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Do people really drive round / get a taxi with dead cats ???

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Isthisreallyathing · 01/11/2024 20:18

Sadly found a deceased cat outside my home so posted on the local fb group a description and location. Then I get loads of replies telling me to take it to a vet to be scanned - I don’t drive and have a sleeping toddler ! They call me selfish and suggest getting a taxi !!

Do people really do this ? AIBU not to ?? (I don’t think I am but 100% of responses were telling me to get the cat scanned for a chip to locate owners)

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ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 03/11/2024 10:42

Viewfrommyhouse · 02/11/2024 22:38

None of my cats wear collars. They're climbers - and I've seen quick release collars fail. They are microchipped though.

OP said the cat is wearing a collar.

Runnerinthenight · 02/11/2024 23:22

Viewfrommyhouse · 02/11/2024 23:18

Mine were all feral kittens. Literally off the streets. I quite like the skin on my arms and face. I attempted to collar them all once. Never again TYVM.

I hear you!!😄

Viewfrommyhouse · 02/11/2024 23:18

Runnerinthenight · 02/11/2024 22:59

I hate collars on cats! I've only ever had one cat that was willing to wear one. He had a cute dicky bow from Harrod's for a while! 😎He was ginger and he looked so cute! I only put a collar on him because he was a roamer and back then people assumed that cats without collars didn't have an owner (we're talking 30 years ago!!)

Mine were all feral kittens. Literally off the streets. I quite like the skin on my arms and face. I attempted to collar them all once. Never again TYVM.

cadburyegg · 02/11/2024 23:06

Also, a few years ago one of our cats was run over and killed and someone posted on our neighbourhood fb page much along the same lines as you OP, that she was sorry but had found a dead cat, she couldn't stop to take it to the vet but hoped someone else might. As it happens we saw the post and were able to retrieve him. I was grateful to the person for posting and never resented her for not being able to stop. I was glad she did post because if we had found him without her posting (which we would have because he was on the road leading out of our estate) it would have definitely been much more of a shock.

JohnTheRevelator · 02/11/2024 23:04

XenoBitch · 01/11/2024 20:24

YANBU. I would not be able to deal with a dead cat, let alone take it in a taxi somewhere. I would saying where it is, and letting someone less squeamish deal with it.

Years ago, I hit a seagull with my motorbike. Someone on here told me to take it to a rescue... how? Put it in my pocket?

A few years ago,I was sitting at a bus stop near a large shopping centre. I noticed a young bird, probably a fledgling, hopping around under the bench seat nearby. A young woman sitting nearby also noticed it and said 'Do you think it's alright?'. I said 'The parents are probably nearby keeping an eye on it '. She replied 'I think you should take it home and look after it'. I was like WTAF?! Yes sure,I'll just stick it in my shopping trolley. I'm sure my 2 cats will love it!'. Madness!

Runnerinthenight · 02/11/2024 22:59

Viewfrommyhouse · 02/11/2024 22:38

None of my cats wear collars. They're climbers - and I've seen quick release collars fail. They are microchipped though.

I hate collars on cats! I've only ever had one cat that was willing to wear one. He had a cute dicky bow from Harrod's for a while! 😎He was ginger and he looked so cute! I only put a collar on him because he was a roamer and back then people assumed that cats without collars didn't have an owner (we're talking 30 years ago!!)

Runnerinthenight · 02/11/2024 22:48

LameBorzoi · 02/11/2024 22:30

You implied it in your post.

I don't believe I did. I don't think I fully shared a lifetime of having many many cats?

cadburyegg · 02/11/2024 22:41

YANBU at all.

A couple of years ago I sadly ran over and killed a cat, I took it to the vet then as it was my responsibility to do so.

If I saw a dead cat on the street / road and was able to do so, I would take it to the vet. If I didn't have a car then I wouldn't. No way would I fork out for a taxi. And I say this as an avid cat lover. Absolutely bonkers.

You did more than enough OP for finding someone who was able to help.

Viewfrommyhouse · 02/11/2024 22:38

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 02/11/2024 22:26

I take it there’s no tag on the collar with contact details? I thought that was the whole point of having a collar. Completely unreasonable for anyone to be giving you abuse over not taking it to a vet to be scanned. If it bothers them that much they should be doing it themselves not blaming someone else who can’t

None of my cats wear collars. They're climbers - and I've seen quick release collars fail. They are microchipped though.

LameBorzoi · 02/11/2024 22:30

Runnerinthenight · 02/11/2024 22:17

How do you know what I have or have not done?!

You implied it in your post.

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 02/11/2024 22:26

I take it there’s no tag on the collar with contact details? I thought that was the whole point of having a collar. Completely unreasonable for anyone to be giving you abuse over not taking it to a vet to be scanned. If it bothers them that much they should be doing it themselves not blaming someone else who can’t

Viewfrommyhouse · 02/11/2024 22:26

I probably wouldn't pay for a taxi (I drive anyway), but I would and have responded to these types of posts on Facebook. The last episode was a bit traumatic tbh, the cat had passed and was not in a good way (thankfully, cat was chipped, owners werw located, we met up), but I have cats, and if that had happened to one of mine, I know how utterly grateful I would be if someone did that for me. I've got my ds out of bed in the mornings on occasion to fetch/take a casualty to the vet. If I know about these kind if incidents and I'm able to help, I just would. I'd feel terribly guilty if not, it would be on my mind for a long time after.

Runnerinthenight · 02/11/2024 22:21

Flossflower · 02/11/2024 10:15

Sorry, I don’t care about the cat owners who let their cats out because they don’t seem to care about birds and other wildlife that their cats kill.

I've a neighbour with 3 cats who roam freely. My three are indoors. We agree to disagree! I don't believe she actively doesn't care about the birds etc they kill, in fact I know it upsets her, but she prioritises the happiness of her cats as she sees it.

I'm fond of her cats although two of them in particular are killing machines, and I'm often to be seen trying to prevent further murders in my garden. I'd be v upset for her if any of her cats was killed on the road.

Runnerinthenight · 02/11/2024 22:17

LameBorzoi · 02/11/2024 04:14

You can't know because you never tried. It takes weeks or longer to train an animal, or for it to adjust, not days.

How do you know what I have or have not done?!

Ginmonkeyagain · 02/11/2024 15:51

I found a dead cat on the side of the road a while ago. I was going to work so placed it to one side out of the way of cars and pedestrians and let the Council know. I posted on our local forum and left it at that. I haven't got the time to go hunting down the owners of dead cats.

Æthelred · 02/11/2024 15:43

Isthisreallyathing · 02/11/2024 14:32

I managed to find someone on a missing cat/dog page who had a scanner so they came out and sorted it all out . Poor cat but if it happens again i definitely won’t post on the local page !

After your experience, who could possibly blame you?

Not one of my late mother's numerous cats made it to old age; nearly all of them ended up as roadkill. I recall one incident in 1987, not long before an estrangement that lasted until just before her demise in 1994, where one Sunday afternoon there was a knock on the door. It was a motorist who had just run over and killed a cat. He'd taken the time and trouble to stop and the cat's collar led him to knock on our door. Cue a deranged, hysterical reaction from my drunken alcoholic mother.. "You murdered my Mog!", she wailed and went to attack him. I prevented the assault, thanked the motorist for his time and trouble and made a mental note that if I should ever find myself in this situation, I would not put myself at risk of a similar onslaught. Thankfully to the best of my knowledge I have never run over anyone's pet and I hope it stays that way.

Isthisreallyathing · 02/11/2024 14:32

I managed to find someone on a missing cat/dog page who had a scanner so they came out and sorted it all out . Poor cat but if it happens again i definitely won’t post on the local page !

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AquaPeer · 02/11/2024 14:05

I see people doing the same a lot on local groups op.

ive always thought it reflects the difference between cat/ pet owners and not- I am extremely squimish about dead or injured animals and unfortunately I wouldn’t be able to do anything. Which when people hear they think of their much loved cat and it makes them angry

Justletmemoveon · 02/11/2024 14:03

We did take an injured seagull to the vet once, but it took my husband ages to catch it in a towel and box it up. My daughter was about 5 at the time and got quite attached to it, and for several years afterwards still believed that the vet ‘taking care of it’ meant it was there being looked after like royalty 😬.

I don’t think you should made to feel bad about not taking a dead cat to the vet in your circumstances tho and sorry you had a rough time on FB.

IamnotwhouthinkIam · 02/11/2024 13:46

Imo the indoor vs outdoor argument for cats is never going to be resolved- because even animal “experts” (behaviouralists etc) can’t seem to agree afaik. It’s a bit like whether 2 years olds are ready for nursery, everyone’s opinions seem to differ depending on their own situation!

My personal opinion based on the behaviour of the majority of the cats I’ve known -is better a potentially shorter but seemingly happier life being able to go outside sometimes, than being shut in. But although it might be better for the cat, it’s so hard on the owners- so if OP is able to find someone to scan the cat, she’d be doing a lovely thing Flowers

Like a previous poster mentioned - my council also has a team that scans pets found by the roads, so might be worth checking with yours OP?

PivotPivotPIVOTTTT · 02/11/2024 10:25

YANBU it totally depends on personal circumstances if you could drive didn’t have a toddler, had time and a close vet I would say it would be a nice thing to do for the owner (but that’s something someone would do out of kindness not a requirement) other than that I would give a local cat charity a call - again this would be the kind thing to do.

whoever wrote the fox comment, you clearly have issues you need to address weirdo 😂

Mynewnameis · 02/11/2024 10:24

People always seem angry on posts like this. Not your fault op. I wouldn't be taking a random dead cat to the vet either. I'd contact the rescue charity.

Gymmum82 · 02/11/2024 10:22

I have taken a few dead cats to the vets to be scanned. Also if I see a post on fb where someone has just left the cat there I will make an effort if I can to go and pick it up and take it. I own cats. I appreciate there is a risk letting them roam. But I would also appreciate someone putting in the effort to find me if the worst should happen. I cannot expect that effort if I’m not willing to do it myself.

Parry5timesbeforedeath · 02/11/2024 10:18

usernother · 01/11/2024 20:22

In my area there is a person from one of the local cat charities that has a mobile scanner and will come out to the cat.

Yes we have the same. We also have a new business in our area for people who need to be transported with their pets to the vet etc. I think it is such a brilliant idea and hope so much they succeed.

Flossflower · 02/11/2024 10:15

Runnerinthenight · 02/11/2024 01:01

That's harsh! I never have found, and hopefully never will find, myself in this position, because I would really be on the horns of a dilemma! I am really squeamish about dead creatures and I don't know I'd be up for handling it even though I know it's the right thing to do, and I am a massive cat lover!

I'd definitely try to contact someone to pick it up though.

The idea of a fox taking it away is deeply abhorrent! That's most likely someone's pet!! Have you ever tried to keep a cat indoors that has a strong instinct to be free? I guess not. I am thankful that my current three cats are content to be indoors. However, all three prior to rescue had been used to being out, one as a stray, another neglected, and the third was indoor/outdoor, so I could have had a dilemma!! You can't restrict a cat that's not happy indoors. It's not fair on them. You don't appear to know a lot about cats, do you?

Sorry, I don’t care about the cat owners who let their cats out because they don’t seem to care about birds and other wildlife that their cats kill.