AIBU with my wedding venue?

Your sister sounds immature and selfish.

Congratulations!

She sounds like she's a petulant little child, main character syndrome, type of person.

She has 21 months to figure out how to travel 90 mins.

Ignore her and don't let her take away from your happiness.

I feel sorry for your mum playing taxi due your sister's selfishness and inability to grow up.

She's being very, very weird, over the top, and self-involved. Ignore her. 1.5 hours is a daily commute for some people! She has over a year to formulate a plan as to how she'll make this epic 90 minute journey.

Anyway, if she's anything like me and my friends, she'll spend the 10 years after she graduates trekking to weddings across the country every other weekend.

My MIL did exactly the same, we were having a micro wedding and she lived approximately 20 mins away 🙄 some people just expect to always be accommodated or pandered to, nip it in the bud now and don’t enter into any more dialogue about it

Oh God she's mad! We already lived 3 hrs away from our family and then booked a venue 1.5 hrs further away from that in the wrong direction because we didn't want a city wedding. If you're paying her room for the night surely she can either grab a lift from someone or get the train easily enough! She wants to thank her lucky stars you're not having a wedding abroad....
She sounds young though, and at that age is maybe just being very self centred and worried about the whole affair and the potential cost of outfits/travel etc. I'd ignore her, don't let her rain on your parade and keep planning what will be a gorgeous wedding!

She is being completely ridiculous- it's your wedding not hers, you choose the venue not her. People get married abroad! If it's such a big issue I'd be inclined to say I understand that she might not be able to make it due to the travel and leave it up to her to decide what she wants to do.

Your sister needs to get a bloody grip.

Tell her if she sets off walking now she'll be there in plenty of time for a wedding in 2026!!!

or tell her to get a grip.

Either is perfectly acceptable 😂

This is mad - when I was a uni student and we had family weddings I got to my parents and then went in the car? And she’s having her hotel room paid for?

Surely she can’t be having a drama about this.

I just wouldn't entertain any further conversation about this. An adult woman should be able to make her way an hour and a half before 3pm unless there's some sort of exceptional circumstances that you haven't mentioned.

I propose people pick the venue they want but accept that some guests may not be able to travel. To be fair to the OP she hasn't said she insists on her sister attending but some brides don't care how much money or time is spent getting to a wedding as long as that person attends.

Basically ignore her. I think she might be a tad envious of the wedding excitement and that the attention is all on you for now. She sounds like a petulant 8 year old or thereabouts.

Why does the sister have to save every penny for someone else's wedding? It's a new frock and a present!

So what do you propose people do? It is extremely unusual for all wedding guests to live within the same 45 minute radius. Maybe weddings/reception by zoom is the only realistic alternative to avoid some people having to travel minor distances?

Tell your sister that if she really doesn't want to travel, she still has 18 months in which to buy a house nearby, then she can just stroll to the venue on the big day.

Or, she can politely decline the invitation, like an adult with good manners.

YANBU. 1.5hrs is nothing for a wedding and surely there’s others she can get a lift with? Given where both yours and DP families live someone was always going to have to travel.

Goodness DH and I live 2.5hrs north of his family and 2.5hrs south of mine! We looked at lots of wedding venues around where we live and agreed to look at one in my hometown and one in DHs hometown to keep it fair for both sides, but knowing given the distance for each family it would be unlikely (5hr drive). My family weren’t happy when they found out it wasn’t a given that I would go home to get married and hit the roof when they heard we were going to look at venues in both towns (so basically it was ok for DHs family to travel 5hrs to get to the wedding in my hometown, but not for my family to travel to DHs hometown). In the end we chose a venue in the town where we met each other and spent our early relationship - pure coincidence it was there as we saw it advertised and fell in love with it. Bit like you OP. It was an hour closer to my family, so they only had 1.5hrs travel whereas DHs had 3.5. We didn’t pay for accommodation for anyone. We had the option of a wedding package which included paid-for accommodation for family in on-site glamping pods but they turned their nose up at that. We got a lesser package and didn’t pay for accommodation no one would use, and instead got a discount code for other guests if they wanted it. We did put a lot of research into an info sheet on travel, nearby accommodation and public transport/taxis in the area for guests to go alongside the invites. But you can’t please everyone. When it came down to it everyone had a lovely time. Sounds a bit like your situation OP, your sister will just have to get over it.

Even if that was the case, she has a long time to plan and save.

And for your sister's wedding you find a solution - you don't bitch to the bride and make it all about you.

No doubt there will be other relatives driving which she can perhaps ask for a lift, or a taxi could be pre-booked to take her from the station to the venue.

How do you know this venue doesn't have taxis/public transport/ubers? Have you actually read the post AT ALL?? 🤦‍♀️

Is she married? I wonder if there’s some jealousy there on her part.
She is being ridiculous and I’m sure will look back at this one day and cringe at how much of a dick she looked!
Enjoy wedding planning op and ignore the negativity.

I used to travel one and a half hours to work every day, i.e. three hours a day. I'm sure it won't kill your sister to do that. Won't she travel with another family member anyway?

I am going against the grain by saying is it actually a straight hour and a half? I find often wedding venues can be in the middle of nowhere. The last one I attended was a 45 drive but on public transport was 3 hours and consisted of 2 buses, a train and then a 25 minute walk in the middle of nowhere.

If it involves that sort of journey and she is unable to attend will you be fine with this?

Apologies if it an easy journey but sometimes drivers can underestimate how difficult it can be to get to some destinations.

It's also really generous of you to pay for your family's rooms

I've had to book flights and time off work for my brother's wedding! He flew nine hours for mine 😂

1.5 hours… I remember when I thought that was a long commute.

just ignore her