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To want my dd to get a job?

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Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 03/11/2024 15:12

She just turned 13 and a couple of her friends have little ad hoc jobs earning themselves a bit of cash. She gets pocket money but is never enough to cover what she wants to buy!
Is 13 too young - should she just enjoy her childhood before starting her many years of working?
If not, hit me with some ideas on what she can do!!

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MyNeedyKoala · 03/11/2024 15:57

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Autumnalsun · 03/11/2024 15:57

What do her friends do?

Most places won’t hire anyone younger than 14.
Most actually won’t hire anyone under 16.

I would be giving her chores or asking family to give her chores like dog walking or washing their car for a couple of pound but it would be up to her to do it or not.

Aquacrab · 03/11/2024 15:54

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purplebeansprouts · 03/11/2024 15:54

Pet sitting is a good one at that age

mondaytosunday · 03/11/2024 15:52

Let the kid be a kid! Right rules on employment either kids under 16 as it is. She'll be working fur mist if get adult life so u wouldn't push it at all. At 13 I was babysitting though.

Hankunamatata · 03/11/2024 15:52

Paper round is the only job I know.

Can you afford to pay her to do extra household jobs beyond her chores?

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Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 03/11/2024 15:49

PestoPastaChaChaCha · 03/11/2024 15:46

I had a weekend job at 15 in a hairdressers as I didn’t yet have a national insurance number. The owner knew I had few options and sexually assaulted me every shift. 13 is far too young to be employed and deal with work pressures.

How awful, l am sorry you went through that. God there are some awful people out there.

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PestoPastaChaChaCha · 03/11/2024 15:46

I had a weekend job at 15 in a hairdressers as I didn’t yet have a national insurance number. The owner knew I had few options and sexually assaulted me every shift. 13 is far too young to be employed and deal with work pressures.

KnottyKnitting · 03/11/2024 15:43

We have a couple of enterprising young boys ( around14) locally who have started up a little car cleaning service. They are absolutely brilliant and in great demand at the weekends- they are vastly cheaper than the local car wash ( and there are lots of complaints about them, due to using rags which they have dropped in the floor and then used on cars causing scratches on the paint work! )

pinkdelight · 03/11/2024 15:42

StormingNorman · 03/11/2024 15:22

Definitely not too young. Send her up the chimneys.

Ha ha, absolutely! Or get her on the game, never too young.

Christ, OP, 13 is younger than it ever was and the Saturday jobs are all for 16+ or even 18+ now. You could pay her yourself to clean the car or do the ironing, but better to spend her time on hobbies/extra-curriculars especially if she's overly focused on materialism/shopping for tat. She'll have years of work to come. No rush.

2chocolateoranges · 03/11/2024 15:41

13?

she’s a child, let her enjoy being one.

16/17 ,, then I’d be expecting a Saturday job at least.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 03/11/2024 15:39

Maybe next year a hairdresser assistant?

parietal · 03/11/2024 15:38

My dd has been looking of volunteer jobs for duke or Edinburgh but none of the charity shops or organisations will take kids under 14 and many say 16.

At 13, I think she'd only get informal work like dog walking for a neighbour or possibly sweeping leaves etc for a neighbour. But jobs like that can be hard to organise and don't last.

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Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 03/11/2024 15:30

Gosh sorry l only meant an hour or so a week - one of her friends does a paper round but with winter coming, not sure how that will pan out and another one does odd jobs for a neighbour so a bit of cash in hand.
I always offer her more money to jobs around the house but she rarely takes me up on it! But then wants more money for make up/skin care/ sweets etc!

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Fireworknight · 03/11/2024 15:27

I’m surprised at 13 as well. When I saw your post title, I was expecting it to be a 21 year, who finished uni a few months ago, not a 13 year old.

I think acting is one of the only jobs you can legitimately do under 16.

GrumpyCactus · 03/11/2024 15:24

Honestly I'm really surprised more than one of her friends has a job at 13. I would have said it was pretty much unheard of for 13 year olds to have jobs these days as all the jobs they used to do are now not an option. Even our local paper delivery specifies applicants must be 16 or over. I would just continue to get her to earn pocket money and leave a job for when she's older.

JollyPinkFox · 03/11/2024 15:22

13? Fucking hell

StormingNorman · 03/11/2024 15:22

Definitely not too young. Send her up the chimneys.

MartinCrieffsLemon · 03/11/2024 15:22

Finding work for a 13 year old won't be easy. Finding work at 16 is hard enough now with rules and regs and Health and Safety...

sesquipedalian · 03/11/2024 15:20

At thirteen, you could offer jobs around the house to earn extra pocket money - I think the youngest you can work is 14. (And yes, I think at just 13, she’s too young.). From sixteen, though, she could get a Saturday job.

user1471556818 · 03/11/2024 15:20

Really hard nowadays to get a job at 13 yrs .Maybe a paper round but will she get herself up and out house every morning without impacting on rest of household. I'm older so had some very dodgy jobs from age 12 onwards. Worked thereafter and a lot of hrs at times .I remember work permits came in with new rules and I had have hrs reduced and finish earlier .Has it done me harm probably not but I didn't want my dc to do it .One childhood and its quick