Need a hand hold part 2

There is a guy who does an alternative JL ad on utube for charity
This year's features an old man and a Robin I think. Have a look, I thought it was really good
Prahaps we should contact him??

@Imbluedalale what the TWAT did to you and your dad to your mum before that makes me SO sad
My admiration for how strong you are is massive, a few weeks ago you would have been on the floor in bits but look at you now, playing the long game to get what you and the kids need, you are AMAZING (I may have said that just a few times before)

When you are settled you must get the help and therapy you need so you can look in the mirror with your head held high and live your life freely....I can't wait for that ❤

I hope everyone has a lovely, restful day doing whatever you love.

I'm off to find more 📌 xx

Morning spoonies!
We haven’t got long until moving in day for @Imbluedalale
I think the story of Laura and the spoons should be next year’s John Lewis advert, with us as the moving in crew.
Now just need to think what song to use. Labi Siffre would be hard to beat though?

Good morning Spoonies 😁 @Imbluedalale I hope you feel a bit better about things today. The Spoonies really stood up out of their drawers 😂 Great support everyone. I'm trying to get myself ready to hit sainsburys before the Saturday madness starts. Hope you are all having a lovely weekend whatever you are up to x

Excellent choice of song @TheFoz

Big wave to @TealPoet , great to have you back again

You’re welcome @Imbluedalale . You really have made progress and that strength and determination shines through e.g. “on Monday I will fight for my son’s education and his future” That’s the spirit!

Also I realised I jumped into solution and forgot the sympathy I meant to express too for the awful way your ex is treating you, and all those experiences growing up. Your book will be an inspiring one for sure!

I’m still juggling quite a lot at home/work but am following thread daily even if I don’t post. If you need anything urgently please PM me.

You and the spoonies make me laugh daily. @AdmittowearingCrocs @RaspberryBeretxx @Apolloneuro @ChoccieCornflake @PeggyMitchellsCameo @Munchyseeds2 , all the other regulars and the new additions to the crew - you all rock! Loved the picture too @Playgroundincident

Hi @Imbluedalale I’ve had a nice evening thanks, did a yoga class and then watched the beginning of the new season of Cobra Kai on Netflix with a takeaway. It’s very silly but one of the few things DH, DS & I can agree on watching.

That’s so sad what your ex did to you. I’m so sorry. You didn’t deserve any of it and it wasn’t your fault. I’m going to bed now, I hope you sleep well. xx

Laura, you and every single person here that has put faith in you and given you a lift up are to be hugely commended. But at the end of the day, you are the one that has shown such resilience. Your children are lucky to have a mum like you who has such courage and determination. Remember, the cream always rises to the top ❤️

I thought of this song earlier reading this thread, it’s a favourite of mine and it reminded me of you…

Laura your strength is shining through as you prepare to do battle for your son. What a difference to how you were feeling following you leaving the crisis house and you should be so very proud of yourself. We are all here to support you.
@Ruralretreating your email is spot on, thank you for writing it and empowering Laura 🌸
@Apolloneuro your email made me spit my tea out 🤣
Loving all the ways everyone is suggesting to make your ex suffer, I applaud them all 😂😂😂

It's been quite a good day for me. I was able to get out of bed today and do an hour of crafting. I like making cards mostly, although I do crochet too.

@Munchyseeds2 My husband made us a squash soup for dinner tonight too. He didn't roast it first but added some red lentils and a sweet potato to it.

@Imbluedalale I would be incredibly surprised if school had authorised an two week absence. If anything schools are cracking down on it and I have heard of people who have legitimately needed time for funerals, who have been refused that amount of time.

School isn't just going to take his word over yours. You've got plenty of evidence on your side and professionals who could back you up, if needed. From their point of view, he's doing the wrong thing by taking them out of school. He's doing it to try to get a reaction from you, so stay strong and be smart. If it ever ends up in court, you will be the one who has been showing that you are putting your kids needs first and that will count volumes to the judge.

I agree with the advice that you should email now, so it shows you were quick to respond and let the school know you didn't agree with the decision and they don't have the full (accurate) truth. You can then get a meeting with them to explain your concerns. It's really awful how some kids are taken out of school and given no home education. I'm not against home education where it's done correctly. It was something we researched and were thinking of doing ourselves before I became disabled.

What an idiot that man is. My god. I expect the school will be very happy to hear from you, well done @Imbluedalale for ignoring him and dealing with it directly with the school. He’s expecting you to get upset and suffer, when actually he’s just handed you the perfect opportunity to calmly make it clear to the school that he’s not trustworthy and that you’re the parent your kids can rely on, and to update them on the transport arrangements and your new address. And great work on the email @Ruralretreating !

I’ve also just caught up on earlier posts and Laura I’m so sorry for what you and your mum and siblings went through when you were very little. It makes her strange reactions to your situation earlier a little bit easier to understand, and its also reassuring that she might be able to be a good support to you in future and she might be someone you can have a healthy relationship with. I had been worried that there must have been something terrible that had happened in your background that made you accept your ex’s awful treatment of you at the beginning, and I was worried that meant your mum and dad were not good people.

It also makes it even more impressive how loving you are to your kids and what a great mum you are. The fact that they don’t realise what a big deal your new house is, is because you did a really good job of protecting them from knowing the worst of what you went through in these weeks, and you did that for their sakes even though you were so distraught. Even in the depths of despair you were so much stronger than you ever realised. (Even strong enough to accurately throw an egg at horrible drunk old grandad to protect your mum, as a scared little girl!!! That’s very bloody impressive.)

I hope it’s not weird to say, I’m so proud of you.

Your wish is my command! I have a particularly grimy gnarly wooden spoon that has a massive crack (and thus produces splinters) that I'm sure would be up for a bit of whacking! I'm pretty sure it's been down the back of the cupboard too (it's the kind of spoon that can't be contained by cutlery drawers and goes wandering!) so who knows what's all over it!

Hello - I'm sorry I've been absent from this thread, and oh my word your ex is an absolute and colossal WANKBADGER!!! I would have wished his next shit be a hedgehog, but I see you are ahead of me in wishing that - well done! I am at a loss for words at what a twat he is, but make sure you remind yourself of this - he has chosen the wrong person to pick on, because you are far stronger than little puny him! God knows what he's said to the school, but they will have seen it all before, and you not only have all the evidence to back up what you've been through, but you are also so very clearly genuine. Try not to let this put a dampener on the weekend - you'll have your house very soon, and your son will love it whether he sees it the day you move in or later on. You could always video your first walk round of it to show your son later on, if you think he'd like that.

I hope your ex gets a horrible case of piles, and that all the hair on his head falls off but the hair on his arse grows massively and gives him ingrown hairs in delicate areas - many of them all at once!!

@Imbluedalale No way on earth has this been authorised by the school
keep on keeping on lovely xx

@Ruralretreating that email is perfect

@Apolloneuro I think we are all 🧙‍♀️ at heart....I may be sticking pins in a stick man as we speak!!