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AIBU?

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Is he into me or not?

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picklepotage · 01/11/2024 21:34

I feel like a 12 year old so perhaps that's my AIBU

But I'm so confused so need your opinions please.

I dated a guy last year for 4 months.
We broke up over not much really but coincided with him having huge work stress so we never really had a proper conversation and parted ways.

I texted to wish him a happy NY and we texted each other occasionally and since summer
more frequently.

We went out for drinks in August had a great time. We really get on well. He came back to mine and we carried on drinking , chatting, laughing etc. we talk about everything BUT never about us / our feelings for each other.

He stayed the night. We kissed which was just how I remembered. He's the only man I've ever really enjoyed kissing. I would need tire of kissing him.

Anyway we shared a bed but didn't sleep together. he would have done, but I couldn't because I'd been so upset if he then walked away and no we didn't have the conversation.

A few weeks later we were texting and in conversation it came up where he said I was a gorgeous woman. I thought he was joking as he's never said that before. I didn't think he was that attracted to me.

He was shocked as said he had told me that before. He then tried to arrange meeting for drinks but I got flu and although I tried to rearrange we haven't.

I'm moving house now and I've never done this on my own so it's a bit daunting and he said he'd help me and he's been wonderful.

last week I met him at a viewing and it was so nice. We hugged about 5 times. We said goodbye and hugged then carried on chatting then hugged again then chatted then hugged.

We're meeting again for another viewing. I don't know what to think.

I think he's being kind and wants to help and I think he thinks im attractive but isn't attracted to me. If he were then surely he'd be asking me out.

I'm so confused. I know I should probably just ask him but it feels awkward and I suppose I don't want to be rejected at least this way I think there's hope 🤦🏻‍♀️

Do you think he likes likes me or is he just being a good friend and what would you do?

OP posts:
IcyLilacZebra · 01/11/2024 21:40

If he really wanted to be with you I think by now he would have been very clear he sounds like he's just not interested and I would honestly leave it and move on

Garlicpest · 01/11/2024 21:39

I'm going with @WigglyVonWaggly's view. You're giving him friendzone vibes. Ask him on a date!

usernother · 01/11/2024 21:37

If he wanted to be with you he would. It sounds to me you're ok to spend some time with every now and then until someone he thinks is better comes along. Sorry OP but you'd be better off not contacting him again and trying to meet someone else. Good luck.

WigglyVonWaggly · 01/11/2024 21:36

Sounds like he’s waiting for more of an encouraging signal from you! What signs have you given him? It doesn’t sound like you have!

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