c that's what they get, washing machine agitation cleans clothes and the liquid which works even in cold water. We're now importing electricity from Russia!

I don't care if the washing supposedly gets clean in cold water, I will carry on washing my bedding and towels at 60.

I do 3 washes a week so not using lots of electric or water and I use the shorter cycles

HiccupHorrendousHaddock · 04/11/2024 10:55

@Nannyfannybanny - a super king duvet cover, sheet and pillowcases pretty much fill the machine.

Dweetfidilove · 04/11/2024 10:53

I never thought to and get pissed when the pillowcases get lost, so will start buttoning up now 😊.

AffableApple · 04/11/2024 10:51

No ironing, that's for sure. But yes, every second button, and wash inside out, ready to put back on bed. Fold neatly when dry, and place with one matching pillowcase and any matching/favoured undersheet (why is an undersheet never part of a bloody set any more?!) inside one of the matching pillowcases. My "linen cupboard" is not tidy, but this way it all gets kept together so I can find a set instantly in the chaos.

Nannyfannybanny · 04/11/2024 10:51

Towels are Sanderson embroidered, says max 40c that's what they get, washing machine agitation cleans clothes and the liquid which works even in cold water. We're now importing electricity from Russia!

mydogisthebest · 04/11/2024 10:41

Nannyfannybanny · 04/11/2024 08:33

Depends how dextrose you are, what you need a high sugar level to do up a few buttons. Straining the buttons by doing them up. Those who only put bedding in the machine,do you have tiny machines,or infinite cheap electricity? Mine only goes on with a full load. I'm not sure whether items inside a duvet cover would be washed satisfactory with today's machines that take in so little water,to save that plus energy.

I will wash towels with bedding but nothing else as I wash them at 60 and that is too high for clothes

TorroFerney · 04/11/2024 10:40

No , never occurred to me. Would remove the fun of thinking the washing machine has swallowed a pliilowcase before realising it’s in the duvet cover.

JimPanzee · 04/11/2024 10:38

No, I don't. But I'm thinking I should, inevitably I end up with half the washing balled up inside the duvet when I take it out of the washing machine, and the same again with the dryer 😫

Nannyfannybanny · 04/11/2024 10:34

I've just stripped the bed,king sized bedding. It took 30 seconds, I counted,to undo the buttons, remove the duvet and do the buttons back up. I am 5ft tall,74 with arthritis on hands and wrists.. the machine is full, making the most of a dry windy day. As for not taking long to remove smaller items,I have pegged duvet covers out years ago, and there was still small items stuck in there. If you want stuff to dry on your line, especially at this time of year,you have to put thin light weight items on the inner lines and thick stuff like towels on the outside,so they get maximum wind or sun. I'm sure someone will come and say they can't be bothered, they just throw it all in the tumble dryer. That's a very last resort for me.

Nicklebox · 04/11/2024 09:02

I find that its the tumble dryer that's the problem absolutely every other item ends up inside the duvet cover and then doesn't dry properly.

notatinydancer · 04/11/2024 09:01

No , I wash it on its own , super king size.

LoquaciousPineapple · 04/11/2024 09:01

Yes, as otherwise loads of other things end up getting in the duvet cover. Sometimes I only do up every other button to save a bit of time both ways.

skilpadde · 04/11/2024 08:54

NeverDropYourMooncup · 03/11/2024 16:25

YABU.

Buy some iron on Velcro (might need a couple of stitches if you tend to tumble dry at a high temperature) and close the cover before washing it. Bingo - both problems solved.

Rage at buttons is nothing to compared to rage at a soggy mess of crumpled stuff in a tangled duvet.

I second this!

I have a duvet cover where the poppers wouldn't stay shut. I bought some velcro 'coins' to sew into the between-popper gaps and the velcro is just so easy that now I think all duvet covers should come with velcro closures.

ValentinesDayCryingInTheHotel · 04/11/2024 08:44

I don’t - it didn’t even occur to me to do that 🤦🏻‍♀️🤣

catin8oots · 04/11/2024 08:42

Why have a never thought to button it up? 😝 I get The Rage when all the stuff gets stuck inside it

HScully · 04/11/2024 08:42

No I CBA, life is too short. If any one else want to then that is fine, as long as they put it back one

teatoast8 · 04/11/2024 08:41

I don't

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 04/11/2024 08:40

No, waste of time when it means unbuttoning before putting it on again, so that means the pillowcases end up inside, but it takes seconds to shake them, and any odd socks etc. out.

FrostFlowers2025 · 04/11/2024 08:37

Buttons on a duvet cover? What fresh hell is this?

TimeForATerf · 04/11/2024 08:35

I don’t, but I should because it gets all knotted up in the dryer and there’s always a random sock or pair of knickers in the corner, still wet when I take it out.

Nannyfannybanny · 04/11/2024 08:33

Depends how dextrose you are, what you need a high sugar level to do up a few buttons. Straining the buttons by doing them up. Those who only put bedding in the machine,do you have tiny machines,or infinite cheap electricity? Mine only goes on with a full load. I'm not sure whether items inside a duvet cover would be washed satisfactory with today's machines that take in so little water,to save that plus energy.