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Travelling to other areas for trick or treating

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MidnightPatrol · 30/10/2024 20:25

I’d always assumed that everyone just trick or treated on their own / surrounding streets.

But our town’s parents group (mainly nursery and primary school chat) has people suggesting travelling to a handful of specific streets…

This does explain why there were quite so many trick or treaters last year (at least 100 - we eventually tuned the lights off and brought the pumpkins inside by about 7pm).

I thought it was just the local kids pottering round, not that their parents had driven them here.

Is this normal? Seems like CF behaviour to me!

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BeachHutsAndDeckchairs · 31/10/2024 19:51

I don't think it matters. If some kids live in a street where there are a lot of households not taking part, which is their right to do so, they would lose out if they couldn't travel elsewhere. My dc have taken themselves tonight and gone all over the place. No-one has come here.

thicklysettled · 31/10/2024 19:49

Only on MN do people begrudge giving sweets to kids who are "not from round here".

FFS, people.

Buy the sweets you're going to buy and when they run out, turn your front light off and be done with it.

30percent · 31/10/2024 19:49

It's weird because certain streets have nothing, no pumpkins, the lights are out etc then you'll turn a corner and the whole street is lit up with spooky Decs and kids everywhere. And these are streets with very similar houses and types of people living in them. Guess some streets just get into being "the area" for it. Saying that I'm still only walking about four blocks away so I'm hardly a "cheeky fucker" haha

tediber · 31/10/2024 19:46

My sisters area is like this. They have tonnes of kids arrive that aren't from the area. It really pisses her off as literally she had about 50 kids by 5.45pm and only 2 of them she knew.

I can see why ppl do it though my house is about 20yrs old and a lot of the "kids" around here are grown up so not as many ppl do it. In my street of 9 houses it's usually only me that's puts anything out. We often get left with at least half the bags. I had to walk hire a bit to even find say 10 houses and then it's home. I bumped into parent from the school and they were on their way to the new build estate over the back from us to go round the doors (she has family there to be fair so the kids were going out with cousins). So I can see why ppl do it but I'd feel a bit cheeky doing that.

florasl · 31/10/2024 19:46

We used to live in a new build estate that people from our city used to travel to. We used to get through 10kg of sweets from Costco every year. Now we live rurally we travel to a near buy estate on the edge of the village.

It’s odd that adults begrudge children from having a 5p lollipop because they happen to live in a less populated area.

VioletCrawleyForever · 31/10/2024 19:44

I have not asked one child yet for their proof of address tonight.

I really don't mind.

It's kids. It's one night.

Unclench people.

OpalSpirit · 31/10/2024 19:44

We used to drive to a village a couple of miles away.
The village was known for going to town on decorations and adults answering doors in costumes etc.

We used to go as we lived in a very rough area.
Didnt want to go into rabbit warrens of flats that were scary enough on a normal day, never mind with young men wearing scream masks!

If a child lives in an awful area should they have to miss out? Only local children in nice areas should be allowed to join in?

Soapy23 · 31/10/2024 19:43

We live on a small estate, when my teenagers were small nobody on here seemed to do anything and we never got any trick or treaters ourselves. I used to take them to do it with friends where they lived.

whatthedickens5 · 31/10/2024 19:41

We live in a more afluent area (by chance and we are not!) but yeah mums drive their kids into our small village to get better goodies. Also half the population of our small village is retired and they really do love kids coming round. Last year my son come back with a pillowcase rammed full of sweets 😳 We simply don't have enough kids in our village for all the sweets 🫣

pudseypie · 31/10/2024 19:40

We handed out 230 sweets in 1 hour tonight and had to put a sign saying we'd run out of sweets on our door. I recognised quite a few of the children and we always enjoy getting the house decorated and seeing the reactions. However, it's more and more kids each year, so I'm not convinced they're all local by the way the numbers are going up!

Username9898 · 31/10/2024 19:34

We ran out of sweets by 6.15 and we had over 100 to hand out. Lots of people travel to our road and I do think it’s a bit cheeky to be honest. I always think of it as being slightly reciprocal and that you should stick roughly to your area or do one of the local business trails if there is not much around your own house. My own LO was quite disappointed that other houses had already run out by the time we made it out (as the literal hordes of people at our door made it really hard to leave!).

HellofromJohnCraven · 31/10/2024 19:31

Literally don't care.
We live in a cul de sac at the end of a tiny estate (well to me) of 80 odd houses in 2 streets.
Kids come from all round cos we are in rural east sussex. Elsewhere around here it's lanes and sporadic houses so the kids would get nowt/give up!
Kids only knock on where houses have pumpkins/decorations. They make an effort and are a delight!

sprigatito · 31/10/2024 19:23

Screamingabdabz · 30/10/2024 23:45

I think it’s C AF. If you’ve chosen to live in some rural out of the way area then you should take the consequences of that. Not take from a community you’re unlikely to reciprocate to in any way.

What are you "taking" from the community? A few cheap sweets, or a mini Milky Way from people who have bought them to give out to children? Hardly a significant drain on local resources, is it?

It never ceases to amaze me how mean-spirited and transactional some people's attitudes are.

andHelenknowsimmiserablenow · 31/10/2024 19:23

I noticed driving home that there were loads of cars parked around the side streets where I live, as though every other house was having a party.
I bought loads of trick or treat sweets but have only recognised a handful of locals out of the trick or treaters so far.
One woman said she'd driven a few miles because most of their neighbours didn't like trick or treaters and we do here!
I don't really mind, but I'm running out of sweets now and it's not even 7.30 😁

iwentjasonwaterfalls · 31/10/2024 19:16

No issue with people travelling here. We never get many trick or treaters, but we run a little free library so we encourage people to come from all over our town to trick or treat. DD only did 3 or 4 houses tonight (v quiet residential area and we only went to decorated houses) but she's loved handing sweets out to trick or treaters!

whyamiawakestillitssolate · 31/10/2024 19:14

I’m afraid we’re CFs - we live in a very small village full of over 70s and there are literally no houses to trick or treat at - so we drive my dd to a friends area where there’s loads of houses decorated and people out and about. She’d be sad missing out on the fun.

My parents hand out loads in their area though so maybe they offset for us!

yeesh · 31/10/2024 19:09

I have had loads of kids knocking today, the only people I recognised was a family from TikTok 🤣🎃👻

TickingAlongNicely · 31/10/2024 19:09

We live on a "quiet," street in an area people don't drive to...

I've had 40-50 kids so far. The next street will get twice as many!

AnnieSnap · 31/10/2024 19:08

Calccalc · 30/10/2024 20:31

I thought that was the reason some streets really go to town with the decorations, to encourage people to come?

I don't hold with trick or treating at all myself, but I like 31st much better now people seem to know only to go to decorated houses 🤣

I wish! I have 3 dogs who go ballistic when the doorbell rings. We had no lights or decorations outside our house, but have had a stream of groups of ‘trick or treaters’ at the door 🙄

Rhaenys · 31/10/2024 18:55

No I don’t think it’s cheeky, because some areas have hardly any people participating.

I went to a school with a very large catchment area, and I used to like to meet up with my friends, which meant I very rarely went trick or treating in my area - or if I did, I’d be accompanied by children from “out of area”.

CommonAsMucklowe · 31/10/2024 18:35

Potentiallyplausible · 30/10/2024 20:33

I think it’s a bit cheeky, but then I don’t really approve of trick or treating. It wasn’t a thing when I was little.

Same here, kids take the mick grabbing sweets like they've never seen them before. And not a word of thanks. Best thing I did was buy a thick door curtain and retreat to the back room.

ToffeePennie · 31/10/2024 10:26

Amyknows · 31/10/2024 08:35

It's not, the area next to mine is known as a very 'American' area and they go all out expecting a large amount of kids.

I’m now wondering if we live in the same place. If so - hi from the hot chocolate lady!

DrRiverSong · 31/10/2024 09:51

I live in the middle of nowhere and there are only 4 houses here. If we didn’t travel my kids couldn’t trick or treat at all.

Summerbreeze456 · 31/10/2024 09:49

There's no Halloween round where we live (we've had one solitary group venture down our road last year). We are abroad, though, and it's not really a thing here. DS8 is going to the US military base tonight. It's safer and they go to streets that are set up for it. He's going with some friends and their children. It's the first time so we'll see how he likes it.

Borninabarn32 · 31/10/2024 09:42

Icecreamandcoffee · 31/10/2024 09:25

I think it's cheeky to drive to multiple other areas where you have no connection to. Fine if you are linking up with friends/ family or trick or treating school friends houses.

We live on a street of mainly old people and only 3 houses have children. No-one does Halloween on our street. Instead we are linking up with some school friends and trick or treating school friends houses.

Halloween tourism can really spoil it for everyone and it does get overwhelming. My friend lives in one of the estates and is always flagged on local FB as one of the "go to" areas where the street is all decorated. There is a school on the estate and most of the children who live on the estate go to the school. A few years ago, the trick or treaters were almost all kids that went to the school and so most kids were recognisable even if they weren't in their kids year, it was a real community thing. The estate got known as a "go to" area and the estate was inundated with 100s of kids from surrounding areas, cars everywhere, damage to displays, constant knocking until late at night as the older ones came out. Last year some of the parents who had driven became quite shitty when houses had run out of sweets as "they had driven 20 mins for this". Lots of drives were blocked with cars. I know my friends street has organized on WhatsApp that they are only doing 4-5 then pumpkins and decor is coming in before all the halloween tourists start coming after 5. A lot of our school friends houses on the estate are doing the same, only putting decor out early in the evening and bringing it in before the halloween tourists start. It's a shame but they have very much become an area that has been bitten by Halloween tourism.

OK this sounds like hell.

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