To do this crazy sleeping arrangement

Agree. Mine were fine in a low bed with a guard rail from that age. We had thick carpet with a soft rug. Fell out once or twice but weren’t hurt. In fact, didn’t even wake up! Agree, cots can be more dangerous as they learn to climb out.

She could also sleep in bed with you or your DH.

Do people still leave kids to cry themselves to sleep? I thought that was an old 60s/70s thing. Even 20 years ago, ours slept with us when babies and once they were old enough to go to sleep in their own bed, we sang to/sat with them until they nodded off.

Did you read the original post? 🤦🏻‍♀️😂

Mattress on the floor in her brother's room. She can come to you if needed, or you can nap there with her. I've done that, and it works well. Everyone gets maximum amount of sleep.

Many years ago we were redecorating and my eldest, then about the same age as your dd, sat on a single mattress on the floor of the room being done up. It wasn't even his room. That child ended up sleeping on that single mattress on the floor until we literally removed it age 9! He absolutely loved it. Slept straight through from that day. Even now, you will always find him sitting or lying on the floor. Look, whatever works to get sleep (and is safe) go for it.

I’d put the kids in together. She might just hate being alone

Try taking the side off her cot if that’s possible with yours. Stick a couple of pillows on the ground next to it. It should be low enough that she won’t injure herself if she does fall out. It might not work but it’s probably the cheapest easiest option so worth trying first.

Put a single mattress on the floor

Floor bed in the small room - I used Ikea bed slats underneath a mattress.

It’s totally fine. Do whatever works for you and your family and don’t ask anyone else’s view. We put our DC in their own double at that age. It was all fine.

Wherever you can get the most sleep is the answer. Sleep in a health care thing.

My DC went straight from cot to double. Lots of advantages to it, though my main reason was because I ended up cosleeping a lot.

Will you end up resenting being stuck in the tiny room while your DH gets the best room though?

Go the montessori way and get a floor bed.we have one for the spare room for our baby Granddaughter and she loves it so much she has one in her own room at home now.shes almost 2.

@SnoopysHoose not if they're a snorer 😂

Do what you need to do to get some sleep. I'd give up my bed and sleep in the shed if it would get my toddler to sleep through. It's not mad at all. You'll have to buy a single bed sooner or later anyway. Toddler beds are a waste of money.

Put some cushions round the bed if worried.

@ttcat37
Yes I'm aware, it's still nice to have intimacy and share a bed with your partner.

Low single bed up against the wall one side, slotted in padded guard other side.
Be realistic, at her age if the bed is low and the floor is carpeted, should she in the unlikely event fall out, she'll bounce fine. Doubtful she'll fall out in any case.
My DS was certainly less than 2 before using a bed, they can easily climb out of a cot and risk a higher fall doing so by then.

It’s probable that they’ve successfully had sex at least twice, given the two children.
You know, sex doesn’t have to be confined to a bed at night. Wild idea I know!

Get rid of cot, put a single bed in her room. Try her in it with a bed guard, and if that doesn’t work, you swap with her for a while until she’s a bit bigger and then swap back. Not mad at all, whatever works for eveyone to get sleep! I think bed mattresses are just comfier than cot mattresses, and more space is comfier than less.

I am a huge advocate for kids having double beds. Putting DS in a double was an absolute game changer for settling him. But we have the space without compromising our own sleep arrangements. Could you try a single with one of those sleep pod things. It could be the bolstering with pillows that helped her sleep, it's like being cuddled by your bed isn't it.

I would put DD in a toddler or single bed in her (small) room. Bed guard on the side, or floor bed with some cushions along the side on the floor.

She won't "bash against it"; they're soft mesh fabric! It will give her body an "edge" to detect and she'll naturally move away from it while asleep. Same as we do as adult; we detect the bed edge and move away from it.

I am all for sleeping options that work (I currently share a room with a 4 year old and a 9 year old), but you moving in to her room and her moving in to yours sounds unnecessary.

I don’t think it sounds crazy. DD6 graduated from cot to double bed - though tbh I always co-slept with her in my super king bed, I can’t remember that she ever slept well in a cot.

She now starts the nights in a single bed but I wake up to her in my bed most mornings, I think she creeps in about 3am. I think if your marriage can survive separate beds then why not (lack of sleep is probably a more marriage destroying issue!)

The bunting is set dressing for the photo at B&Q. It doesn't come with it. It's just a normal bed frame. We don't have this exact bed (I can't find our exact one with a quick search), but on ours, you can choose not to put the scaffolding on until the child is big enough to play safely in the bed.

Our 2yo is still in a sleeping bag in a cot bed, but sleeps terrible. Not brave enough to progress to a bed because he would be out and running around. We've just given him a duvet and pillow and made his cot more like a bed. This has improved his sleep slightly. Still sleeps on top of duvet in his sleeping bag though.