Who in this co parenting arrangement has more time off/has it easier?

You cannot compare free time like that. The NRP’s non work time during the week is actual free time, they can do what they want whenever they want with no obligations. The RP has a child at home, even when they are in bed they may or may not stir at any point. For this parent to have the same type of free time they need to pay for a babysitter, because you can’t just go out and leave a toddler in bed therefore when you’re a single parent it’s not free time.

What exactly is the prize when you determine who has it the easiest?

Resident parent has it harder because they never get a full day off with their child. I'd be heartbroken to have to work and do nursery all week, only to hand them off for the whole weekend.

Very shitty co-parenting to be talking about it interms of who “has it harder” when it comes to parenting.
In many parents view the weekend is the fun but end so the RP definitely has a lot more of the basic care tasks and all the chores related to raising children, early starts, sickness, meals, cleaning, washing clothes, keeping wardrobe in check etc whereas the other parent gets to hang out on a Saturday afternoon without participating in any of the grunt work.

I mean the parent who only has to do parenting things one night a week has it easiest, obviously.

Unfortunately of course there is not
much of a co-parenting relationship when this kind of resentment is stirring.

You seem to be implying the RP has it easier. Why do you think that?

Do you have children? RP has it harder, has the responsability of work, look after their home plus the child 5 days a week, child is a toddler so there is no quiet time at home at any point..
NRP can relax during the week after work... plus hasn't got to pay everyday food. cook, bring child to school etc and etc..

I think the non resident parent has it easier, they effectively have 5 or 6 child free mornings and evenings. However the resident parent still has child and other parent in the background on their childfree days, meaning it’s not truly child free despite lack of responsibility.

RP doesn’t have a single day when they don’t have to deal with their child at some point. When you are a single parent that is very full on.

Depends what you find hard, but I would say the resident parent has it easier as they get 2 full days break from work AND child, where as the non resident parent gets no full days off. Yes 5 mornings/evenings childfree but life will fill those ajd it's not the same as full days.

Very unhelpful as a competition

In reality . Rp will be doing doing all the appointments / the majority of the sickness .

if nrp is sick won’t come has time to be sick . Rp has to carry on regardless .

I also think in this situation sounds like Dc doesn’t have much down time at home .

is this actually an issue ?

You’ve assumed that the NRP moved away from their child… it is possible that the RP moved away with the child when the split took place. If the NRP has a job/support network/home etc where they live, it isn’t as simple as moving to be closer to their child.

Who handles the child's doctor's appointments, does the child's laundry, plans the meals, etc?

I don’t think either has it easier. Parenting toddlers is difficult. The one during the week deals with all the shit of getting them to play groups. The one at weekends never actually has a weekend however as that child gets older, I would not want to be giving away every weekend with my child.

Is there some sort of dispute between them that means it matters who has it 'easiest'?

So nrp contributes to the cost of food, but do they actually buy and cook it? Or do they cook and eat food rp has bought?

And does the NRP stay at the RP’s house on the Saturday night?

This arrangement is equally shit for everyone. No wonder you are arguing about it.

The resident parent should have some weekend fun time with the child, and the non-resident parent needs some time off.

Unless the non-resident parent is close enough to take on some mid-week care, there is no way to make this "fair" but you might be able to make it less shit by accepting the the resident parent needs to do more, unfortunately.

Is the non resident parent unable to take holiday for some reason? Most likely they both get annual leave, but only the resident parent has to use theirs for nursery closers, toddlers illnesses or appointments.

In terms of actual face to face care, they may be about equal (IF the toddler sleeps well), but the weekend parent definitely seems to have the better deal. They get all the fun / easy bits while the other parent does all the grind. Resident parents also doesn't really get to relax on a weekend as both the toddler and their ex are in their house.

I think the NRP has a rotten deal because I’d want more time with my children and to be there as much as possible, be with them if they’re sick, do homework with them and chat to them in person during the week. I’d hate to have that arrangement. But if I was the RP I’d want more weekend time too.
It depends what the issue is. If it’s who has to spend time with the child and meet their needs that is classed as worse then they are both awful.
I wanted my children to live with me FT and to spend my free time with them. I didn’t get divorced mind you so it’s moot for me. But arguing over who has it worse sounds crap if you’re arguing over taking care of your child. Hopefully I’ve got the wrong end of the stick. Haven’t RTWT, just saw the post above saying who has to meet their child’s needs during the week has it worse. Seriously.

The non-resident parent having every other weekend for two or three nights would be fairer on the resident parent (and in their own place!) as the resident parent never gets a weekend with their child to just relax. That really is the short end of the stick.
How did such an unequal arrangement come about? I do understand that small children need frequent contact with the non-resident parent, but the resident parent never has a weekend with their child, and if the non-resident parent is actually staying over in their house too, as it sounds, then they don’t really have their house to themselves either. Sounds awful.

The non resident parent gets a lovely weekend having fun with their child, the resident parent gets to do all the work during the week and doesn't see them at weekends so in answer to your question the non resident parent has it easier and the better deal.

If I was the resident parent I'd want every other weekend and half the holidays so I could have some fun times with my child. The non resident parent needs to move closer so they can see their child during the week if they want more access.

Also, can the RP go out for the day/evening? Date? Be not always on call? And having so much in the house smells controlling.

When they live in an Enid Blyton novel

Totally.

The reference to the resident parent being able to take holiday makes this clear.

The non resident parent can also take holiday and won't have to use half of it to cover toddler illness and can actually go somewhere for a few days unlike the resident parent but that didn't get a mention