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Passive aggressive family

31 replies

Straightuptoyourface · 31/10/2024 13:29

Aibu to think once a person starts sending your child birthday cards and gifts, they should continue? I have 2 sisters and they have stopped this year for no reason. One of them did send a hb text. My daughter turned 3 last week. I know they continue to send cards and gifts to each others kids, who are a few years older. I don’t feel entitled, but it’s the inconsistency and changed behaviour that hurts. I definitely can’t say anything. We are not very close. Aibu to feel so hurt? What do other people do to deal with passive aggression? Confrontation is not an option.

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MargaretThursday · 31/10/2024 13:35

Why is that passive aggressive?

Amyknows · 31/10/2024 13:35

So this just happened last week and you've decided that They are passive aggressive? I'm sure there is more to this than you're saying.

Amyknows · 31/10/2024 13:33

No they do not need to continue. Quite entitled to think this. They should have given you a heads up though maybe, but no one owes your kid a gift.

Straightuptoyourface · 31/10/2024 13:32

Leeds2 · 31/10/2024 13:31

Did you say thank you, on your child's behalf, for the previous presents? If they posted them, did you let them know that the parcels had arrived? Just thinking of things which would annoy me and may, potentially, have annoyed your sisters.

Yes I always said thank you. Literally nothing has happened as to why they would be upset with me.

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Leeds2 · 31/10/2024 13:31

Did you say thank you, on your child's behalf, for the previous presents? If they posted them, did you let them know that the parcels had arrived? Just thinking of things which would annoy me and may, potentially, have annoyed your sisters.

PassingStranger · 31/10/2024 13:30

If your not close why bother.
Let them get on with it.
Family aren't worth stressing out over.
Nothing you can do anyway.