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Habit of talking to random women on social media?

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LilacWriter · 31/10/2024 22:12

My partner does this but not in a sexy, come on way.

He's on a few different platforms and he gets friendly with random women (and some men occasionally) about hobbies and things quite often.

Like today a woman posted a Halloween video with a dog on Twitter and he replied how cute it was. She replied again and he sent back a big paragraph.

Meanwhile, I got 2 sentences out of him today online.

I mean.... we're in our 30s so we're not kids. AIBU to find this behaviour odd? He's made it clear he doesn't cheat in relationships but it makes me feel like he's looking for something extra sometimes

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LilacWriter · 31/10/2024 22:22

In person everything is good.

I just think it's weird that he's often starting these little chats and connections with people, mostly women. I find it goes on for weeks or months with specific people then stops (unless he's friends with them outside).

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Limpet1 · 31/10/2024 22:20

Mmmmmm I’m unsure that his motives seem like he is trying to find an in with the opposite sex in that case but I’d still find it odd him giving strangers more attention than he does his partner.

I suppose if he isn’t being inappropriate and just chatting there’s not a lot you can really say barring making the decision you find it too odd and he’s not the person for you.

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LilacWriter · 31/10/2024 22:19

With the dog video, the chat went something like Her: 'you love dogs too?'

Him: I love them, have two at home bla bla bla.

Maybe this is normal on Twitter, I don't know

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beetr00 · 31/10/2024 22:18

does he do the same with random men too @LilacWriter?

If not, you know everything you need.

eta; cross-post.

Still, it's unusual, am not surprised you're unsettled especially if he is not even present when you're together.

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LilacWriter · 31/10/2024 22:17

@Limpet1 no, he chats to men too, but I've noticed more women.

But the cutesy stuff does seem reserved for women. Its not all the time, maybe once a week.

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Limpet1 · 31/10/2024 22:15

This is not normal behaviour OP.

is it just women he communicates with?

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LilacWriter · 31/10/2024 22:14

I don't know if I'm just being really silly here. I just don't like it very much but know I can't tell him what to do.

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