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To wonder if you are against private schools…

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Unsrr · 02/11/2024 12:16

Why is this? As in against their existence?

I was brought up in a reasonably poor area and my education was not good. I sometimes went to the nearest private school for swimming lessons and remember being in awe of it. We have one dc now age 7 and can’t afford private but there is maybe a chance we could for secondary. I wouldn’t give it a second thought if we could make it work.

I have never felt private schools should disappear because surely that’s what we should be aspiring to? An education that is excellent (yes I know not all private schools are good and lots of state schools are better), isn’t that what we should aim for?

I feel sad that this country has now made it harder to access this education. What is the reason people are against private schools existing at all? I don’t think it can be jealousy, I think many people are genuinely opposed to it from an ideological perspective and I can’t understand it at all. Just interested really as there’s been so much talk about schools recently.

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RobinStrike · 02/11/2024 16:00

@FrodisCapering I disagree. I didn't see anything vindictive about her when she presented her budget. It is clear cut. Generally all the bursaries are to try to prove charitable status, not out of the goodness of their hearts. The use of facilities similarly to prove community links. Some use of facilities are hires rather than free. I'm not saying they can't have some good links with state schools, the one I worked in did, but it's not for the added value they give the community, it's to ensure they keep their charitable status.
Everywhere does have free education in this country. It's not essential to pay, it's a choice, and one that should be taxed like any other service.

Men0pauze · 02/11/2024 15:58

LittleBearPad · 02/11/2024 12:49

But it is within the state sector. House prices close to outstanding / good schools are higher than those near ‘requires improvement’ schools. Grammars push them property prices up further. Demographics are no broader in certain state schools and may be narrower than in private schools.

I said this on another thread. Not one person who opposed private education responded.

i suggested a method of a blind ballot to make schools genuinely inclusive and, not determined by very slim catchment areas.

But certain posters on this thread ,who can definitely afford private school but wouldn’t send their child to on because of their beliefs, woulds lose their shit. They are just buying privilege via a different means 🤷🏻‍♀️

Konfuzzled · 02/11/2024 15:49

If you're against private schools because children's standard of education shouldn't depend on how much money their parents have, are you also against private healthcare for the same reason?

Goldbar · 02/11/2024 15:49

Alongside all private schools, I think all state schools that are not "Ofsted outstanding" should also be abolished. And all grammar schools. They all confer either an unfair advantage/disadvantage.

All children should have the right to an excellent education so none of them should have to attend poor state schools.

Of course, the slight issue with that is that then there will be a massive shortage of school places.

But if what we're aspiring to is an excellent state education for all, then the only option should be excellent comprehensive state schools. Bin everything else.

In reality, things are somewhat more complicated. And while I don't object to the policy itself, I do object to the way it's been brought in. Especially because children having to leave private schools for financial reasons won't be getting a fair shot at a decent state education, with the good, the bad and the ugly. They'll either be stuck with the dregs of whatever local authorities have to offer or (worst case scenario) will be left without school places altogether in some of the most oversubscribed areas. It would have been fairer to apply the policy prospectively so parents could have made informed choices about schools at the proper application time.

Diorchristian · 02/11/2024 15:48

@SleeplessInWherever when you add in dyslexia and dyscalcula and everything like that, which state and many private schools can't cope with due to utter ignorance and being tied to the education department in gov... That's a hell of a lot of failed and disengaged children.

Diorchristian · 02/11/2024 15:45

@Kitte321

Exactly.

It's like the general education problem is so difficult they just blame everything else!!

SleeplessInWherever · 02/11/2024 15:44

AngsanaFlower · 02/11/2024 15:17

How many of you;

Read with your DC every night?
Sign up to free maths websites and buy cheap books from WHSmiths and do it with your kids
Take them to free museums, art galleries etc.
Plan your holidays so you take your kid somewhere interesting, so they can see it with their own eyes

I bet its very few

It’s really easy to teach your kid stuff yourself, their greatest teacher, but many of us don’t. Then when someone comes along and makes the effort whether that’s doing all the above or saving to pay for school fees, others whinge that it’s not fair.

When I actually see some decent parenting in this country I might feel bad for sending my kids private.

There are swathes of children in this country whose parents can’t afford to take them on any holiday, nevermind an educational one.

There are also many whose parents just make “bad” parenting decisions and don’t raise them in a way you see fit, or are downright neglectful. Many of those kids are the ones we’re referring to as poorly behaved, or worse, in this thread.

I wholeheartedly believe that those children shouldn’t be limited by their parent’s decisions.

Diorchristian · 02/11/2024 15:42

@LiceoDolce I think it depends on who you talk too. I think there is a move towards more " client and customer"

LiceoDolce · 02/11/2024 15:37

I think that one reason private schools are better that isn't related to having more money is the attitude they have towards parents and students.

My son's allegedly outstanding state school just ignore me if I try to contact them about anything and they treat the students in a very punitive way too.

Blaggoshpereish · 02/11/2024 15:33

noblegiraffe · 02/11/2024 15:14

If you don't understand why more teachers and money for basic building repairs are an absolute critical necessity in state education right now, then you haven't a clue what you are talking about.

Please list how you interpret “more teachers” and “fixing crumbling schools” equates to better educational outcomes?

Maybe it’s me. But I need to be promised something measurable when it’s describing education … not just “better”

A repaired, freshly painted school, with more teachers than classrooms ? Doesn’t say much about what’s going on at school.

I’d be more interested in a politician saying “funding for expanded tech/ coding /healthcare curriculums at GCSE/alevel” to meet challenges of modern workplace.

UK has nearly doubled skilled visa in past few years … why isn’t UK interested in developing its own workers?

://www.gov.uk/government/statistics/immigration-system-statistics-year-ending-june-2023/why-do-people-come-to-the-uk-to-work

NoisyDenimShaker · 02/11/2024 15:29

Motheranddaughter · 02/11/2024 12:34

I am against them as a matter of principle,even though we could have afforded to send our DC
All our DC did very well at school
I would support banning them and find all the furore on VAT laughable

But do you live in an area with a good state school? You might well do, if you could have afforded private.

I think the issue becomes less clear when a private school's results dwarf those of the local state schools, and if you can afford private, you then have a moral dilemma: Do I sacrifice my children's education for morals?

Diorchristian · 02/11/2024 15:28

@Nasyan

I was replying to someone saying removing grammar and private means it's harder

NoisyDenimShaker · 02/11/2024 15:25

Solent123 · 02/11/2024 12:33

Michaela has the best progress 8 in the country and incredible results, its in a poorer area and non selective - and yet they get a lot of hate for their behaviour policy.

Just looked them up - looks like an incredible school! I would probably choose that if I lived in the area and had kids who got in.

SchoolDilemma17 · 02/11/2024 15:21

AngsanaFlower · 02/11/2024 15:17

How many of you;

Read with your DC every night?
Sign up to free maths websites and buy cheap books from WHSmiths and do it with your kids
Take them to free museums, art galleries etc.
Plan your holidays so you take your kid somewhere interesting, so they can see it with their own eyes

I bet its very few

It’s really easy to teach your kid stuff yourself, their greatest teacher, but many of us don’t. Then when someone comes along and makes the effort whether that’s doing all the above or saving to pay for school fees, others whinge that it’s not fair.

When I actually see some decent parenting in this country I might feel bad for sending my kids private.

I so agree with this. We take our DC regularly to free museums in London and other places, we have NT membership, and RHP. We go to the library a ton and read every night (to the younger DC). Most of my older child’s friends have never been to any close by museums (and yes most of them are free!).

but I am a migrant from a poor background, education is everything for me and I value the opportunities in this country so much.

Blaggoshpereish · 02/11/2024 15:21

CaveMum · 02/11/2024 15:08

Just curious, for those who say countries like Finland manage great state education without private schools, are you happy to pay the same tax rates to achieve this?

In Finland the 30% tax rate kicks in at equivalent of £25,000 earnings with 34% for earnings over £42,000. Their 40% rate doesn’t kick in until £75,000 but it means lower earners pay a lot more tax in Finland than in the UK.

I’d be more than happy to pay additional tax to go towards education, but it still won’t make a jot of difference to parental attitudes.

Affluent parents in Finland absolutely do send their children to boarding secondary in the UK, as do parents from across Europe.

Just because Finland gov regulates curriculum and don’t facilitate private school does NOT mean that parents with money don’t send children abroad.

Kitte321 · 02/11/2024 15:21

I just don’t believe that the existence (or not) of private schools will fundamentally impact inequality. You still have grammar schools, intake by catchments, and varying levels of family wealth impacting access to tutors, extra curricular activities, good nutrition and more stable home life’s.
Surely a bigger question is how do you adequately fund state schools, improve outcomes and fund a bigger array of activities. And most importantly, improve parental engagement and responsibility.
I’ll take a guess that none of that will be by abolishing private schools or adding VAT to fees.
To add - I went to a terrible comprehensive and my oldest currently goes to a state primary.

Windchimesandsong · 02/11/2024 15:19

Loads of parents pay for their DCs schooling.

But only a minority pay via private school fees.

Most who pay do it through housing - they spend, sometimes as much, if not more, than the cost of school fees - by buying a house near a well regarded state school (pricing out poorer families in the process).

Scutterbug · 02/11/2024 15:19

One of the main arguments I hear from parents of those who are privately educated, is that they have the right to choose. But what about everybody else’s right to choose? That’s what is fundamentally wrong, that only the rich have choice when it comes to education.

And I was privately educated.

AngsanaFlower · 02/11/2024 15:17

How many of you;

Read with your DC every night?
Sign up to free maths websites and buy cheap books from WHSmiths and do it with your kids
Take them to free museums, art galleries etc.
Plan your holidays so you take your kid somewhere interesting, so they can see it with their own eyes

I bet its very few

It’s really easy to teach your kid stuff yourself, their greatest teacher, but many of us don’t. Then when someone comes along and makes the effort whether that’s doing all the above or saving to pay for school fees, others whinge that it’s not fair.

When I actually see some decent parenting in this country I might feel bad for sending my kids private.

NoisyDenimShaker · 02/11/2024 15:17

Psychologymam · 02/11/2024 12:28

I can afford private health care and private education for my children and I still believe that access to decent health and education are a fundamental right for children and shouldn’t be related to how much your parents earn.

I believe that too, and I'm sure most people do, but sadly, it's not reality.

At least Labour is trying to address these imbalances by raising lots of money for healthcare and education in the latest Budget.

IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · 02/11/2024 15:17

If you don't understand why more teachers and money for basic building repairs are an absolute critical necessity in state education right now, then you haven't a clue what you are talking about.

And if you (general you) think the VAT paid by 4% of parents is going to solve that you (general you) haven't a clue what you are talking about.

GivingitToGod · 02/11/2024 15:16

Screamingabdabz · 02/11/2024 12:20

Because the standard of education a child receives should not be predicated on how much money their parents have.

Spot on!
And there needs to be more investment in state education. I received excellent state education as did my siblings and our children. Private education creates greater diversity and widens the gap.

Chocolatelover13 · 02/11/2024 15:16

CurlewKate · 02/11/2024 15:13

@Chocolatelover13 "Which is why parents looking to get their children into their local state schools are being told they are number 35+ on the waiting list, the lists are closed and that the only choices are the schools which are in special measures"

That's not how state school admissions work.

It’s happening in Edinburgh just now, the parents are having to raise with the local council to get it resolved. The issue is disproportionate in Edinburgh due to the number of children in private education.

Not helped by the local council stating the number of available places which is complete nonsense.

NoisyDenimShaker · 02/11/2024 15:15

Comedycook · 02/11/2024 12:20

I'm against them and I went to one!

Why's that?

noblegiraffe · 02/11/2024 15:14

Blaggoshpereish · 02/11/2024 14:55

Blaming the private sector is such misplaced anger and vote grab headline - with no substance.

If the state school available is excellent/good, then parents don’t go private (unless they feel specific needs are met privately: music, sen, sports, religion, curriculum).

IMO -

  1. tabloids love to stoke division, fear hate for clicks which are converted to advertising dollars. Proof is how often the headline doesn’t match the story, or there are no facts “well placed source” “Royal expert”
  2. Diversionary political tactic (vat) shifts the blame /attention to parents rather than the terrible state of many state-funded school onto the people who should get blame: Ofsted, gov ministers, education authorities.
  3. Private schools relieve government of funding 554,250 pupils. Should be applauding these parents for saving gov from funding the education for 1/2 million children per annum. (7,460 x 554,250 …. )

“Hiring more teachers” is no plan to improve educational outcomes, “fixing crumbling buildings” doesn’t improve outcomes (Quotes are Labour promises) … birth rates are dropping - more teachers doing what? If Labour guaranteed smaller classes, better results, they might have my attention. But core of better education is … better education. Not more teachers, and not repairs.

What other country does Gov & Media hate on private education???

If you don't understand why more teachers and money for basic building repairs are an absolute critical necessity in state education right now, then you haven't a clue what you are talking about.

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