MIL only one not to say my baby looks like me

Does she say she looks like someone else in the family?

Because she's as sure as hell laughing at the OPs' obsession about her grandchild's looks!

One of the best posts I've ever read!

I personally can never see the resemblance of a baby to a particular parent because they’re a baby.

Me neither, they all look alike for at least 6 months, I couldn't have picked mine out of a police line-up!

I hate that reply "they look like themselves." It's rude and disingenuous. Babies mostly do look like their relatives, and it's all part of the fun of fussing over a baby to say oooh, Dbaby looks like x,y z family member. Also, I was out with a friend at lunch once with her young baby and made a comment that she looked like her, and I got a stand-offish "She looks like herself." 🙄

Meh. Its a long game. The baby is half her precious genes aren't they? And they change a lot as they grow. My one former mini me DS is now a young version of his dad and adult DD does indeed have a look of MiL about her. Daft anyone getting jealous or smug over DCs looks when they are 50% of each, whether people like it or not.

Well that’s quite possible given op is annoyed about more or less the same thing - though in her case just the fact that one person won’t SAY it.

Good for gooses and all that …

strange u would want her to.

Did you read this back to yourself before posting?

It sounds like she's annoyed and jealous that your baby looks like you instead of like her own precious genes!

A close friend's daughter's son (he's now 9) has been an astonishing clone of his father since he was tiny. His mum just beams when people remark on it - she loves her husband and is thrilled her son is the spitting image of him.

🤣🤣🤣

I went as far as asking for baby photos of us as keepsakes for my son when he's older.

He's the spit of me. Poor DH gets some low profile features like eyebrows and toes and fingernails.

MIL and her best friend insist he looks just like baby DH, but it's really, REALLY reaching. For starters, both DH and his brother were unlucky in the ear department as babies. Most of the photos of them at ILs are very zoomed in. Also DH was extremely premature, so has that sort of elfin look up until he was four.

Then the pictures of me are just complete lookalikes. But still the best MIL will say is "he's a real blend of the two of them".

I would say try not to overthink it but I do get it- my ex MIL not only insisted neither of my kids look anything like me or anyone in my family (they do) but every positive thing about them came from their dad’s side. They learnt something new? Clever like x. Nice to animals? Caring like y. Etc.

Anything negative like tantrums, being afraid of something, a bad sleeper, had to have come from my side as none of the children in her family ever behaved badly or were scared of anything ever 🙄

It was draining, it got on my nerves but in hindsight I wish I hadn’t let it bother me so much.

My DC were the image of me. Whenever anyone commented, which they did, often, MiL would say 'ooh I can see their dad in them'. I'd just say 'yes, so can I, and you as well MiL'. She'd be happy. The DC still looked like me. Jobs a good un.

Gosh.

I would have seen it more as lovely that they looked at my baby and saw a resemblance to someone they presumably love and cherish.

🙄

To be fair I think most newborns do look like wizened 100 year olds 😂

Many years ago, I had my husband’s relatives tell me my beautiful baby daughter looked just like the Great Granny on my husbands side of the family. Can you imagine having your beautiful baby likened to a wizened 101 year old 🤣
Even if it was 100% true - a new mother is never going to see it or agree to it.
Just smile and move on.

Yes YABU. Maybe the baby doesn’t look like you and everyone else is humouring you. You and your husband made the baby - so what’s wrong with the baby looking like your husband? Did you not want the baby to look like your husband or something?

Oddly enough, when the first DGD arrived, I was the only person to see a resemblance to my son in law! Everyone else, including his parents, thought she looked like her mum's sister!

I think I deserve a MIL medal.

Kids change as they grow up though, mine as adults are a pretty good mix of both DH and me. One has DH's height and build, eye and hair colour, but my shape nose, chin and hands. The other has my height and build, DH's eye colour and nose and hands shape but my hair colour and eye shape. DGD (7) looks like a female version mini-me of DSiL so far, but has my eye and hair colour. DGS (4) looks identical to old photos of DH as a child but you can see DSiL in his facial expressions. Genetics are fascinating!

TBH folk always say babies look like whatever parent they are talking to, it's meaningless. Two childhood friends, both adopted were often told they looked like mum/dad as children by random adults. (they really didn't!) It's just something to say.

Let's face it, other than differences of ethnicity and amount/colour of hair most newborns look pretty generic!

Don't take offence at this, absolutely not worth it.

My daughter (almost 5) looks mind-bogglingly like my mum. She always has. The Italian genes skipped me (or used me as a conduit). I am gingery and blue eyed and I look like my dad. My mum and daughter are dark and cute-featured. They literally have the same face. So much so that nursery staff who had never met my mum laughed in recognition that she HAD to be my daughter's grandma when she first came to pick up. They're also very alike in character. I like it. My MIL, however can NOT acknowledge it. I don't mention it either. She's a mean spirited old witch, despite the fact that we have also created a beautiful boy who is a mini-me of his dad (her son). I am the one with no doppelganger!