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To wonder if you are against private schools…

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Unsrr · 02/11/2024 12:16

Why is this? As in against their existence?

I was brought up in a reasonably poor area and my education was not good. I sometimes went to the nearest private school for swimming lessons and remember being in awe of it. We have one dc now age 7 and can’t afford private but there is maybe a chance we could for secondary. I wouldn’t give it a second thought if we could make it work.

I have never felt private schools should disappear because surely that’s what we should be aspiring to? An education that is excellent (yes I know not all private schools are good and lots of state schools are better), isn’t that what we should aim for?

I feel sad that this country has now made it harder to access this education. What is the reason people are against private schools existing at all? I don’t think it can be jealousy, I think many people are genuinely opposed to it from an ideological perspective and I can’t understand it at all. Just interested really as there’s been so much talk about schools recently.

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floradora · 02/11/2024 13:25

Diorchristian · 02/11/2024 13:21

@floradora well unfortunately if that funding hasn't come in 60 years and they are still failing children perhaps different stragety needs to be looked at?

You only have to look at the massive improvements in London schools for example during the 90s with the Excellence in Cities programme. Initiatives like Aim Higher too. It is possible.

BunnyLake · 02/11/2024 13:24

The standard of education is not always better but the standards of expected behaviour are better and the tolerance for bad behaviour lower.

I think some people think private school kids are all learning Latin and having world presidents and royalty coming in giving motivational speeches.

Unsrr · 02/11/2024 13:24

Mugcake · 02/11/2024 13:22

100% this.

@Mugcake again… how is this different to buying an expensive home to get into a good state school? Can anyone answer this? It baffles me that the private schools take the hit but nobody is willing to accept that this use of parent wealth is apparent in every aspect of a child’s life whether you like it or not

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Michelle12A · 02/11/2024 13:24

Drom · 02/11/2024 13:20

Yes, you’re only sending your child to private school out of altruism for all those state school children you want your child to have a better education then.🙄

I’m child-fee 🤦‍♀️

Diorchristian · 02/11/2024 13:22

@Unsrr it's parental education, parental influence that's always the major factor in success anyway hence low paid children from immigrants particularly I believe Indian and Chinese do extremely well.
They have focus and drive.

Bushmillsbabe · 02/11/2024 13:22

Screamingabdabz · 02/11/2024 12:20

Because the standard of education a child receives should not be predicated on how much money their parents have.

But a child's standard of education will nearly always be related to their parents, even if private were banned tomorrow.

More affluent areas tend to have higher achieving schools, in a circular process. A good school will drive up house prices locally and exclude lower earners from buying. If people are happy to pay extra to live near a good school, even if that means giving up luxuries (we stretched to afford a house in a nice area with good schools, but drive 2 old cars and haven't had a foreign holiday or new clothes for ourselves in 10 years) then they are the parents who are going to engage with their child's education and get involved with the school as governors, PTA etc to try to drive up standards and funding.

Mugcake · 02/11/2024 13:22

Screamingabdabz · 02/11/2024 12:20

Because the standard of education a child receives should not be predicated on how much money their parents have.

100% this.

Unsrr · 02/11/2024 13:22

Lessstressedhemum · 02/11/2024 13:21

I do not believe that the quality of education that a child receives should be predicated on ability to pay. Excellent education should be available to every child.

@Lessstressedhemum already replied to a similar post but many people buy very expensive homes to get into good state schools. How is that different?

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Diorchristian · 02/11/2024 13:21

@floradora well unfortunately if that funding hasn't come in 60 years and they are still failing children perhaps different stragety needs to be looked at?

Unsrr · 02/11/2024 13:21

V0xPopuli · 02/11/2024 12:36

Because the standard of education a child receives should not be predicated on how much money their parents have.

Says it better than i can

@Screamingabdabz but it does? People buying expensive homes near the best state schools, for example? Those paying for music or sports lessons when other parents can’t afford it… why do you have an issue with use of money for private education but not use of money to buy a multi million pound home by a great state school? I genuinely don’t understand the distinction you seem to make?

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Lessstressedhemum · 02/11/2024 13:21

I do not believe that the quality of education that a child receives should be predicated on ability to pay. Excellent education should be available to every child.

BunnyLake · 02/11/2024 13:21

CaveMum · 02/11/2024 13:13

This idea that if you closed private schools the parents of these children would magically improve state schools is just pie in the sky! And also patronising to the 93% of parents already using State - are they so woefully ineffective that they have no influence over government and LEAs and need knights in shining armour to swoop in to help them?

Private school parents are not going to just hand over the money they were paying in fees to the local comp, so there will be no additional financial investment - they’re going to spend that money tutoring their children outside of school or increasing their mortgages to buy a property in catchment for the better state schools, therefore driving up house prices and putting them even further out of reach for poorer families.

Part of the issue is also that many people hear “private school” and instantly assume they’re all like Eton!

I agree. It’s completely unrealistic to think the local struggling comp with behavioural issues will become a top notch learning centre because it’s taken in some private school kids. Countries like Finland who have no private education have a very different way of dealing with education. There the teaching profession is well paid and highly regarded, like a doctor, that won’t happen here.

Drom · 02/11/2024 13:20

Michelle12A · 02/11/2024 13:18

Abolishing private schools will not make state schools better. All it will do is crowd them even more.

Yes, you’re only sending your child to private school out of altruism for all those state school children you want your child to have a better education then.🙄

Diorchristian · 02/11/2024 13:19

@Forgottenwhatitwas the complicated part comes where we work out why poor childrens school ie all state schools where 93% of children go are apparently crap?

floradora · 02/11/2024 13:19

Diorchristian · 02/11/2024 13:14

Well comps have been around since the 60s at least now, and they were hailed as these amazing bastions of metiocracy?. So why aren't they?

Because they have never had the resources and funding that would allow them to truly flourish and support young people as they would wish to. (Btw there are many outstanding "comps" out there that do amazing work in spite of this - and I don't mean "outstanding" in the Ofsted sense. )

Diorchristian · 02/11/2024 13:18

@CaveMum I know of some parents around my area in two schools, parents have tried to influence change for their child from within the school via being a teacher, support staff and a governors to enact change for their dc with sen.

Non of them could enact anything or get anywhere near change.

Michelle12A · 02/11/2024 13:18

Abolishing private schools will not make state schools better. All it will do is crowd them even more.

Unsrr · 02/11/2024 13:18

Forgottenwhatitwas · 02/11/2024 12:55

Because it gives rich kids an advantage over poor kids, which isn't fair. It's not complicated.

@Forgottenwhatitwas but buying a home next to a great state school is the same thing, is it not? Which again makes me question why it’s the private schools that seem to take the brunt of criticism. I didn’t have music lessons like most of the rest of my gear group in my state school. That wasn’t fair for me, should none of them have learned an instrument at all?

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Pinkissmart · 02/11/2024 13:17

Screamingabdabz · 02/11/2024 12:20

Because the standard of education a child receives should not be predicated on how much money their parents have.

This.

It creates disproportionate opportunity for only a small minority of children. It is deeply unfair.
Of course parents want the best for their children - I don’t think the people against private education are against wanting the best for their children.

Heybearu · 02/11/2024 13:17

Screamingabdabz · 02/11/2024 12:20

Because the standard of education a child receives should not be predicated on how much money their parents have.

Yep....this.

Frowningprovidence · 02/11/2024 13:16

Diorchristian · 02/11/2024 13:10

@Frowningprovidence and what influence would you like to see them bring if they could?

How can state schools be improved?. What difference would it make if mega wealthy people had to use them?

Well, as I said, I have moved on from that point of view,

Bit I was actually more focused on political power (that can be bought by the mega wealthy) rather than the fact they had money.

But old me woukd have anticipated education being more central to all parties manifestos and an increase in funding. Things like classess of max 30 being extended to across the whole system not just infant schools. Broadening music, sports and drama provision is schools.

I actually think what would happen is they would lobby for more state schools being able to select pupils.

floradora · 02/11/2024 13:16

Ednoreilojal · 02/11/2024 12:25

I think the general feeling is that all children should be entitled to a good education, not just those with rich parents. If there weren't private schools rich parents would have reason to support the state school system.

The same with grammar schools in areas which have them, the reason people are so desperate to get kids into grammar schools is because the non grammars have a bad reputation. This is largely down to the fact that the top 20 per cent of achievers go to the grammars. Which includes large proportion of better off families who can afford tutoring for 11 plus and to support their kids with educational extra curricular activities.

In an ideal world, all schools would be good and everyone would go to their closest school.

@Ednoreilojal sums it up beautifully.

RobinStrike · 02/11/2024 13:16

@Diorchristian I agree. I attended a grammar school many years ago. But there were far too many in my class at primary who failed the 11+ and didn't get a good education at all. Despite my good fortune, I do think comprehensive schools with setting per subject rather than streaming is a better system. However I do think one of the biggest problems is size. My school was originally 300 pupils, going up to 500. Many schools are now 1000 and even close to 2000. They just don't offer the same cohesion and sense of community. Pupils aren't known well to staff, they don't know other year groups or even all of their own year. The sense of belonging and identity has gone and discipline is eroded.

CharlotteCollinsneeLucas · 02/11/2024 13:16

Unsrr · 02/11/2024 12:44

@InformEducateEntertain yes I get that that is the view of people opposed to it but what does that mean? Morally wrong? It’s providing a good education and without them there will be less excellent education providers as most (not all) state schools are not as good

Funny that a lot of posters have explained what is morally wrong about it and you've not engaged with them. Are you only reading responses that are two lines or fewer?

Hurryuphumphreygeorgeiswaiting · 02/11/2024 13:15

No, not against at all. My dc's attend private school. We decided to chose private due to all the secondary school where we live are dreadful. My dc's are dyslexic and needed full time support. We paid to have them diagnosed when they were in primary and due to the local primary school they attended couldn't help due to lack of funding. Private have given my dc's the tools to help with their education. My DD received good grades with her gcse's. We ended up down sizing our home to pay for the fees and it is the best decision for us. It isn't for everyone but they would of stuggled in our local state school. Every child deserves a fantastic education and support with their learning.