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Too be really fucking angry with people who just let abuse happen- Sara Sharif

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dinomirror · 01/11/2024 20:01

Reading it now its horrific. People saying we heard screams- and yet did nothing??? How does a person just think that no im not going to report this, most likely because they cant be bothered/ dont want to be involved. Scum of the earth the dad is. The stepmother ( and her sister!) going on and on about how they feel bad etc and dont do anything!

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Peonies007 · 02/11/2024 20:00

Lettherebejustice · 02/11/2024 19:58

Omg I didn't even think of that, I assumed it was likely her which is why she refused. But there could be another reason she refused and that is covering up for someone else.

The older brother was ruled out. I don't think under 5s would have bite strong enough?

Lettherebejustice · 02/11/2024 19:58

Sunshineandrainbow · 02/11/2024 17:15

Is she the one that has refused dental impressions?

I hope to high heaven that they didn't make a sibling bite her.

Omg I didn't even think of that, I assumed it was likely her which is why she refused. But there could be another reason she refused and that is covering up for someone else.

Diorchristian · 02/11/2024 19:44

It's a bit like calling for ambulance threads or going to a and e though.

People think if they call 999 an ambulance will immediately come even if their issue isn't quite as bad as a heart attack.

999 will triage you, so will a and e so why not go or call and let the professionals triage it.

Same with this sort of thing I mean poor Arthur, his grandma was worried sick about him and reported her own son to ss and still they had the wool pulled over thier eyes...

MeridianB · 02/11/2024 19:39

comedycentral · 01/11/2024 20:09

You hear similar things all the time on here: lots of posters reporting really concerning things they see and hear. In some cases, there is endless crying, shouting, and all sorts of things, and they just listen in for months before posting a hand-wringing post wondering if they are interfering or overreacting. I know it's hard to be that person, but as long as you have good intentions, then surely it's better than doing nothing.

Exactly. And tons of replies saying “Mind your own business / Don’t get involved / Probably a parent having a tough day / Don’t judge / Snitches get stitches’.

It’s shameless.

Diorchristian · 02/11/2024 19:27

@HaveYouSeenRain of course but grandad can afford top private schools for grandchild, flying back business class, he looks like he's speaking from a large house in Pakistan, the article mentions a gated property.

HaveYouSeenRain · 02/11/2024 18:58

Diorchristian · 02/11/2024 18:05

Looking at some of older people articles on this it looks like Grandad in Pakistan has money.
He wants custody of the children, he said 2 girls have sen and the oldest boy is a talented cricketer he wants to put into a good private school.
I wonder if this is where the money has come from??

Apparently 10 houses were raided there in connection to the disappearance.

10 houses doesn’t mean the family owns them, could be extended family houses. They were hiding somewhere, and probably with family members.

sounds like the children were removed and are in a Pakistani children’s home. Poor children, I am sure they are all traumatised for life.

Diorchristian · 02/11/2024 18:20

@Peonies007 the house in Pakistan

jannier · 02/11/2024 18:14

coxesorangepippin · 01/11/2024 20:18

Ethnically British people don’t have this kind of culture,

^

Huh????!

What culture...abuse, keeping nose out, are you deluded?

Peonies007 · 02/11/2024 18:11

Diorchristian · 02/11/2024 18:05

Looking at some of older people articles on this it looks like Grandad in Pakistan has money.
He wants custody of the children, he said 2 girls have sen and the oldest boy is a talented cricketer he wants to put into a good private school.
I wonder if this is where the money has come from??

Apparently 10 houses were raided there in connection to the disappearance.

I have checked and the house hasn't sold since records before records started to be shown online. So they rented.

Diorchristian · 02/11/2024 18:07

I also wonder if they were removed to do abuse there.
A polish uncle posted a pic and on that pic when she's much younger you can see bruises.

Diorchristian · 02/11/2024 18:05

Looking at some of older people articles on this it looks like Grandad in Pakistan has money.
He wants custody of the children, he said 2 girls have sen and the oldest boy is a talented cricketer he wants to put into a good private school.
I wonder if this is where the money has come from??

Apparently 10 houses were raided there in connection to the disappearance.

HaveYouSeenRain · 02/11/2024 18:00

Sunshineandrainbow · 02/11/2024 17:15

Is she the one that has refused dental impressions?

I hope to high heaven that they didn't make a sibling bite her.

Yes she refused

fedup33 · 02/11/2024 17:41

That little girl's face. The sadness, the desperation. How she was failed.

Sunshineandrainbow · 02/11/2024 17:15

HaveYouSeenRain · 02/11/2024 13:04

The girl had bitemarks that don’t match the father or uncle so I assume the stepmother was also violent. Wasnt she the one that ordered the tape from amazon?

Is she the one that has refused dental impressions?

I hope to high heaven that they didn't make a sibling bite her.

hotpotlover · 02/11/2024 17:11

HaveYouSeenRain · 02/11/2024 17:04

From December, don’t know what happened since.

Reporting restrictions continue to apply to almost every detail of what has taken place in the family court proceedings in the high court in London involving the surviving children. But following a joint application by the Observer, the BBC and the Press Association, it can now be reported that Surrey county council has applied to a high court in Lahore, Pakistan to seek the return of the five siblings.
The court case in Lahore continues in parallel with the ongoing wardship proceedings in this country.

I hope that all children will be returned to the UK and placed with foster parents/adoptive parents.

The stepmum is unlikely to have as lengthy of a prison sentence as the father.

She should have no chance of "mothering" these children again.

HaveYouSeenRain · 02/11/2024 17:04

Pigeonqueen · 02/11/2024 16:55

I was surprised about this as well. Surely the children should be in the U.K, this is their home. The brother as well - I may be wrong but I thought Sara’s Mum was in the UK? I wonder why he hasn’t been placed with her?

From December, don’t know what happened since.

Reporting restrictions continue to apply to almost every detail of what has taken place in the family court proceedings in the high court in London involving the surviving children. But following a joint application by the Observer, the BBC and the Press Association, it can now be reported that Surrey county council has applied to a high court in Lahore, Pakistan to seek the return of the five siblings.
The court case in Lahore continues in parallel with the ongoing wardship proceedings in this country.

Lavenderfields21 · 02/11/2024 16:58

The only logical reason for the stepmum not providing dental impressions is that she knows the bite marks are hers.
The father is protecting her because I assume he wants his other kids to have their mum look after them.

Pigeonqueen · 02/11/2024 16:55

hotpotlover · 02/11/2024 16:47

It's a shame that Pakistan won't send the siblings back to the UK.

I think this is one of the cases where being placed with family isn't always the best idea.

I was surprised about this as well. Surely the children should be in the U.K, this is their home. The brother as well - I may be wrong but I thought Sara’s Mum was in the UK? I wonder why he hasn’t been placed with her?

VentingPillowStuffing · 02/11/2024 16:51

As a child I grew up surrounded by domestic violence. My mother and her boyfriend would have incredibly violent fights, there were suicide attempts, I'd come out of my room to find blood spattered in the bathroom sink. I'd be on my way home from school and I could hear them going at it several houses away. There's no way the neighbours didn't hear, we had family friends talk to my brother and I about it, plenty of adults knew what was going on and yet my brother and I were the only ones to ever call the police when necessary. I even tried talking to teachers and my school counsellor about it and nothing was done, ever.

I was not subjected to what this poor baby went through, but my point is many adults outside of the home knew what my home life was like and no one ever helped me, no one asked if I was ok. It went on for 10+ years, I'm in my 30s now and still bitter about how many adults failed me when all they had to do was ask me if I was ok.

hotpotlover · 02/11/2024 16:47

It's a shame that Pakistan won't send the siblings back to the UK.

I think this is one of the cases where being placed with family isn't always the best idea.

Peonies007 · 02/11/2024 16:37

HaveYouSeenRain · 02/11/2024 15:58

3 bedrooms so I assume some of the kids or the uncle downstairs? Certainly very crowded

The floorplan of similar house in the same road.
Bedroom 1 - 4m x 3.6m
Bedroom 2 - 3m x 3m
Bedroom 3 - 3.1m x 2.1m
One living room downstairs.

Our house is bigger, with 4 beds and only 3 kids and we feel squeezed. Plus not much bulky toddler toys.

Diorchristian · 02/11/2024 16:36

In such a small house, with all the chatter and talk of small children he missed prolonged abuse?
Anyway I'm sure I read his dna was on a weapon, could be wrong but if I was his solicitor it's what I would be telling him as well.

Say you didn't know.

Diorchristian · 02/11/2024 16:33

@HaveYouSeenRain

Arthur was due back at school on 8th June and they made excuses as to why he couldn't go.

Peonies007 · 02/11/2024 16:06

HaveYouSeenRain · 02/11/2024 15:48

Maybe the brother also worked and paid rent?

He studied at Uni is my understanding