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To think this reaction was odd?

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doodlediddle · 02/11/2024 19:39

Background is we were a group of 8 friends from school and all still live relatively close. When we were 24 one friend left the group and she told me she felt sad every time we all hung out now and it wasn’t good for her mental health.

I haven’t spoken to her since then and I don’t live near her. This was 6 years ago. She doesn’t speak to anyone but 2 of them but I’ve never seen her until today.

We were in the same car park, I noticed her but I’m not sure she noticed me as she was looking through her bag, I had to walk by her and so I said “oi oi Alice” (not her real name), she turned to look and I smiled and she just looked deadpan and then pulled a mean face and just said “yeah. hi” and then carried on looking through her bag.

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Onlyvisiting · 02/11/2024 19:43

doodlediddle · 02/11/2024 19:39

Background is we were a group of 8 friends from school and all still live relatively close. When we were 24 one friend left the group and she told me she felt sad every time we all hung out now and it wasn’t good for her mental health.

I haven’t spoken to her since then and I don’t live near her. This was 6 years ago. She doesn’t speak to anyone but 2 of them but I’ve never seen her until today.

We were in the same car park, I noticed her but I’m not sure she noticed me as she was looking through her bag, I had to walk by her and so I said “oi oi Alice” (not her real name), she turned to look and I smiled and she just looked deadpan and then pulled a mean face and just said “yeah. hi” and then carried on looking through her bag.

Well if 6 years ago she told you that hanging out with your full group made her unhappy and you didn't ask why and proceeded to ditch your friend of nearly a decade with no effort made to make sure she was OK or see her alone...... then I'm guessing she doesn't feel very warmly towards you, with good reason!

TheShellBeach · 02/11/2024 19:43

A bit weird but maybe she just doesn't like you.

ThianWinter · 02/11/2024 19:41

Not that weird. She acknowledged you but quite obviously didn't want to interact with you any further.