Haven’t paid rent in months!

She sounds like one of the unreliable ones though unfortunately...

This was a response to WiddlinDiddlin but seems to have been attached to you, sorry

OK, I totally get what you are saying now. Sorry crossed wires on my side

Well said 👏 xxxx

A tenner on a taxi instead of a bus because it's raining; a luxury ready meal from the supermarket😯🤔. Then you don't pay your rent 😐. When I was a child and we were on benefits, every penny was a prisoner. We walked around a mile to a cheap supermarket, bought cheap food, walked a mile back to the bus stop, struggled on to the bus with a clapped out trolley, got off the bus and walked around another half mile to our house. A luxury was having toilet roll instead of yesterday's newspaper. If you're reliant on benefits, without meaning to be controversial, you shouldn't have an expectation of luxury supermarket meals or taxis to avoid a bit of rainfall.

Sorry, haven't read whole post. But If you are on Universal Credit you can ask them to make a payment arrangement to pay your rent directly to your landlord and pay instalments on arrears.

Looks like it's all getting sorted 👌

What sort of solution are you hoping for OP? Can you pay double rent until you’ve caught up?

Im not sure you meant to quote me, or if you did, you understood what I was saying...

Of course it doesn't... I don't think you've understood what it is.

It's not something people like me set out to do on purpose, it is something we can't help doing, or really struggle not to do.

It is fucking destructive and horrible to live with, lying there at night with all these worries racing through your head but you cannot make yourself check this, look for that, make a phone call, send an email.

Saying 'the problem is 'ostrich syndrome' does not actually help people get out of a situation'... is like saying 'catching flu doesn't help people feel well' or 'having your legs hacked off with a chain saw does not help you walk'...

We know it doesn't fucking help. Some people need more help to do these things, to avoid getting into a mess, than others.

How come needing a wheelchair because someone can't walk is accepted, but needing help with ND related issues isn't. They're both disabling, is the person with the wheelchair also just lying and doing it for attention? Do they need to just get a grip and get on with it because all have to, regardless of individual circumstances?

Awk I'm so pleased for you!!! Be kind to yourself. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

I think the problem is "ostrich syndrome" does not actually help people get out of a situation where they are not paying their bills because not paying your bills have consequences such as getting evicted. We all have to pay our bills regardless of individual circumstances. Someone you owe a bill to is entitled to receive the money.

You know how to grind my gears. I'm one off those people who buried their head in the sand, just hoping it would all be OK. I kept everything to myself. I ended up in hospital, full mental breakdown. I was there for 8 weeks & my kids were not taken off me!!!! Unfortunately I did loose my home but I finally got the help I needed. We found a new home & with a great team behind me, lots of deep therapy, I'm through the other side 🙂.

I wouldn't wish what happened to me to my worst enemy 😕 . I'm glad your perfect 😇

At this point I don't really care if OP is real or not - tbh on forums like this anyone could be lying out their arse, it doesn't really matter.

The number of people who cannot grasp how some conditions lead to a 'head in sand' 'Ostrich Syndrome' reaction is truly astonishing.

Just because you can do something, you find it easy... doesn't mean we all do!

I was thinking the same thing! Mental health effects People in all different ways. She came for advice & People are saying she needs her kids taken off her!! She hasn't committed an evil crime. Keyboard warriors at their best 👌

To be honest I feel more sympathy with the guarantor- if she or he is given a 6month rent bill you could cause HUGE problems for them.

And is still behind on other bills!

Why are people still giving advice?

Op is long gone.

If the OP has ADHD they will have spent all of the money impulsively on a load of crap, but doesn’t want the judgement. To be fair it’s how her brain works, she can’t think things through.

Hi op,

I am sorry life is hard atm.

What is suggested is really the first thing you need to do…make sure you pay next month. Then work your way up to the last unpaid months. If he wasn’t bothered, he might not be bothered to wait but never assume and ask what is possible.

Good luck 🌺

Not helpful, what is done is done. She needs help now.

I’ve a feeling she’ll be fine.

I am sorry. I would call the landlord with apologies and try to work out something sensible. But am not sure if this is good advice. What I know is that I understand he ADHD burying head in the sand bit. I have lost at least if not over £100,000 by burying my head in the sand including not billing work I have done. Its devastating when you momentarily pull your head out of the sand and then ADHDickhead rears its head again and am back in the sand.

Id speak to him and ask If you can set up an payment plan or something always better to speak to people and explain rather than ignore them but I know whats it is like i have Bipolar and can get in right muddle paying things with my brain fog.

Before people start throwing round accusations of OP not coming back because she may be a troll or that she was begging for money. The question in my mind is “Is she able to come back, is she okay, Im sure you all know what I mean by okay