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To ask a man to move at parkrun

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brownbear201 · 02/11/2024 23:45

I am curious as to what you all think of this incident I had whilst running a parkrun this morning. The parkrun I was running was quite a narrow parkrun- it’s an out and back and you run down a track. The track itself is not very wide and faster runners come back towards slower runners on the return if that makes sense. As I was running earlier I was behind a man running with a dog. He was young-ish probably in his early twenties. He wasn’t going super slowly or anything but I wanted to go faster and overtake. However, there were faster runners coming towards me. As he had a dog I couldn’t get past him, if he hadn’t had a dog I would have been able to squeeze past. To be fair he had the dog on a very short fixed lead and was as far left as he could get but because the dog was running at his side I couldn’t get past. I said to him as I was coming up from behind him “Can you move your dog over please?” And he replied “Can you be patient like everyone else?” I ignored him saying this and I was eventually able to overtake him and I heard him muttering about impatient people and just ignored him. A short while later I pulled over to the side to catch my breath- I was out of the way whilst I did this as past the narrow section. He then ran past me again and said “You’ve gotten far considering you were so desperate to get past” I didn’t say anything back to him. Was I right to just ignore him? He wasn’t big or intimidating looking by any means and he didn’t shout but it was the way he looked at me that left me a bit unsettled. AIBU? Was I wrong to ask him to move?

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MrsTerryPratchett · 03/11/2024 00:44

setmestraightplease · 03/11/2024 00:35

@MrsTerryPratchett Hence me helpfully saying she needs to sort her pacing

helpfully saying 😂😂

Yes. Walk-run helps build running, prevent injury, improve times, maintain fitness and all sorts of lovely things. Sprinting then stopping will make you feel terrible, doesn't do anything for your time, and honestly, probably means you won't become a consistent runner.

I am the world's slowest, shittest runner. But I don't <touches wood> get injured. Even though I'm old and was fat. And the reason is that I run slowly, then walk, then run slowly. I can run (slowly) a 10k pretty much tomorrow without walking if I had to. You feel much worse if you stop during runs. If you walk between running portions, you don't.

But the OP can learn the hard way. I'll helpfully shut up now Grin

EdithBond · 03/11/2024 00:40

It’s fine to ask someone politely to move, so you can get past. Though I think I’d have waited for a gap rather than expect him to get his dog to move. Could come across as a little demanding.

How did he look at you? Pissed off or more threatening?

setmestraightplease · 03/11/2024 00:35

@MrsTerryPratchett Hence me helpfully saying she needs to sort her pacing

helpfully saying 😂😂

jen337 · 03/11/2024 00:35

This is what I’m talking about. Pacing? It’s running around a park not the diamond league. Equally if someone’s on a go slow with a dog, just slow down till you can get past, even if it adds a few seconds to your “time”. PSA no one cares about your “time”. Why do people even care what anyone else is doing?

ProvincialLady24 · 03/11/2024 00:34

And FYI - I have a dog. I'd never bring my dog to Park Run.

setmestraightplease · 03/11/2024 00:33

@LameBorzoi She is if she is stopped on the path to catch her breath!
I agree ....... but was she stopped on the path or to the side??

Also, unless the dog is huge it really doesn't make much difference with the overtaking
a dog running alongside a runner obviously takes up more room on the path than just a solo runner

ProvincialLady24 · 03/11/2024 00:32

I know nothing about running.

However, I always assumed that the whole point of Park Run was to track/beat your time.

If I am correct then I'd be really pissed off to have my timings compromised by a dog.

Fishpieandchips · 03/11/2024 00:30

Love parkrun, love dogs but really don't like dogs at parkrun tbh
Not the point of the thread but understand your issue op.

MrsTerryPratchett · 03/11/2024 00:27

setmestraightplease · 03/11/2024 00:21

@MrsTerryPratchett Because she ran past others then had to stop (not walk intervals - stop) to catch her breath. She'd be much better off doing a slower pace, or walk-run, rather than sprinting then stopping.

But she's not holding anyone else up or delaying other runners.

Parkruns are also about learning about what you can do / what you want to do /what you need to learn to do

Hence me helpfully saying she needs to sort her pacing. I'm not saying she's a cow, but her pacing needs work. Sprinting then stopping is the worst of both worlds.

OP just have a look at couch to 5k or 10k.

Jingleballs2 · 03/11/2024 00:25

setmestraightplease · 03/11/2024 00:13

@Jingleballs2 I mean, when you stopped you were probably causing an obstruction as well.

How exactly would OP have been causing an obstruction??

Because she's stopped still on an obviously narrow path 🤷‍♀️

jen337 · 03/11/2024 00:24

I’ve had and seen a couple of similar interactions on park runs. For something which is supposed to be a fun activity to get people into running there always seems to be someone doing something someone else doesn’t like and a weird trying-to-appear-nonchalant-but-at-the-same-time-try-hard-competitive vibe. I guess that’s just what people are like these days, or maybe what some runners are like in general.

LameBorzoi · 03/11/2024 00:23

setmestraightplease · 03/11/2024 00:21

@MrsTerryPratchett Because she ran past others then had to stop (not walk intervals - stop) to catch her breath. She'd be much better off doing a slower pace, or walk-run, rather than sprinting then stopping.

But she's not holding anyone else up or delaying other runners.

Parkruns are also about learning about what you can do / what you want to do /what you need to learn to do

She is if she is stopped on the path to catch her breath!

Also, unless the dog is huge it really doesn't make much difference with the overtaking

MartinCrieffsLemon · 03/11/2024 00:22

setmestraightplease · 03/11/2024 00:09

@MartinCrieffsLemon However, there were faster runners coming towards me.

OP says
if he hadn’t had a dog I would have been able to squeeze past.

And PP said
So the reason you couldn’t get past him wasn’t just the dog

Which is correct. It wasn't just the dog. It was the runners coming back towards them.

setmestraightplease · 03/11/2024 00:21

@MrsTerryPratchett Because she ran past others then had to stop (not walk intervals - stop) to catch her breath. She'd be much better off doing a slower pace, or walk-run, rather than sprinting then stopping.

But she's not holding anyone else up or delaying other runners.

Parkruns are also about learning about what you can do / what you want to do /what you need to learn to do

MrsTerryPratchett · 03/11/2024 00:17

setmestraightplease · 03/11/2024 00:15

@MrsTerryPratchett He was a bit of a tit but your pacing is alllllll wrong.

Why??

Is parkrun not about runners running at their own comfortable personal pace as opposed to racing against all the other participants??

Because she ran past others then had to stop (not walk intervals - stop) to catch her breath. She'd be much better off doing a slower pace, or walk-run, rather than sprinting then stopping.

setmestraightplease · 03/11/2024 00:15

@MrsTerryPratchett He was a bit of a tit but your pacing is alllllll wrong.

Why??

Is parkrun not about runners running at their own comfortable personal pace as opposed to racing against all the other participants??

setmestraightplease · 03/11/2024 00:13

@Jingleballs2 I mean, when you stopped you were probably causing an obstruction as well.

How exactly would OP have been causing an obstruction??

MrsTerryPratchett · 03/11/2024 00:12

He was a bit of a tit but your pacing is alllllll wrong.

setmestraightplease · 03/11/2024 00:09

@MartinCrieffsLemon However, there were faster runners coming towards me.

OP says
if he hadn’t had a dog I would have been able to squeeze past.

MaggieBsBoat · 03/11/2024 00:08

You need to sort out your pacing.
If you needed to get past him but still had to stop to catch breath then that’s a pacing problem. Probably work on this rather than worry about his passive aggressive comment (which I would’ve been thinking also).

Jingleballs2 · 03/11/2024 00:07

I mean, when you stopped you were probably causing an obstruction as well. He was as far over as he could be, you were being unreasonable

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 03/11/2024 00:06

@brownbear201 so you are running in a park and he is also running in a park, albeit with his dog? yet apparently, park runners have all the rights to the park and you feel you have the right to bark at him? what would you have done if his dog had barked back at you?? even general members of the public get pissed off at parkrunners taking over the parks!!!

MartinCrieffsLemon · 03/11/2024 00:05

setmestraightplease · 03/11/2024 00:04

@HeddaGarbled So the reason you couldn’t get past him wasn’t just the dog but the faster runners coming towards you?

Perhaps read OP?

@brownbear201 As he had a dog I couldn’t get past him, if he hadn’t had a dog I would have been able to squeeze past.

And also in the OP
However, there were faster runners coming towards me.

setmestraightplease · 03/11/2024 00:04

@HeddaGarbled So the reason you couldn’t get past him wasn’t just the dog but the faster runners coming towards you?

Perhaps read OP?

@brownbear201 As he had a dog I couldn’t get past him, if he hadn’t had a dog I would have been able to squeeze past.

TheSmallAssassin · 03/11/2024 00:03

I think it was OK for you to ask and it would have been OK for him to say no. But he was a dick for being passive aggressive when you asked and making a snide remark when he passed you.