Need a hand hold part 2

Imbluedalale · 2024-11-02T21:41:55+00:00

Hi it’s Laura , Just wanted to add a new thread as I think my other thread is getting full xx

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Imbluedalale · 16/11/2024 20:25

New thread spoonies….

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5211232-need-a-hand-hold-part-3

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Imbluedalale · 16/11/2024 20:24

RaspberryBeretxx · 16/11/2024 20:11

You sound so amazingly strong Laura. Playing the long game with ex. I bet he thought his little scheme would flush you out and make you contact him but no! He’s just nothing, bitterly bothing. Turn it to your favour that he’s doing things actively against your son’s interests that you can use and use the extra time to make your lovely house extra nice for him ❤️. By that point surely he’ll be totally fed up of being with your ex with no friends or school or interesting stuff to do anyway!

@Apolloneuro 🤣🤣 at your extra 4 year old DGD, she sounds amazing! Love that she thinks she’s Beyoncé 😆. My nearly 4 yo is a bit extra at the moment. DP: “DD is it bedtime?” Dd: “daddy, I’m just drawing! You don’t need to worry about me!”.

That thread people mentioned sounds so hard. The things abuse does to people 😔. I would bet the punch isn’t the first sign but they go gradually, applying control bit by bit.

Big wave to everyone else 👋! 💕💕

Glad your good @RaspberryBeretxx , your 4 yo sounds adorable. I love that age, they learn so much everyday and their character really shines through.
Thank you for thinking I’m strong, I do feel a lot different then I did a month ago that’s for sure, it’s all still hard especially being away from my children but that’s out of my control at the moment and whilst not being with them hurts my heart every day I know that what I’m doing now means that we can have a better happier future going forwards and they can have a happy mum not a mum that they see is upset with tears in her eyes because ex has just told me that his biggest regret is me not jumping off the bridge when I had the chance or that I’m too weak to fight cancer. I don’t have to wake up each day wondering what mood him or his mother will be in with me, I can rest when I need to instead of being called lazy and I can start building relationships with my family again without ex making it hard . His parting words to me were that he was going to destroy me but I actually think that he planted me instead xx

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RaspberryBeretxx · 16/11/2024 20:12

Imbluedalale · 16/11/2024 20:09

Hi @RaspberryBeretxx , how are you this evening? It’s beautiful isn’t it , I’ve been listening to it all day , thank you @TheFoz for your lovely comments and for tagging in the song xx

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I’m good thanks! Hope you’re doing ok. We might need a new thread soon 😳😳.

RaspberryBeretxx · 16/11/2024 20:11

You sound so amazingly strong Laura. Playing the long game with ex. I bet he thought his little scheme would flush you out and make you contact him but no! He’s just nothing, bitterly bothing. Turn it to your favour that he’s doing things actively against your son’s interests that you can use and use the extra time to make your lovely house extra nice for him ❤️. By that point surely he’ll be totally fed up of being with your ex with no friends or school or interesting stuff to do anyway!

@Apolloneuro 🤣🤣 at your extra 4 year old DGD, she sounds amazing! Love that she thinks she’s Beyoncé 😆. My nearly 4 yo is a bit extra at the moment. DP: “DD is it bedtime?” Dd: “daddy, I’m just drawing! You don’t need to worry about me!”.

That thread people mentioned sounds so hard. The things abuse does to people 😔. I would bet the punch isn’t the first sign but they go gradually, applying control bit by bit.

Big wave to everyone else 👋! 💕💕

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Imbluedalale · 16/11/2024 20:10

Apolloneuro · 16/11/2024 20:00

Anyone watching Strictly? Pete’s trousers 😳

Yes I know @Apolloneuro , if I wore those I’d look like Patrick Star from SpongeBob SquarePants xx

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Imbluedalale · 16/11/2024 20:09

RaspberryBeretxx · 16/11/2024 19:57

Ah wow, just catching up but listening to this gave me goose pimples. Just perfect 👌❤️.

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Hi @RaspberryBeretxx , how are you this evening? It’s beautiful isn’t it , I’ve been listening to it all day , thank you @TheFoz for your lovely comments and for tagging in the song xx

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Apolloneuro · 16/11/2024 20:00

Anyone watching Strictly? Pete’s trousers 😳

RaspberryBeretxx · 16/11/2024 19:57

TheFoz · 15/11/2024 23:39

Laura, you and every single person here that has put faith in you and given you a lift up are to be hugely commended. But at the end of the day, you are the one that has shown such resilience. Your children are lucky to have a mum like you who has such courage and determination. Remember, the cream always rises to the top ❤️

I thought of this song earlier reading this thread, it’s a favourite of mine and it reminded me of you…

Ah wow, just catching up but listening to this gave me goose pimples. Just perfect 👌❤️.

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Imbluedalale · 16/11/2024 18:59

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 16/11/2024 18:14

Was once given a sleeping tablet. Woke up feeling a bit woozy and that I’d been up in the night.
My dad called.
He burst out laughing.
I had tried to give myself a DIY spray tan in the night only I’d only done my right side.
The other side ended up all over my lovely Laura Ashley wallpaper!

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Imbluedalale · 16/11/2024 18:58

Apolloneuro · 16/11/2024 18:07

We all want our daughters to be strong, confident and determined women. It’s just a little tricky when those women are still 4!

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Lol yes that’s very true @Apolloneuro , my daughter is already so much stronger than I’ve ever been xx

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Apolloneuro · 16/11/2024 18:16

I shouldn’t laugh Peggy, but that’s so funny!

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 16/11/2024 18:14

Imbluedalale · 16/11/2024 17:58

The missing crunchie…..
So I woke up this morning, pottered about , had a wash, got ready , watched a bit of tv , tidied my room and then thought ‘I know what, I’ll have my crunchie chocolate that I bought yesterday’ , put kettle on , made brew and reached for my crunchie that I put on the table. It wasn’t there! I started searching for it , looked everywhere , started looking in places it wouldn’t be , under every crevice even looked in bathroom. Nope it wasn’t there. Then thought ‘somebodies took it, somebody has come into my room and taken my crunchie’. Anyway as a last resort I looked in the bin, there was an empty crunchie wrapper ! I’ve eaten it in my sleep , what the hell? I’m now consoling myself with the realisation that I’m a sleepwalking binge eater 😟xx

Was once given a sleeping tablet. Woke up feeling a bit woozy and that I’d been up in the night.
My dad called.
He burst out laughing.
I had tried to give myself a DIY spray tan in the night only I’d only done my right side.
The other side ended up all over my lovely Laura Ashley wallpaper!

Apolloneuro · 16/11/2024 18:13

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 16/11/2024 18:12

It made me think. This lady had posted yesterday she was heartbroken for her DH as he’d been taken advantage of by his ex. Previous posts paint a picture of a lovely lifestyle filled with luxury.
Her updated posts are horrific won’t go into details here, very upsetting.
This sounds like a very together, professional lady, lots of financial resources.
It really is happening everywhere.

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Hopefully she take some action in a while, when the shock has worn off xx

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 16/11/2024 18:12

Apolloneuro · 16/11/2024 16:59

I’ve just come off that thread, Peggy, as too many people seemed determined to make it about them and their experiences. I hope the poor lady is ok.

It made me think. This lady had posted yesterday she was heartbroken for her DH as he’d been taken advantage of by his ex. Previous posts paint a picture of a lovely lifestyle filled with luxury.
Her updated posts are horrific won’t go into details here, very upsetting.
This sounds like a very together, professional lady, lots of financial resources.
It really is happening everywhere.

Apolloneuro · 16/11/2024 18:07

Imbluedalale · 16/11/2024 18:01

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Well who can fault her then ? She’s aiming high already xx

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We all want our daughters to be strong, confident and determined women. It’s just a little tricky when those women are still 4!

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Imbluedalale · 16/11/2024 18:01

Apolloneuro · 16/11/2024 17:55

She pretty much thinks she’s Beyoncé, 😂

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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Well who can fault her then ? She’s aiming high already xx

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Imbluedalale · 16/11/2024 17:58

The missing crunchie…..
So I woke up this morning, pottered about , had a wash, got ready , watched a bit of tv , tidied my room and then thought ‘I know what, I’ll have my crunchie chocolate that I bought yesterday’ , put kettle on , made brew and reached for my crunchie that I put on the table. It wasn’t there! I started searching for it , looked everywhere , started looking in places it wouldn’t be , under every crevice even looked in bathroom. Nope it wasn’t there. Then thought ‘somebodies took it, somebody has come into my room and taken my crunchie’. Anyway as a last resort I looked in the bin, there was an empty crunchie wrapper ! I’ve eaten it in my sleep , what the hell? I’m now consoling myself with the realisation that I’m a sleepwalking binge eater 😟xx

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Apolloneuro · 16/11/2024 17:55

Imbluedalale · 16/11/2024 17:48

Hi @Apolloneuro , that is so lovely , thank you so much. What a lovely beautiful thing to say .
😂😂😂😂Sorry but the thought of your 4 year old granddaughter being extra makes me laugh 😆 xx

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She pretty much thinks she’s Beyoncé, 😂

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Imbluedalale · 16/11/2024 17:52

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 16/11/2024 16:23

Have just seen a very distressing thread on here by a lady who has just been punched by her husband.
She has posted a few times in the past, general family stuff, and her DH sounds like your ordinary, every day kind of fella.
And I thought of you @Imbluedalale and how far you have come.
This can happen to any of us. So we really need to keep applauding our Laura who has been so brave!

Hi @PeggyMitchellsCameo , how’s your day going? Awww that’s sounds terrible , poor woman. I hope she’s getting support from MN’s and will find the courage to leave. It’s happening to too many unfortunately, when I was homeless and trying to get into a refuge they was all full within a 50 mile radius xx

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Imbluedalale · 16/11/2024 17:48

Apolloneuro · 16/11/2024 15:24

For the moment, Laura, we’re your mirrors and we see a young, beautiful woman, with her own house and life xxx

Hi @Apolloneuro , that is so lovely , thank you so much. What a lovely beautiful thing to say .
😂😂😂😂Sorry but the thought of your 4 year old granddaughter being extra makes me laugh 😆 xx

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Apolloneuro · 16/11/2024 16:59

I’ve just come off that thread, Peggy, as too many people seemed determined to make it about them and their experiences. I hope the poor lady is ok.

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 16/11/2024 16:23

Have just seen a very distressing thread on here by a lady who has just been punched by her husband.
She has posted a few times in the past, general family stuff, and her DH sounds like your ordinary, every day kind of fella.
And I thought of you @Imbluedalale and how far you have come.
This can happen to any of us. So we really need to keep applauding our Laura who has been so brave!

Apolloneuro · 16/11/2024 15:26

Looked after the little girlies this morning. Grandad has just taken them home. I’m quite glad, because the 4 year old is being quite extra at the moment. Mum and dad needed a break. 😂

Apolloneuro · 16/11/2024 15:24

For the moment, Laura, we’re your mirrors and we see a young, beautiful woman, with her own house and life xxx

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Imbluedalale · 16/11/2024 13:40

Munchyseeds2 · 16/11/2024 11:17

@Imbluedalale what the TWAT did to you and your dad to your mum before that makes me SO sad
My admiration for how strong you are is massive, a few weeks ago you would have been on the floor in bits but look at you now, playing the long game to get what you and the kids need, you are AMAZING (I may have said that just a few times before)

When you are settled you must get the help and therapy you need so you can look in the mirror with your head held high and live your life freely....I can't wait for that ❤

I hope everyone has a lovely, restful day doing whatever you love.

I'm off to find more 📌 xx

Hi @Munchyseeds2 , How’s your weekend going? Good I hope . Please keep sticking those pins in for me , I hope he’s feeling every prick whilst he’s swanning around Liverpool .
Thank you so so much for your lovely words about me they mean more than you’ll ever know and pick me up when ex is trying to pull me down.
Im definitely going to get therapy when I'm more settled , my ex thought it was funny I couldn’t look in the mirror anymore but one day I will and I’ll like what I see xx

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