MIL only one not to say my baby looks like me

It's because you said "literally my clone". Literally has a definition, as has clone.

EVERYONE (except my mum) says my daughter looks like me… I don’t see it… my mum says she’s spit of her dad… I also don’t see that…. Physically she’s the dead spit of her dad, but facially I think she’s a healthy mix of us both…
she also saw your DH as a baby so might see resemblances others don’t

Lots of people have used this term throughout this thread. Yet I am the one picked up on it. Of course I did not produce my child without my husband. However, if I were to produce him in a lab, a "technical clone", he would look exactly the same! Definitely has my DH personality though.

Do you have a big round head, no hair and cry a lot? If so you are not being unreasonable.

When I was a small child my mum got fed up with her mother in law always saying that my brother and I looked like our dad. Eventually she said “You are right! They DO look like your side of the family!……If they looked like mine they would be beautiful!” 😂

The poster means a clone has a technical definition which your child won’t meet if they were the product of a conception involving their dad.

As a mother you see the parts of a baby which resemble you, as a gran you recognise the bits that remind you of your baby. For instance my granddaughter was the spitting image of me at the same age, so much so that she though a photo of me was of her. All her friends said how much she looks like her mother. Now she's older she looks like me but with her mother's eyes and her father's grin.

Excuse me? Have you met me or my child? Those words have been used by my health visitor and several other people, I didn't come up with that one on my own! Get a life!

He isn't literally your clone, FFS.

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Your baby looks like himself, he’s an individual.

Mine does this. My son is literally my clone but with different coloured eyes (my DH colour) but she will never say that he looks like me. He is also very very tall, she thinks it's to do with some distant relative being tall or something. Yet both of my siblings and both of my grandfather's are over 6ft. You just have to laugh it off!

My son didn't look like any member of the family in particular as a child, but by the time he was 18 he was the image of my own father - his grandfather. Comparing photos of the two at the same age you'd think they were the same person. It's rather spooky.
My own grandchildren looked like my son in law as tiny babies, they both had his heavy brow, but changed by the time they were about 3.
On the whole, unless there is some very distinctive family feature, I think babies are pretty similar.

I was calm and reasonable when I spoke to her, but inside I was absolutely sick of it 🤣.

A few people were insistent that newborn DS looked only like DH and nothing like me. They told me repeatedly... He now has my hair and it is noticeable, but MIL insists this is due to DH's genes 😀

If I met a newborn now would just say what a lovely mix of both parents. There's no real need to say anything further/ insist baby looks more like one parent than the other.

Sounds like fairly typical behaviour for some mums of sons!

Shows massive insecurity, and desperation to claim the grandchild as part of HER family, and not the nasty daughter-in-law's family. 😆

Sounds like fairly typical behaviour for some mums of sons!

Shows massive insecurity, and desperation to claim the grandchild as part of HER family, and not the nasty daughter-in-law's family. 😆

HNRTFT but I think new born babies generally look like their father.Think it's nature's way to help with bonding.

But did you approach it that you were 'absolutely sick of people suggesting that he could possibly look like anything like you'

Or were you calm and reasonable?

Mine were gaw-juss!! I’d have known them from back view!

I don't think it's that unhinged. Everyone said my firstborn looked like her dad (she did in many ways) so I cornered my in-laws with a photo of me as a baby to prove their were similarities. They agreed with me after seeing the photos. By the way, my DD is also dark like her dad whereas I have blue eyes and a pale complexion. This is part of the reason I wanted to show them a photo- to show their were similarities between us that go beyond skin and eye colour.

My eldest is the image of my MIL, and I couldn't be happier about it. She also has all the great traits of my MIL and one of MIL's sisters.

Why anyone should be offended because a MIL finds real or imagined similarities between the grandchild and her family, I really don't know.

One of the many unhinged my MIL did after my first son was born was corner me in a hallway with an envelope of photos of DH to PROVE to me that my son didn't look like me and only looked like DH because she was SICK of people suggesting that my son looked like me.

Funniest part is that I am dark and son is dark but DH is blonde hair blue eyes. It's a pretty obvious difference.

But only one in a very long list of unhinged things she did.

Definitely a long game. But MIL is annoyed at today's status quo! 😂

I learnt how long a game it is when my sister's baby looked just like his dad as a youngster and now, many years later, he's the image of his mum. Crazy. You wouldn't think it was the same young person.

My eldest son was the absolute double of his dad as a baby and small child, nothing like me at all. My mil made sure I knew it! She was also quite petty and used to run me down but in a oh so funny way, she really didn’t like me. Thankfully she lived far enough away I didn’t have to see her much. Second son very much more like me. She didn’t like that. But hey ho, you reap what you sow I guess.

We once knew a couple where the 8 year old boy looked the image of her husband, everyone commented on it, he wasn't the child's father though, she had been widowed when he was a baby and had married again when he was about 6, and No, she hadn't known the new husband earlier!