Old friend randomly blocked me

I think it’s a bit odd you asked for her number rather than just leaving yours so the ball was in her court over whether to contact you. I’d be a bit miffed if my mum gave out my number to someone I’d known 20 years ago who called her out the blue.

I wouldn’t take it personally though, she may just have no wish to revisit that time of her life and it’s nothing personal. Doesn’t sound like you were amazingly close from what you’ve said in your OP.

Ok so you are male and she is female ? Is there any chance you could’ve been more than frienda in the past and now she she wants to forget you ?

if that’s not the case , sometimes people just move forward and are different people now , but blocking seems a bit strange , maybe her phone is turned off and it’s not blocked

I recently met up with some old school friends we were a quartet , two sets of best friends except my best friend kind of went off me lol and found a new best friend ( I was too boffy and boring!)

though we all met as a quartet , I didn’t actually want to meet my old best friend as much , I don’t hate her.

Anyway , before we met as a quartet she texted me asking me if I wanted to meet 1:1 prior to that, and I didn’t answer .

i think after what I went through at school after I lost her as a best friend ( spending lunch times alone in the toilets at times ) I guess I didn’t have the same interest in meeting her , but wish her my very best .

she took the hint and we met as a group but she hasn’t tried to meet 1:1 since , and that’s ok with me .

But she’s not an old friend at all, she’s someone you went out socially with in your 20s in the 1990s, and whom you admit you weren’t particularly close to even at the time. You get her number from her mother 30 years later, after decades of no contact, and send her a WhatsApp, to which she replies briefly but perfectly civilly, but doesn’t continue the conversation, or want to see you. I think that’s fine. She responded, but you’re a blast from a very distant past, and she’s not interested in reviving it.

I was randomly suspended from WhatsApp last month and no, I didn’t do anything whatsoever against the terms and conditions. It’s not unusual for that to happen and there is nothing at all you can do about it because it is entirely run by bots. No human beings to ask about it. Anyway, it could be a technical issue like that. Perhaps you could text instead?

Having said that, it’s more likely she has blocked you. That feels horrible but there are so many reasons why people do that which don’t signify you did anything wrong. She could be suffering a mental health episode or some other issue which she can only deal with by withdrawing. It’s really sad and understandable that you are upset, or annoyed.

I was thinking about this the other day. I had a best friend at school decades ago and joined the old school's Facebook page. Long story short, someone told me her married name. I had lived overseas for decades. I was so excited and messaged her, but she has one of those things: she can't see messages from anyone except her current friends. After I did it, I kind of regretted it. What if she doesn't want to connect and now feels obligated? So I was glad she couldn't see the message.

I guess Facebook enables us to see people we haven't seen in decades, and I'm not sure if it is a good thing or not. They probably have that whole 'Show everyone except so-and-so' for good reason. I read a post the other day at a person moaning about having all of these ghosts on their profile watching them, people they went to school with who they have added out of politeness and now don't talk to.

A lot of us move on and don't bother with the past. Maybe the timing is wrong, or we are not interested. I think she might have been OK with a small chat, but a meetup for coffee was too much for her. Perhaps she has things in the past she'd rather forget. I have no idea her reason, but don't personalise it. The past is a thing of its own. I've had friends I've sent messages to who simply didn't reply. I think Facebook is not great for many reasons, and perhaps this is one of them. Focus on the friends you have now, your life and the people who love you. Not her.

I find with old friends, you've often grown apart so much that it's weird being together, although I can imagine it's very hurtful to be on the receiving end of an apparently unmotivated blocking. I think I've only ever blocked four: one in a very aggressive cult, two who'd become rabid Brexiters, and one who ghosted me. YANBU, it sounds like she's the one with a problem. If you run into her, you either blank her or say a curt hello and keep on walking.

Hard though it is, just forget it. She might have any number of reasons for this but she’s not going to share them with you.

She replied once and was pleasant. Remember that rather than her withdrawing?

Are you sure you've been blocked? Do you have one grey tick or two? Two would means it's been delivered but she just hasn't opened it as you'll probably know. It doesn't mean you're blocked though. There could be something going on in her life that is sucking up all of her energy right now. Her standoffish response might be absolutely nothing to do with you and everything to do with other stresses.