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Women being nasty/body shaming other women

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Autumnlovelove · 01/11/2024 14:37

Ive just seen an article in the Daily Mail with a headline intending to body shame.
It really angers me.
I know everyone says what do you expect from journalists especially something like the Daily Mail.
But seriously in this day and age with so much focus on being kind and issues surrounding peoples mental health you would think this horrible attitude would stop.

The article is about Lauren from Only way is Essex and is clearly written in a way for people to mock her. Its so nasty especially as Lauren has spoken up only recently about how low she feels.

The fact that its another woman doing this for some reason makes me feel even angrier.

Ive posted the article on here just to show how awful journalists are and hope that Journalists like this will eventually be called out and cancelled.

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loropianalover · 01/11/2024 15:08

Autumnlovelove · 01/11/2024 15:03

It want just me that felt that the article was baiting.

So here’s 3 men being rude, yet it’s the female journo who very likely didn’t choose the pics or caption that you blast?! 🤣

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 01/11/2024 15:05

Also, the person who wrote the piece won't be the person who took the photos and maybe the photos landed on her desk and she decided to make something positive out of the paps being sleezy bastards.

TheLever · 01/11/2024 15:04

I also see these articles as having a dig at women they know exactly what reaction they get in the comments. There is no reason for these photos they don’t look staged and this is an article about absolutely nothing. Most of them are like this now

MartinCrieffsLemon · 01/11/2024 15:04

InformerYaNoSayDaddyMeSnowMeIGoBlameALickyBoom · 01/11/2024 15:04

Women being nasty.... like you putting the name and photo of a journalist up because you interpreted a totally bland article as being nasty?

Talk about being chronically online and getting your kicks from naming and shaming people.

Edited

Exactly

Talks about being kind whilst attacking a journalist and trying to encourage people to go after them...

bunnypenny · 01/11/2024 15:04

Autumnlovelove · 01/11/2024 15:03

It want just me that felt that the article was baiting.

They are all comments from men, not the women you’re claiming are tearing Lauren down. Men think women exist only to be pleasing to their eye so who gives a fuck what they think.

MartinCrieffsLemon · 01/11/2024 15:04

Pap photos are always terrible

If your post was about how terrible pap photos are then that's a different issue

But trying to make this about body shaming, and calling out the journalist who didn't even write the SM tag most likely, is the problem.

InformerYaNoSayDaddyMeSnowMeIGoBlameALickyBoom · 01/11/2024 15:04

Women being nasty.... like you putting the name and photo of a journalist up because you interpreted a totally bland article as being nasty?

Talk about being chronically online and getting your kicks from naming and shaming people.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 01/11/2024 15:03

Autumnlovelove · 01/11/2024 14:55

I felt it was used so that people would comment negatively.
I obviously got it wrong and did t realise it was supposed to be a positive story.
My mistake.

Well, you may have got it right. None of us know what's in the writers head.

But I would say theres potentially an issue here with those people commenting about how the article is nasty. Think of it this way.

Is it possible they read the article. They thought - looking good heart? What? She does not look good. She's not super thin and dressed up, that's not looking good. Aha! The article must be having a secret go at her the bastards!

Because in the reader's eye, she does not look good and therefore they assume the writer must not be genuine.

Because if they look at the photo and think she looks fab, would they assume the writer was being disingenuous?

That said, it is absolutely possible they hit the nail on the head and the writer was being a cow.

Or maybe they assumed the writer must be being a cow because the writer is a woman and that's how they think women are about other women?

Autumnlovelove · 01/11/2024 15:03

It want just me that felt that the article was baiting.

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Autumnlovelove · 01/11/2024 15:00

INeedAnotherName · 01/11/2024 14:59

So the journalist mentions she's happy (beams) and mentions quality time with her child and you immediately think the journalist is trying to knock that woman down?

Maybe it should be you having a SM timeout.

Maybe

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INeedAnotherName · 01/11/2024 14:59

So the journalist mentions she's happy (beams) and mentions quality time with her child and you immediately think the journalist is trying to knock that woman down?

Maybe it should be you having a SM timeout.

Autumnlovelove · 01/11/2024 14:59

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 01/11/2024 14:54

So the words read "looking good Lauren"

And you've interpreted that as them having a dig?

Is that because you don't think it's possible for her to look good? You think they must mean the opposite of what they said?

I think she does look good but showing a photo of a ladies bottom whilst walking her child to school suggests that the article wasnt being entirely sincere.

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Autumnlovelove · 01/11/2024 14:57

@MartinCrieffsLemon but it wasn't just me that felt that way. So maybe the article wasn't presented in the right way.

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MartinCrieffsLemon · 01/11/2024 14:55

Autumnlovelove · 01/11/2024 14:54

The comments also felt that the article was being horrible. Maybe we've all read it wrong as we are so used to the media tearing womens looks apart.

Yep

Some people are so intent on "being supportive" they start reading into things that aren't there

nam3c4ang3 · 01/11/2024 14:55

What on earth? You are the one who is reading into this as body shaming OP! You've put the journalist here for what exactly - so we can all confront her or something? How on earth is 'looking good' passive aggressive?! Why have you read it so - is it because you dont think she looks good ..... ?

loropianalover · 01/11/2024 14:55

MartinCrieffsLemon · 01/11/2024 14:54

Maybe get the picture of the journalist removed for a start...

I’ve reported it to at least remove her pic! Doubt she cares either way but I think it’s the fairest thing.

Autumnlovelove · 01/11/2024 14:55

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 01/11/2024 14:54

So the words read "looking good Lauren"

And you've interpreted that as them having a dig?

Is that because you don't think it's possible for her to look good? You think they must mean the opposite of what they said?

I felt it was used so that people would comment negatively.
I obviously got it wrong and did t realise it was supposed to be a positive story.
My mistake.

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MartinCrieffsLemon · 01/11/2024 14:54

Autumnlovelove · 01/11/2024 14:51

I apologise ive obviously got it wrong.

Maybe get the picture of the journalist removed for a start...

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 01/11/2024 14:54

So the words read "looking good Lauren"

And you've interpreted that as them having a dig?

Is that because you don't think it's possible for her to look good? You think they must mean the opposite of what they said?

Autumnlovelove · 01/11/2024 14:54

The comments also felt that the article was being horrible. Maybe we've all read it wrong as we are so used to the media tearing womens looks apart.

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ohyesido · 01/11/2024 14:54

I get what you mean. The article invites people to make negative comments about the angle of the photograph. Without actually doing it themselves.

The same publication printed photos of Katie Price without make up and captioned it "she's absolutely gorgeous!" Now regardless of body shaming, that caption is obviously inviting readers to make scornful comments

ATastingMenuButItsAllCrisps · 01/11/2024 14:53

(meant to have typed *seems to)

MartinCrieffsLemon · 01/11/2024 14:53

Autumnlovelove · 01/11/2024 14:50

@MartinCrieffsLemon you would read that as supportive?
Oh okay i must be wrong. Its just in the past she has has been so body shamed by the media.

Ive got it wrong. I apologise obviously it was meant with good intent.

"Looking good ❤️" is something someone would put to support someone else. Replies probably echo it from people wanting to support her

Other comments are probably problematic but they'd appear under any article about her because trolls are vile

CleanShirt · 01/11/2024 14:52

I'm missing it too. Avoid the Daily Fail in future maybe.

Autumnlovelove · 01/11/2024 14:51

MartinCrieffsLemon · 01/11/2024 14:48

You're basically encouraging a hate campaign against this journalist for something the social media team has done (and which you are misinterpreting)

I apologise ive obviously got it wrong.

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