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Fed up of children running around screaming

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Notyouthful · 03/11/2024 14:10

These children are about 8-13 years old. Some are siblings. They are running in the middle of the cul de sac.

What age should children stop screaming iyho?

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Babbahabba · 05/11/2024 17:58

Kids playing loud is fine. Absolutely no need for screaming. Never tolerated it in either of mine.

Marblesbackagain · 05/11/2024 15:33

Hunglikeapolevaulter · 05/11/2024 11:59

Better than sat indoors on screens.

Better for who? Not the poor neighbours who have to listen to it.

Not strangers! It isn't socially acceptable.

If children are misbehaving and no parent is in sight then of course it's okay to tell them to stop it.

No it is not and you really are naive to think parents won't react strongly to any adults approaching their unaccompanied children.

The children would likely scream more, stranger danger and trigger the 7million potential predator approached my child post with your image attached. Good luck

ruethewhirl · 05/11/2024 12:01

mathanxiety · 04/11/2024 17:45

They should be seen but not heard, eh?

I don't even understand why you wasted keystrokes on this when precisely no one has suggested anything even approximating 'seen and not heard'. It's such a tired old trope and it gets wheeled out on every single thread about unnecessary screaming from children.

Presumably you don't seriously see this as a binary thing, i.e. kids allowed to scream as much as they want/kids have to be seen and not heard?

Hunglikeapolevaulter · 05/11/2024 11:59

Better than sat indoors on screens.

Better for who? Not the poor neighbours who have to listen to it.

Not strangers! It isn't socially acceptable.

If children are misbehaving and no parent is in sight then of course it's okay to tell them to stop it.

herecomesautumn · 05/11/2024 11:44

mathanxiety · 04/11/2024 17:45

They should be seen but not heard, eh?

I don't mind them being heard. Just not heard from the next street

ruethewhirl · 04/11/2024 19:09

Always easy to tell on threads like this who the people are that were/are happy to let their kids scream their heads off in public. Or unable to control them. Or both.

mathanxiety · 04/11/2024 17:45

They should be seen but not heard, eh?

Marblesbackagain · 04/11/2024 17:18

ruethewhirl · 04/11/2024 17:11

If their parents can't be arsed teaching them to behave, who's going to?

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Not strangers! It isn't socially acceptable.

ruethewhirl · 04/11/2024 17:11

Marblesbackagain · 03/11/2024 16:08

The reality is you do not tell others children what they can or can not do.

So if you aren't in control of the situation you can control your reaction. So I would advise ignore. What exactly do you see a positive outcome if you get involved?

If their parents can't be arsed teaching them to behave, who's going to?

Sharptonguedwoman · 04/11/2024 07:53

Overthebow · 03/11/2024 14:18

Surely it’s nice they’re outside in playing together instead of being stuck in front of the tv?

Playing doesn't need to involve screaming. We seem to tolerate it now. Not sure why.

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Notyouthful · 04/11/2024 06:38

Flatandhappy · 04/11/2024 04:13

Screaming kids are incredibly annoying and yes, result in a “boy who cried wolf” situation. A friend’s DD was the most annoying child I ever met and at 11/12 would regularly scream while playing as if she was being attacked, the first few times I heard her I went running. Unsurprisingly the day she fell in the garden and broke her wrist nobody (including her mother) went to her for ages.

The boy who cried wolf analogy there.

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Notyouthful · 04/11/2024 06:37

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Some toddlers go through a phase where they discover their voice and decide to do high pitch squeals. This is the time for their parents to say don't do this. Nip it in the bud as they say.

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Flatandhappy · 04/11/2024 04:13

Screaming kids are incredibly annoying and yes, result in a “boy who cried wolf” situation. A friend’s DD was the most annoying child I ever met and at 11/12 would regularly scream while playing as if she was being attacked, the first few times I heard her I went running. Unsurprisingly the day she fell in the garden and broke her wrist nobody (including her mother) went to her for ages.

J1Dub · 04/11/2024 01:55

I notice the screaming on warm days. It sounds like crabs being boiled. It goes on for hours. It wasn't like that years ago.

mm81736 · 04/11/2024 00:53

MrsTerryPratchett · 03/11/2024 14:25

Better than sat indoors on screens.

Why should the op care about someone else's kids' screen time, she just wants then to,stfu

Meadowfinch · 04/11/2024 00:30

Overthebow · 03/11/2024 14:18

Surely it’s nice they’re outside in playing together instead of being stuck in front of the tv?

This.

It's the weekend of Hallowe'en and fireworks night. The last weekend of half term. And they've been stuck inside because it's rained for weeks.

Aren't you being a bit joyless? They'll be back at school tomorrow.

ASimpleLampoon · 04/11/2024 00:27

I at times have to remind my DD and some of her friends not to do this. They play in a park right by my house so I can hear. If I hear screaming I go out and tell them if they scream like that someone will think someone is being hurt and call the police or if something bad happens no one will come as they will be used to your screaming. I tell them to have consideration for the neighbours. Unfortunately the parents of the two children who are the main culprits do not back me up and think it's just kids being kids and I'm being fussy. DD and 3 others are quieter but do copy at times.

Ariela · 03/11/2024 23:36

Outside is fine...in Tescos, less fine. Particularly when they ignore the ineffectual attempts of their parent telling them to be quiet and stop running about.

I don't know why mine would shut up and fall in line with just A Look , but generally they did. Maybe in the hope I'd say at checkout 'Well done, you behaved well enough for me to want to treat you to milk shakes at the drive-through on the way home'

MeowCatPleaseMeowBack · 03/11/2024 22:10

MrsTerryPratchett · 03/11/2024 18:32

If you (and MrsTerryPratchett) think those are the only two options, you shouldn't be parents.

@MeowCatPleaseMeowBack that's a shitty personal attack. And my child wasn't a screamer. I just don't care if some kids are. It is better than them being indoors and we should all be a lot more tolerant of children being children. There's massively too much of them being mini-adults as it is.

Actually I wasn't calling out your parenting but your silly post. You're not stupid and I'm quite sure you know that stopping children screeching doesn't mean they have to sit in front of a screen.

Errors · 03/11/2024 20:06

Crispynoodle · 03/11/2024 15:57

I was at soft play yesterday (😱) a minority of children were running around squealing loudly it was awful why don't parents stop this behaviour

Oh god I hate this too! Have no problem with the usual noise of kids playing in a soft play, obviously. No issue at all. But the little brats that stand there literally screaming over and over again at the top of their lungs with a huge smile on their faces drive me insane. Fills me with rage. My son hates it too, he tends to give them a filthy little side eye

curtaintwitcher78 · 03/11/2024 20:00

GivingitToGod · 03/11/2024 19:59

Are they actually screaming OP? Or just playing loudly and being happy?
Let them enjoy their outside space and playtime with friends and family

OP has made it clear she knows the difference.

GivingitToGod · 03/11/2024 19:59

Are they actually screaming OP? Or just playing loudly and being happy?
Let them enjoy their outside space and playtime with friends and family

daffodilandtulip · 03/11/2024 19:58

They shouldn't be screaming at all OP. But they will. And the parents won't tell them to stop in case it hurts their feelings.

daffodilandtulip · 03/11/2024 19:57

PinkiOcelot · 03/11/2024 14:24

I’d rather have that than the fucking barking dog that I have to listen to all day every day.

I get both 😭

EalingLucy · 03/11/2024 19:48

DanielaDressen · 03/11/2024 19:35

I think the th8ng about raising kids to potentially be “twats” by letting them behave how they want when younger is broadly true.

I don’t think it’s a bad thing to bring kids up to be considerate of others. “You’re not the only pebble on the beach” as my mother used to say.

I certainly used to tell Dd when she was younger that other people are about and don’t want to hear shrieking/shouting. Even in our own back garden. As a young adult now she’s thoughtful and thinks of others. And as a university lecturer sadly i don’t see those qualities in quite a few of my students, they will talk through lectures, not thinking of others trying to concentrate, etc. Maybe a bit more discipline when younger might have benefited them!

As an aside I’d never live in a cul de sac because of the risk of noisy kids, football, etc.

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100%. Pretty sure there would be a correlation between children who grew up with no boundaries and criminality. On the other hand, too heavy a hand with discipline is damaging too. It’s just about helping your children learn respect.