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Can you dress too young for your age?

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Elliebobhobnob · 01/11/2024 18:38

Can you dress too young for your age, and if so how would you define dressing too young?

It could be a man or woman.

I'm interested to know how someone would describe a person dressing too young.

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Ponoka7 · 01/11/2024 19:32

Generally, no. There's some styles of trainers/boots that I think are a bit too young for me (nearly 60), but I only reject them because there's enough to chose from that I like. There's dresses from 'Oh Polly' that I would say are probably left to the under 40's. I think that some styles of suit are more for men under 40. There's more refined ways to look good. But actual clothing, trainers, converse, minis etc, is ageless these days.
@ClytemnestraWasMisunderstood should we really consider sayings from the 1800's as a guide to modern life?

Changingplace · 01/11/2024 19:32

AndThereSheGoes · 01/11/2024 19:20

I think that's the issue though. Lots of people tend to wear " the trend" which varies by age. They often don't dress like individuals.
I think if you wear whatever the current fashion is for a different age it looks wrong.

I think what’s wrong is judging what anyone else is wearing, how does it tactually affect you? Why care? Leave people to wear whatever clothes they like, being judgy is so dull.

Petrine · 01/11/2024 19:32

I would say that you can most definitely dress in clothing which is far too young for your age. I recently saw a woman who looked to be in her late 50’s wearing a puff-sleeved gauzy frilly above the knee dress. She looked ridiculous. The dress was something a waif-like teenager would wear.

There’s so many stylish clothes out there… no need to dress in something which doesn’t suit you, whether that’s down to your age, your shape, your size or your personal style, it doesn’t matter - just wear something flattering.

Tiredalwaystired · 01/11/2024 19:32

No. Because the older you get the less fucks you give about what anyone else thinks.

MadnessIsMyMiddleName · 01/11/2024 19:31

I think once you get to a point where you have noticeable wrinkles, you do tend to look like mutton dressed as lamb if you go out wearing really short skirts, even if you do have nice legs, as the wrinkles tend to give you away. T-shirts with logos also tend to look a bit like you're dressing too young at that point too.

However, I'm a great believer in - if it makes you feel good, then wear it, however old you are, as if you feel good about yourself and the way you look, your confidence makes you look good to others regardless of your age.

DrizzleMySwizzle · 01/11/2024 19:30

Wear whatever you want, whatever sparks joy etc. etc.

But yes, I do think you can dress too young. I saw a woman of about 70 wearing a pink velour Juicy Couture tracksuit the other day (the type Paris Hilton et al wore in 2002) and it looked...incongruous.

Theresa May loved (may still love) a strapless dress but I don't think they did her any favours.

I know a 70 year old man who wears skinny jeans and hoodies. Looks comedic.

bengalcat · 01/11/2024 19:28

It’s a no from me

SoporificLettuce · 01/11/2024 19:26

Have you never heard the saying
“mutton dressed as lamb” ?

yes, yes you can dress too young!

OopsyDaisie · 01/11/2024 19:25

I know a 45yo who wears Minnie Mouse pink sweaters, I find it a bit too much (although this is coupled with other "childish" things she does, she has had a fair but if trauma and Peter Pan syndrome, so that may play a part of my thinking....)
But otherwise, generally I don't think so...

Elliebobhobnob · 01/11/2024 19:25

I don't personally believe in dressing too young.

But I'm 40 and it is something I worry about. I wear all sorts of clothes, dresses, jeans, joggers, boots, trainers, converse, knitwear, hoodies. I tend to avoid big logos or anything that's both short and tight. I'm definitely a casual dresser but do wear floaty skirts and dresses in Summer.

My teenage son told me I dress young for my age and he told dh that a pack of t-shirts was 'too young for him and that he should remember he's 40.

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AndThereSheGoes · 01/11/2024 19:20

Changingplace · 01/11/2024 18:41

No, clothes are down to the individual, I don’t think age has anything to do with it.

I think that's the issue though. Lots of people tend to wear " the trend" which varies by age. They often don't dress like individuals.
I think if you wear whatever the current fashion is for a different age it looks wrong.

NeelyOHara1 · 01/11/2024 19:16

I like the "mutton dressed as ram", counter, lol.

5128gap · 01/11/2024 19:13

I wear clothes that on paper would be considered way too young for me. I am firmly convinced they look fine and suit me, so I'm going to carry on until I think otherwise, or my very honest adult DD tips me the wink.

ClytemnestraWasMisunderstood · 01/11/2024 19:12

Elliebobhobnob · 01/11/2024 19:06

Yes but what is mutton dressed as lamb?

It's from days of yore when butchers were selling mutton (tougher meat from sheep over 2 years old, I think), but dressing it up wiith various herbs, etc, to make it look like lamb
'The origin of the idiom "mutton dressed as lamb" can be traced back to the 17th century in England. In those times, mutton was a term used to refer to the meat of an older sheep, which was considered to be of lower quality and less desirable than lamb, the meat of a younger sheep. The idiom likely originated from the practice of trying to pass off the inferior mutton as the more desirable lamb.'
'Over time, the idiom evolved to take on a figurative meaning, referring to someone who is trying to appear younger or more attractive than they actually are, much like trying to pass off mutton as lamb. The idiom has since become a popular way to discourage someone from engaging in a particular activity or to criticize someone's appearance or behavior.'

SocksAndTheCity · 01/11/2024 19:09

Elliebobhobnob · 01/11/2024 19:06

Yes but what is mutton dressed as lamb?

It's a misogynistic and ageist slur aimed at making women feel bad about themselves and lose confidence in their appearance. Because we need more of those, obviously.

Elliebobhobnob · 01/11/2024 19:06

ClytemnestraWasMisunderstood · 01/11/2024 19:03

Mutton dressed as lamb is an adage worth considering

Yes but what is mutton dressed as lamb?

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ClytemnestraWasMisunderstood · 01/11/2024 19:03

Mutton dressed as lamb is an adage worth considering

40andlovelife · 01/11/2024 19:02

Cocolapew · 01/11/2024 18:45

Yes.

So stunning. So brave.

AuntieStella · 01/11/2024 19:00

Of course you can't!!

It's just lazy and ageist stereotyping.

Better to look in your mirror and wear what you feel terrific in, than adopt arbitrary "rules" based on how many candles on your last birthday cake

NeelyOHara1 · 01/11/2024 19:00

I think as long as it's "casual" young rather than "dressing up" young you should be fine, lol.

VioletCrawleyForever · 01/11/2024 19:00

Age is just a number.

Wear whatever you like and enjoy.

screamtoabloodysigh · 01/11/2024 18:59

I'd like to say no, but if I had my hair scraped back; false eyelashes; montirex top Nike pro shorts and crocs on, I would feel like I'm dressing too young.

But then, there are lots of mini goths around at the minute, which was my style and still something i dip into. So am I suddenly dressing too young there? Or does that not count because it's all, essentially, theatre?

Caffeineismydrug35 · 01/11/2024 18:59

Life is too short to care about these things. When I’m not working I live in tracksuits and trainers in a range of colours. Sadly, my face still shows my age so no one is mistaking me for a twenty something! I also often buy teen clothes and shoes because I’m short and they often fit better.

Meadowfinch · 01/11/2024 18:58

No, I don't think so. I know an 82yo lady who still runs park run and she wears the neatest and best fitting jeans with a slim-hipped wiggle.

Wear clothes that suit your lifestyle

ChillysWaterBottle · 01/11/2024 18:56

If you're wearing a baby onesie then yeah.

Otherwise no. Dress how you like/feel comfortable.