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To expect some basic manners from children?

229 replies

vickidoodah · 02/11/2024 11:07

Twice in the last 24 hours kids have been unfriendly and not corrected by their parents.

  1. looked after DC (8) class mate all day. Parent arrives to collect them and child is rude to parent then refuses to thank us or return to say goodbye after walking out without saying anything. Parent rolls eyes and says child is tired.
  2. meet up with friend and their 2 children. I say hi to them and her DC 9 looks at me and otherwise ignores me. I raise eyebrow to friend who says they need to warm up and will be fine in about 20mins.

AIBU to think the parents are not helping their children by excusing this rude behaviour? All children NT.

OP posts:
rayofsunshine86 · 02/11/2024 11:36

YANBU! I don't care if your little Timmy is tired, they need to learn (simple) manners. Parents love to take the easy way out, and therefore nobody benefits long term.

OneDandyPoet · 02/11/2024 11:32

If the parents don’t have the basic manners themselves, how can they teach them to their own children?

Gimmeabreak2025 · 02/11/2024 11:29

CherryValley5 · 02/11/2024 11:27

YANBU at all. 20 yo DD has just started working at a popular family attraction - she comes home everyday amazed by how little manners parents are teaching their children these days! A huge amount simply could not
care less about their child’s behaviour. Societal decline has begun. I think that Covid and iPad kids have a lot to do with it. The amount of children (and parents) who seem to find a simple please and thank you difficult is alarming. She deals with kids mainly between age 7-10, almost all of them need their parents to speak for them and are ‘too shy’ to acknowledge anyone else. It’s ridiculous in my opinion. DD was an incredibly shy child but there’s no way I would’ve let her away with blatantly ignoring people.

Edited

thats because we’re all told our children are neuro diverse and the world needs to accommodate them and respect them and meet their needs and basically revolve around the little snowflakes…

CherryValley5 · 02/11/2024 11:27

YANBU at all. 20 yo DD has just started working at a popular family attraction - she comes home everyday amazed by how little manners parents are teaching their children these days! A huge amount simply could not
care less about their child’s behaviour. Societal decline has begun. I think that Covid and iPad kids have a lot to do with it. The amount of children (and parents) who seem to find a simple please and thank you difficult is alarming. She deals with kids mainly between age 7-10, almost all of them need their parents to speak for them and are ‘too shy’ to acknowledge anyone else. It’s ridiculous in my opinion. DD was an incredibly shy child but there’s no way I would’ve let her away with blatantly ignoring people.