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To think it’s more important to be respected than to be liked?

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ThatCosyGoldCat · 03/11/2024 13:49

I’ve been thinking a lot about how people navigate friendships, family dynamics, and even work relationships. Some people focus on being liked, while others prioritise being respected, even if it means not everyone likes them. Personally, I’m leaning towards respect being the more important of the two, but I wonder if that’s really true or if it’s just a way to feel better about not always being liked.

Do you think respect matters more than being liked, or do they go hand in hand?

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mossylog · 03/11/2024 13:52

You might enjoy reading Machiavelli's The Prince, as he also concluded it was better for a leader to be feared than loved.

But to your point: while you can respect someone you don't like, I think it's hard to like someone if you don't respect them.

TTPDTS · 03/11/2024 13:52

It probably depends on the situation, personally
I think they're equally important.

Hillrunning · 03/11/2024 13:51

I can't think of anyone that I respect but don't like. What would that look like?

TwigletsAndRadishes · 03/11/2024 13:50

I think so, yes. But it took me at least 40 of my 50 odd years to realise it.