Should I have been missing them more?

Good god. My kids were away for a week earlier this year and I was fucking delighted to get some peace.

I actually felt awkward when people said 'bet you're missing them' because...no?

I've looked after their every need for 15 years solid, can I just enjoy my six days of not doing so please, without being bloody mum-guilted into doing otherwise.

He sounds ridiculous! Of course you didn’t need to be pining, esp as it was only a couple of nights. That’s nothing!

I can quite easily be working the entire time if the kids are at their Dad and not get round to any housework. Esp if I dare to have one night out - which it was a good opportunity for you to do!

Re the Halloween “effort” what does he want you to do? I thought sorting costumes and going trick or treating was all there was to Halloween! 😕

Every one needs a break from the kids now and then if possible.

He's trying to start a fight, probably feels he's had a tough few days because you usually do all the parenting. He can't say that without looking pathetic, so he's nitpicking to start a fight where he can get his frustration out.

Surely Halloween decorations are done with the kids, I don't know many adults who sit carving pumpkins on their own. If anything he should have carved some when he was off with the kids and you were at work.

Don't feel bad, don't rise to it, think about whether he has any redeeming qualities.

The out drinking comment would annoy me it’s one night out with a colleague after work. I bet you packed for dc too?
What was he envisioning beyond costumes and trick or treat. If he wanted decorations etc then he was the one off work to sort it.

He's jealous. I wouldn't miss my kids if my husband took them for a few days. Fuck me I deserve the break. He however would come back grumpy and exhausted from being the primary parent for a few days.

Er, no. It’s an ongoing joke that I love it when he/the children go away for a couple of days! It’s my time to do my own thing and he has no expectations that I’ll be rushing around doing chores in the evenings (although I sometimes have a good tidy-up when they’re away). He has no problem if I go out with friends.

He’s being an arse, tell him to stop.

He is pissed off he had to actually parent his own kids for 2 days.

Sounds like he is spoiling for a fight so he can flounce off and have some me time. Quickest way to big himself up is to put you down.

I hope this is a one off @DanInTheMirror

How dare he. I bet you very rarely take any me time if that's his reaction. I bet he had to do feck all at his family also!

Call him out in it now. You are a human being and need some down time. He either apologised or I would definitely make his me time a pain to even the playing field.

Ring fence and maintain me time weekly nobody can give from an empty well. Do not give in to this attitude.

And it is perfectly normal not to miss or pine they were barely gone and you were bloody working. Are we meant to be robots?

He is being very unreasonable.

and also I suspect a total hypocrite - if you went away with the kids for 2 nights, would he clean the house ? I bet he wouldn’t.

he seems to resent you enjoying 1 evening out. Which is pretty shit of him tbh

He can fuck off

I love my kids and look forward to going back home to them/them coming back to us but I don't miss them terribly or give think about them all that much while they're away.

Your 'D'H is being an arsehole and trying to play on some guilt he'd like you to have for... having a drink with friends while you have a break. Bloody hell.

What an arse!!

What happens when you take the DC away without him?

He’s threatened, wanted you to pine after him and is upset that you didn’t. Now he’s trying to spin it so he doesn’t have to feel so inadequate. I’d laugh in his face and tell him he should go away for longer next time to see if that helps you miss him more 😂

He's being unreasonable. I love my children but if they are away for two days, I won't be pining and constantly thinking about them 🙄Why is he angry that you had fun alone for one night? I would miss my children but it is not a big deal whatsoever to drink for one night while they are away

Christ. Mine are away with their dad (my ex) for 1-2 weeks at a time and I don't miss them. It's full on when they're here so I take the time out to see people, go places, yes I tidy or might even decorate but it's my time. I was a person for thirty odd years before I was a mum so occasionally I like to resurrect that version of myself.

I don't know...I'm imagining if a woman on here took the kids away for two nights and left her husband at home, he'd be flamed for having done no housework.

Pine? No. I’d have been boozing

So you got costumes and took them trick or treating but that wasn't good enough? If he has his own high standards for Halloween he should do it himself. Why is it on you to sort Halloween anyway?

He sounds like a knob, sorry.

I'd miss the kids, but I wouldn't pine for them. I'd enjoy myself, but I'd tidy the house up for sure. I'd also make sure whatever needed sorting for Halloween was sorted. No harm on fitting it all in.

He's jealous and is trying to make you feel bad to shit on your parade. Ignore the nob.

😂😂😂 Mister grumpy pants

Pining the whole time, no. I'd have done housework for sure though. But you should have been able to take a bit of time to relax and see your friend as well.

Awful man.