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Imbluedalale · 2024-11-02T21:41:55+00:00

Hi it’s Laura , Just wanted to add a new thread as I think my other thread is getting full xx

nornironlady · 15/11/2024 18:44

@Imbluedalale please don't worry about being honest with the school. It will be in confidence and they will keep an extra eye on your son. In my experience the more open I have been has led to a really great relationship with the head and vp. They might even be able to signpost you to other services.

Meanwhile33 · 15/11/2024 18:44

Imbluedalale · 15/11/2024 16:24

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣I wonder if they’ll gift me a free bottle for upping their sales?xx

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They really should!

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Imbluedalale · 15/11/2024 18:42

nornironlady · 15/11/2024 18:40

@AdmittowearingCrocs is right. Take the high road and use the time to get his room ready. Your ex will run out of tactics and he can't stop your kids loving you. It doesn't change your plans. Keep focusing on the fact you will all be together soon xx

Thanks @nornironlady , your all right I’ll use this time to make sure his room is lovely and cozy and not let ex or his family know it’s got to me xx

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nornironlady · 15/11/2024 18:40

@AdmittowearingCrocs is right. Take the high road and use the time to get his room ready. Your ex will run out of tactics and he can't stop your kids loving you. It doesn't change your plans. Keep focusing on the fact you will all be together soon xx

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Imbluedalale · 15/11/2024 18:39

spoonfulofmustard · 15/11/2024 18:35

im not the best to advise on how much to tell the safeguarding lead, a much wiser spoonie will be abke to help you that (im a terribke oversharer nowadays, oops) but i agree with @Apolloneuro you need to contact them

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Ok thank you @spoonfulofmustard , I actually don’t want to tell them anything because I don’t want everybody I know about the DV etc but I realise I’ll probably have to especially because he seems to be shouting it from the worktops that it was the other way around xx

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Imbluedalale · 15/11/2024 18:37

AdmittowearingCrocs · 15/11/2024 18:28

⬆️ This ⬆️ @Apolloneuro is right, it’s just because he has lost control. He thought making you homeless would keep you down but he didn’t bank on the Spoonies lifting you up and supporting you so it didn’t work . Now you are in a great position ready to move into a better property than he has he wants to find other ways to control the situation. But you don’t have to grant him that control over you. Just tell your son it will give you a chance to get his room sorted and let the ex think you are chill about it. Don’t let him know he has got to you. This is a case of of playing the long game. You’ve got this Laura 🤗

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Thank you @AdmittowearingCrocs , I’m ok I’m going to try and stay strong . Thank you all for being there for me , I appreciate it so much.
He knows exactly what’s he’s doing though because youngest actually wants to do 50/50 so he’s trying to take that away from me by making it into an exciting adventure for youngest . He’s just going to keep doing things like this but at least I do have some strength now to not let him break me again . Your right I do need to play the long game xx

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spoonfulofmustard · 15/11/2024 18:35

im not the best to advise on how much to tell the safeguarding lead, a much wiser spoonie will be abke to help you that (im a terribke oversharer nowadays, oops) but i agree with @Apolloneuro you need to contact them

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Imbluedalale · 15/11/2024 18:32

spoonfulofmustard · 15/11/2024 18:27

stay strong laura, the others are right that he is looking for new ways to control now he realises hes lost his grip on you. you've got all us here for you to vent at and to hold you up xx

I will thank you @spoonfulofmustard , I’ve told my son I hope he has a nice time and I can’t wait to see him when he gets back then I put phone down and had a good cry.
Do you think I should tell the school everything on Monday when I speak to them?xx

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Imbluedalale · 15/11/2024 18:29

nornironlady · 15/11/2024 18:15

@Imbluedalale yes I'm in total agreement with others. He is using the youngest as he wouldn't be able to do the same with the older 2. I also struggle to see school granting this. Explain your circumstances and I'm sure they will offer support. Don't let this news derail you xx

Thank you @nornironlady , I know he’s using the youngest , he’s paying him to go for gods sake! My youngest said ‘dad told me to let you know at teatime’ because he knows I can’t contact the school over the weekend. What an evil horrible twat he is to do that on day I get keys xx

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AdmittowearingCrocs · 15/11/2024 18:28

Apolloneuro · 15/11/2024 18:01

He’s going to try all these games because he realises he’s lost control.

It will be ok in the end. Stay calm and strong xx

⬆️ This ⬆️ @Apolloneuro is right, it’s just because he has lost control. He thought making you homeless would keep you down but he didn’t bank on the Spoonies lifting you up and supporting you so it didn’t work . Now you are in a great position ready to move into a better property than he has he wants to find other ways to control the situation. But you don’t have to grant him that control over you. Just tell your son it will give you a chance to get his room sorted and let the ex think you are chill about it. Don’t let him know he has got to you. This is a case of of playing the long game. You’ve got this Laura 🤗

spoonfulofmustard · 15/11/2024 18:27

stay strong laura, the others are right that he is looking for new ways to control now he realises hes lost his grip on you. you've got all us here for you to vent at and to hold you up xx

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Imbluedalale · 15/11/2024 18:26

Apolloneuro · 15/11/2024 18:01

He’s going to try all these games because he realises he’s lost control.

It will be ok in the end. Stay calm and strong xx

I agree I don’t believe they would have authorised that unless he’s lied to them about me and said I’m a danger or something and he’s doing it for son’s safety . I don’t know until Monday , maybe they might not even speak to me now if he’s told them lies.
I’m so strict on absences from school my ex wasn’t bothered about it but I was so he knows him having 2 weeks off school is going to upset me xx

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Imbluedalale · 15/11/2024 18:24

Munchyseeds2 · 15/11/2024 17:58

@Imbluedalale I know it's really hard but try not to stress too much
A dick will always be a dick and your right...he will do everything he can to make your life difficult and cause you upset, he knows that the easiest way to do this is by using the kids
Call the school on Monday and go from there

The only way to sort this is probably going to be by going to court, when the time is right, you are settled and strong

He will not win this, you just have to play the game lovely xxx

Thank you @Munchyseeds2 , I realise I should have rang the school when he kicked me out but my head was all over the place .
Im going to try and not stress about it , I’m upset more than anything but until Monday there’s nothing I can do until I’ve spoken to the school. He’s probably told the school a load of lies especially about me . I’m upset at the thought of him telling them that I am the violent one , what must they think of me now?
He’s giving my son £40 day for being there!So my son thinks great, little time off school and getting paid for it.
I think I’m going to have to seek legal advice about it all.
Im that upset by it I could honestly ring ex and ask what he’s playing at but I won’t , I made a promise to myself day I left that he’ll never see me upset again and I’m going to stand by that but honestly what a nasty horrible twat xx

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nornironlady · 15/11/2024 18:15

@Imbluedalale yes I'm in total agreement with others. He is using the youngest as he wouldn't be able to do the same with the older 2. I also struggle to see school granting this. Explain your circumstances and I'm sure they will offer support. Don't let this news derail you xx

Apolloneuro · 15/11/2024 18:01

He’s going to try all these games because he realises he’s lost control.

It will be ok in the end. Stay calm and strong xx

Apolloneuro · 15/11/2024 17:59

Laura, I’d put money on them NOT authorising two weeks absence.

Munchyseeds2 · 15/11/2024 17:58

@Imbluedalale I know it's really hard but try not to stress too much
A dick will always be a dick and your right...he will do everything he can to make your life difficult and cause you upset, he knows that the easiest way to do this is by using the kids
Call the school on Monday and go from there

The only way to sort this is probably going to be by going to court, when the time is right, you are settled and strong

He will not win this, you just have to play the game lovely xxx

nornironlady · 15/11/2024 17:41

@Imbluedalale your username also gives me an earworm 😅 as you know it was Chinese on the menu here tonight and I'm stuffed. Having a cup of tea and putting my feet up. I can't believe it's just the weekend to go for you now! X

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Imbluedalale · 15/11/2024 17:39

Apolloneuro · 15/11/2024 17:28

On Monday morning phone the school and speak to the safeguarding person.

What a dick. Don’t worry Laura, stay calm. You’ve won and each time he tries a stunt like this he shows the world what a twat he is.

I’m going to call the school on Monday , I’ve just spoke to my youngest on the phone and apparently ex had a meeting in the school last week before he went Liverpool and they have authorised for him to go for 2 weeks which I find very hard to believe . I knew he’d try and stop me seeing youngest but I didn’t realise he’d stoop so low to do it on move in day. By the time my son gets back it would have been 9 weeks since I’ve seen him. I wonder what lies he’s fed the school . I’m upset more than anything because it means me not seeing him for even longer . Son is excited to go and have time off school . I’m so upset he’s done this xx

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Apolloneuro · 15/11/2024 17:28

On Monday morning phone the school and speak to the safeguarding person.

What a dick. Don’t worry Laura, stay calm. You’ve won and each time he tries a stunt like this he shows the world what a twat he is.

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Imbluedalale · 15/11/2024 17:24

Munchyseeds2 · 15/11/2024 17:08

@Imbluedalale I roasted the squash today, I'll make the soup tomorrow and if its good I'll post the recipe
To be fair I usually just make it up 😂
It's definitely getting colder outside.

Sounds like a good deal on the Internet to me
We haven't got Disney but I think there's a lot more on there than just Disney stuff so you should be good

Hope Stompy Pete is quiet tonight xx

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It sounds like it will be delicious, I can’t wait to hear what it turns out like.
It’s freezing here today , definitely soup weather 😂.Ive made vegetable soup before , Tesco do a pre packed bag of soup vegetable’s which work out cheaper than buying the vegetables individually so I use that. I think I might use Ocado to get my food shop delivered though as they price match Tesco’s. Stompy Pete isn’t back yet but I’m sure he will be soon.
Ex has done it again putting obstacles in my way. He’s done this because I’ve got a house Monday. Basically he works in Liverpool for the winter every year and has an apartment. Youngest has just told me he’s going there on Monday to to stay with him for 2 weeks. I asked youngest what about school and he said dad will sort it. I’m raging I don’t want him to have all that time off school plus I wanted him to come and see the house and his bedroom. Why does he keep doing this? Isn’t him making me homeless and being without my children enough for him. Also I will get fined by the school for attendance and son will miss a lot of school work xx

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Imbluedalale · 15/11/2024 17:15

Apolloneuro · 15/11/2024 17:07

Here you go

Dear Ms MP

Thank you for your support with my housing situation. It is much appreciated.

However, a much more serious situation has arisen. It has been brought to my attention that all branches of Marks and Spencers has had a surge in sales of the perfume ‘Black Tulip’.

It is irrefutably the case that my promotion of this perfume on the social media site ‘Mumsnet’ is solely responsible for this uptake in sales.

Therefore, I am sure you would agree that I should have an expectation of being suitably remunerated. A lifetime supply of the perfume would be acceptable.

You will share my disappointment that Marks and Spencers has not reached out to me with such an offer and I am hopeful of your kind intervention, once more.

Yours sincerely

Ms Laura Spoon.

Omg I’m absolutely howling 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
That is absolutely brilliant!xx

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Munchyseeds2 · 15/11/2024 17:08

Imbluedalale · 15/11/2024 16:39

Hi @Munchyseeds2 , How’s your Friday going?
I didn’t get on great with the sleeping tablets tbh I hated the feeling they gave me, everything was wavy even my pillows and it took me ages to get to sleep and when I woke up I felt really drowsy and I’ve felt it all day . Like I’m here but not with it so I’m not going to take them tonight .
Ohhh that soup sounds like it’ll be amazing , I’ve never actually made squash soup before. Would you mind one day giving me the recipe on how to do it please @Munchyseeds2 ?xx

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@Imbluedalale I roasted the squash today, I'll make the soup tomorrow and if its good I'll post the recipe
To be fair I usually just make it up 😂
It's definitely getting colder outside.

Sounds like a good deal on the Internet to me
We haven't got Disney but I think there's a lot more on there than just Disney stuff so you should be good

Hope Stompy Pete is quiet tonight xx

Apolloneuro · 15/11/2024 17:07

Here you go

Dear Ms MP

Thank you for your support with my housing situation. It is much appreciated.

However, a much more serious situation has arisen. It has been brought to my attention that all branches of Marks and Spencers has had a surge in sales of the perfume ‘Black Tulip’.

It is irrefutably the case that my promotion of this perfume on the social media site ‘Mumsnet’ is solely responsible for this uptake in sales.

Therefore, I am sure you would agree that I should have an expectation of being suitably remunerated. A lifetime supply of the perfume would be acceptable.

You will share my disappointment that Marks and Spencers has not reached out to me with such an offer and I am hopeful of your kind intervention, once more.

Yours sincerely

Ms Laura Spoon.

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Imbluedalale · 15/11/2024 17:00

Apolloneuro · 15/11/2024 16:59

Am on it 😂

gorgeous cardigan, @RaspberryBeretxx lovely colour. I think it will be really soft and snuggly.

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Thank you 😂😂😂😂😂.
It’s a gorgeous cardigan isn’t it , will look great with white top underneath and jeans or trousers xx

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