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…to ask 5 1/2 yr old to stay in bed/room until 6:15am? When do your kids get up?

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Newbie887 · 02/11/2024 17:13

Weve been trying to get youngest son who is 5 1/2 to stay in his room (either in his bed or playing quietly with toys) until the sun on his gro clock comes up at 6:15am. He is generally awake at 5:30am.

It’s been about a year now of trying and we are just not getting anywhere. Everyone is tired. Personally I think we should give up trying and accept one of us gets up at 5:30am with him, but partner thinks we should keep at it. Ideally he would like him in his room until 7am but we have compromised on 6:15. He regularly resorts to shouting at him each morning when he won’t keep quiet, which leads to crying / tantrums / generally shitty start to each day, and he rarely does go back to bed anyway.

what time do most children wake up? If they wake early will they play in their room / take themselves downstairs to play or do they wake the whole house as my son does?! We have some very well behaved cousins in the family who will either sleep or entertain themselves until gone 8am each morning, but not sure if this is normal

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batsandeggs · 02/11/2024 17:25

Our 3 year old is an early riser and we just live with it, and currently we get up with our 5 year old whatever time he rises because to be honest I wouldn’t be able to sleep knowing he was awake anyway.

I think at over five it’s not unreasonable to start having little one stay in their room for thirty minutes or so if getting up that early is causing tension. He is still quite young though. I personally wouldn’t do longer because for them, half an hour is quite a long time as it is. Any younger and I’d get up with them if they weren’t responding to the gro clock because they likely just don’t understand it. They can’t help when they wake up.

mynameiscalypso · 02/11/2024 17:24

I think 5.5 is old enough to understand to stay in bed for a bit! I have a 5 year old and he generally stays in bed (or his room) until we come at get him at 7.30 although he's not a very early riser so hasn't been awake for hours by that point!

Cookiejar753 · 02/11/2024 17:21

Youngest has always woken about 5/6am and they are 6 now. Later bedtimes don't work, we just get a grumpy early riser instead. 5 years is still young.
One of us just gets up with them. No need for shouting or punishment, they haven't done anything wrong. Some kids are just early starters. It won't be like that in a few years.
You can get clocks to help them understand morning time etc and give that a try. I would be having a word with your partner about him shouting at LO and work on that more than anything. Can't be nice for LO waking up and having that.