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JintyMcG1422 · 2024-11-01T20:45:27+00:00

OHraging at me for being late home for dog. Out with my bestie, first time in a year, got carried away with the vino. Got home 2 hrs later than anticipated l I never do this and we’ve been together for 20 years. He’s doing my nut in, no harm done IMO. I’m upset because I had this carry on with my ex. I thought I’d moved on.

DecafDodger · 02/11/2024 11:43

Dogs can have accidents, sure, but it's still not reasonable to expect that you will never leave the dog's side, ever. Is he as controlling with other things?

Changingplace · 02/11/2024 06:28

JintyMcG1422 · 01/11/2024 21:41

The dog is 6 years old. He was alone for 2 hours. He had been out all day with dogwalker ( from 9 to 4) Oh got home at 6 I got home at 6.16

Absolute nonsense that the dog had an accident then, unless it’s poorly (which I assume it’s not if it’s been with a dog walker all day without any issues).

Call his bluff, tell him the dog is clearly unwell given the circumstances and needs to go to the vet’s to check it’s not becoming incontinent.

Pussycat22 · 01/11/2024 23:54

Fella will have got you where he wants you. Bloody predictive text.

Pussycat22 · 01/11/2024 23:53

I ain't half got a feeling of deja vu occuring here!! Nip it in the budnow. Go out for as long as YOU like otherwise fella we I'll have got you where he wants you. Assert your autonomy.

BadgersOfHonour · 01/11/2024 23:30

2 hours? That's absolutely fine! What the hell is his problem? Does he not like you socialising generally or does he dislike your friend?

Confused2691 · 01/11/2024 23:15

JintyMcG1422 · 01/11/2024 21:52

Apparently it was #2 . But according to ring camera timeline I find it hard to believe. OH arrive home 6.30. Oh takes dog out 6.37, I arrive 6.50. No evidence of dog mess ie smell etc, OH return with dog 6.55. I’m bloody mad and don’t trust myself to speak

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Definitely not enough time for him to clean up poo/wee and do a turn around for a walk in 7 mins.

I thought from your previous comment he got home at 6 and you at 6.16?

buttonsB4 · 01/11/2024 22:58

Tell your OH to point to the exact spot that your dog supposedly pooed because you want to ensure it's clean.

Ask him which products he used to clear it up; is there a bag in the outdoor bin for example with the faeces in?

It seems a bit extreme but this feels like a controlling/punishing move from your OH because you dared to have a couple of hours to yourself, and it seems unlikely that a healthy dog would poo in the house after being left alone for just 2 hours.

Flossflower · 01/11/2024 22:22

I think your OH just doesn’t like you being out with someone else. It is control and you should not put up with it.

Nightowl1234 · 01/11/2024 22:21

You’re not a child. You can choose to stay out later than you expected. You don’t answer to him.

CautiousLurker1 · 01/11/2024 22:08

JintyMcG1422 · 01/11/2024 21:41

The dog is 6 years old. He was alone for 2 hours. He had been out all day with dogwalker ( from 9 to 4) Oh got home at 6 I got home at 6.16

FGS, you did nothing wrong. Surprising that doggy had an accident in that period (i’d keep an eye on him just to check he’s ok at the weekend, but this is unrelated to being out a few hours longer than you’d thought).

I often leave mine for a couple of hours (but never longer as am also always at home usually).

I think your DH was in a grumpy mood for some reason, if this is not normal behaviour, as it really is ok (healthy) for a dog to manage for a couple of hours.

Coralsunset · 01/11/2024 22:01

JintyMcG1422 · 01/11/2024 21:52

Apparently it was #2 . But according to ring camera timeline I find it hard to believe. OH arrive home 6.30. Oh takes dog out 6.37, I arrive 6.50. No evidence of dog mess ie smell etc, OH return with dog 6.55. I’m bloody mad and don’t trust myself to speak

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Yeah he’s lying.

Do you know why? What’s the relationship like in general?

Doggymummar · 01/11/2024 22:00

No way dog would do that, unless dog walker hadn't taken it out.

ExitPursuedByABare · 01/11/2024 21:59

2 hours is ridiculous. I work in dog rescue and we do t like a dog being left for more than 4 hours.

Pandasnacks · 01/11/2024 21:59

Again did you no the dog walker had brought the dog home when they had?

Thepeopleversuswork · 01/11/2024 21:57

Yeah I smell a rat here too. Sounds very unlikely the dog had an accident. And honestly if he had it’s not the end of the world.

Also I initially thought you might have rolled in at midnight but you were back after 6?

This sounds more like control to me. Does he have form for this?

BeMintBee · 01/11/2024 21:57

Unless the dog has separation anxiety or previous history of not being house trained then a dog that has been out with a dog Walker all day is highly unlikely to have taken a dump in the house after two hours alone.

How long is the dog normally ok being left alone for?

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JintyMcG1422 · 01/11/2024 21:53

Coralsunset · 01/11/2024 21:50

Oh he’s winding you up mate.

Are you convinced the dog had an accident?

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No

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Kibble29 · 01/11/2024 21:53

I’d be really surprised if a healthy 6 YO, housetrained dog who’d been out from 9am-4pm would have peed indoors so soon after.

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JintyMcG1422 · 01/11/2024 21:52

Mudflaps · 01/11/2024 21:45

I seriously doubt your dog pee'd inside, I believe you are being lied to and need to seriously think about your relationship and why you are being treated in this way.

Apparently it was #2 . But according to ring camera timeline I find it hard to believe. OH arrive home 6.30. Oh takes dog out 6.37, I arrive 6.50. No evidence of dog mess ie smell etc, OH return with dog 6.55. I’m bloody mad and don’t trust myself to speak

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DecafDodger · 01/11/2024 21:51

6yo healthy dog should not have any issues being alone for 2 hours.

Coralsunset · 01/11/2024 21:50

JintyMcG1422 · 01/11/2024 21:41

The dog is 6 years old. He was alone for 2 hours. He had been out all day with dogwalker ( from 9 to 4) Oh got home at 6 I got home at 6.16

Oh he’s winding you up mate.

Are you convinced the dog had an accident?

tolerable · 01/11/2024 21:49

Mudflaps · 01/11/2024 21:45

I seriously doubt your dog pee'd inside, I believe you are being lied to and need to seriously think about your relationship and why you are being treated in this way.

whoaaaaaaaaa! Theory based on what exactly?!!!!!!!!!!

Mudflaps · 01/11/2024 21:45

I seriously doubt your dog pee'd inside, I believe you are being lied to and need to seriously think about your relationship and why you are being treated in this way.

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JintyMcG1422 · 01/11/2024 21:41

The dog is 6 years old. He was alone for 2 hours. He had been out all day with dogwalker ( from 9 to 4) Oh got home at 6 I got home at 6.16

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Coralsunset · 01/11/2024 21:39

How long was dog left for?

I wouldn’t leave my dog longer than 4/5 hours. I can understand him being upset if dog had been left long enough to per or poo itself.

However, a calm adult conversation about it should have been sufficient. Does he have form for being shouty or verbal attacks? Do you think he might be trying to punish you for going out with friends and drinking?