Haven’t paid rent in months!

And yet you still spent the money and didn’t think to pay the rent. Come off it!

First things first Go to your bank and find out why your Standing order didn’t go out.
Get written confirmation.
Reinstate it if you can.
Work out your finances so that you can pay your rent + part of arrears each month.
Speak to your guarantor
then
finally speak to your landlord.
No point speaking to landlord unless you know you can make the new payments

Do we have an update yet?

Lets hope the landlord doesn't have a mortgage else he will be be arrears and bank could take the house off him permanently. Lets hope it doesn't come to that. Not sure what Mumsnet is supposed to do, probably wise to call landlord in the first instance and your guarantor in that order. Also get some help.

That might be beneficial to the OP too by the sounds of it.

I think this.

I’m sorry your MH is so bad Op. Can you get some practical help for it, rather than simply medication?

Citizens Advice is a good first place to start. They can do a benefit check snd their debt advisors can help sort out a debt management plan

Yeah I wonder why...

I've read the whole thread, but this is my first post on it, I was just thinking the OP might be in trouble with the DWP, if she's spent the money meant for her rent, would it be misappropriation of funds?

I'm also starting to think, as she hasn't come back to update anything that she might have been hoping for offers of money.

If she's not a troll that is.

OP hasn't been back ...

@SilverChampagne if the payments were going into the deceased son's bank account and they closed it, they would fail? Still up to OP to check the payments were made and the new landlord was receiving the rent.

If your standing order had been set up properly and had previously worked ok, it would have been going through.
They really don’t just fail, without intervention.

If I was the landlord, I would insist on direct payments.

@Uppoopcreek did you phone your landlord yesterday, as planned? His did the conversation go? Hopefully you were able to sort out some sort of payment plan to resolve the issue?

The op is relying on benefits. Maybe if she got a job she would be better off financially and mentally

Checking your bank account and managing money is about being a responsible adult even more so when you have children. It is not up to the landlord or anyone else to do it for you.

Absolutely! And laughably (although not funny ha ha) they think they're the moral upstanding ones!!

Don’t be ridiculous. Of course it exists but it is not an excuse to ignore paying your rent. What about the landlord or the OP children security?

Come on the op is trolling stop tying yourself in knots thinking of reasons for it to be true, there's millions of people in the ops position, I've been there in fact I've been broker than broke as I started my family before 21 and 21 year olds can legally be paid less than minimum wage.

If anything being broke is a reason to notice straight away that you're suddenly able to buy loads more without your card declining.

On a side note and this is going to sound harsh but if her mental health is so bad she doesn't notice thousands of extra pounds in her bank account then her mental health is probably causing loads of other problems too and social services should probably be checking on them kids

It is easy to check your balance but when you know no matter how you do your sums things aren't gonna add up it is depressing and easy to avoid, even without mental health issues.

I hate checking my bank for that reason. I've just been paid and after rent, topping up the gas, paying for my driving lesson and paying the broadband bill over 2 thirds of my wages are gone and I'll be skipping lunch again this week to make sure we can afford to heat the house for an hour a day and I work fulltime. I can't even begin to imagine how hard people in OP's situation are finding things.

Luckily, I will eventually pass my driving test and have that expense reduced dramatically, plus I can use my new driving licence to find a better job so I know there is end in sight. How demoralising must it be to mot have that light at the end of the tunnel? I wouldn't want to check my bank and confirm how much money I didn't have if I was in OP's shoes and I don't have any mental health struggles.

Why are people more annoyed at a landlord who wants the money they should have but not annoyed at someone who accidentally spent the 6 months rent they owed to a bereaved father?

No really, just check your bank balance. Just do it. It’s helpful in the long run and actually quite easy to do.

You actually believe this steaming pile of bull crap? No one doesn't notice they haven't paid their most expensive bill for six months if I didn't do that I'd have 6k extra in my bank account. She apparently has three kids so it can't be a small place plus renting privately not the council so you know her rent isn't cheap.
A close family member is schizophrenic their mental health is so bad they would never be allowed to be responsible for three kids and even they would notice straight away if their rent money wasn't going out their bank account.

Missing the point.

It is so easy to spend more than you realise when you're not checking your bank

Then check your bank?