Boyfriend has just unveiled an awful mustache?

Exactly

So end it 🤷‍♀️

My dp randomly grows one, more because he likes the attention than anything else .. he looks stupid, but it's his choice to look stupid, although he thinks it looks cool 😂 leave him to him , it's his face.

If a man came on here saying he 'hates short hair on women and he told his wife that but she got her hair cut anyway and he hates it, what should he do' I can pretty much guarantee he would get roasted for thinking he could control his wife's body and that she is entitled to do what she likes with her hair and appearance and he is a massive dick.
It's hair. It grows, it gets cut/shaved/dyed etc. If he likes it, it's his face, his choice.
My suggestion- be less shallow.

I entirely understand how you feel, but his view might well be that he wants it and it isn’t anything to do with you. Mine has long hair now. It doesn’t matter to him that I hate it - but I wouldn’t tolerate being told how my hair should be so that’s fair enough!

Can't see it any different to those weird eyebrows and lip fillers and other strange things women to do make themselves look the same as everyone else

Sure it's up to you so not sure what else can be said

Not really sure what you’re looking for from this post OP.

Yes you’re allowed to not fancy him now.
No he doesn’t have to change his appearance for you.
Yes it’s shallow.

Yes it is shallow.Because hair grows and he's doing this for November?

But maybe you were looking for an excuse to get rid, and now you have it.

You’ll have to hope that he gets tired of it and goes back to his original look.

Although be warned, my DH grew a beard about 10 years ago, I’m not keen on it, but he likes it, so it’s stayed. He periodically shaves it off for special occasions such as my birthday, our anniversary…and then immediately starts regrowing it!

It’s almost worse seeing his clean shaven face twice a year, only to have it taken away from me again. 😂

I once broke up with a boyfriend after he shaved off his beard and had an absolutely terrible moustache. He ended up looking like his Mum (who I couldn’t stand) with a ‘tache. The relationship wasn’t awful but I just couldn’t get over the ick after that!

I wasn’t really thinking of it on a metaphysical level - more that it’s another example of a thread where the majority seem to agree that the female OP has a right to tell their partner what is acceptable about their physical appearance and what they don’t want them to change for the sake of their relationship, and another where the majority support the female OP in not giving a shit what her OH feels about her appearance - it’s up to her what she does with her body and he should accept her for her, not what she looks like.

No doubt you’ll tell me I’ve used metaphysical in the wrong context 😑

You don't seem to have understood the point. If there are millions of users (or tens of thousands, whatever, there are a lot) what are the chances of different threads with different posters with different opinions v a consistent approach? Why would or should opinions be consistent when completely different people may be replying at any one time?

I didn’t say there was one pervasive opinion - I believe I said it showed double standards - ie - this thread is largely - how could he do this knowing you’d hate it? The other - how could he tell you what to do with your own goddam hair?! 🤷🏼‍♀️

Mumsnet has millions of users, there is no one pervasive opinion on any issue. Plus the couple in that thread were married.

Thing is, it's a boyfriend, not a husband of 20 years. If the shallow stuff isn't right they aren't going to get to the deep end.

This shows the double standards of mumsnet

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4918853-to-cut-my-long-hair-short-even-tho-dh-doesnt-want-me-to?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=share

My partner did Movember the first year we were together - been together 4 months at that point (15 years ago!).

He had to attend his grandmother's funeral the same month, and for some inexplicable reason had bought a fucking vile double-breasted suit for it. In combination with the 'tache, he looked like the worst cliche of a dodgy used car salesman...I did not keep my opinion of suit or 'tache to myself...I hate all facial hair on men.

Once November was over he never wore either ever again. Even he admitted afterwards the 'tache was fucking horrible.

I don’t think you’ve mentioned how long you’ve been going out with him…or did I miss it? You must not be seeing him all that often if he’s had time to grow a full Tom Selleck!

Encourage him to regrow the neat beard. Then he gets to keep the awful tash but you don't notice it ?

My DH knows that I hate facial hair and that a tache or beard are an absolute no go for me. If he doesn't shave for a few days I ask him to go and do it, I can't bear even stubble, it's horrible and looks so scruffy.

YANBU OP.

Say you continued to wear the hairstyle, if he told you it gave him the ick and he didn’t fancy you anymore. That he found it “horrible on a visceral level.” He’d be entitled to feel how he feels, as are you, but can you not say you’d feel quite hurt after a year together?

Real relationships are for the long haul- you may have worse than a moustache to deal with down the line.

If you don’t fancy him anymore because of it then you don’t fancy him- but to answer an earlier question, yes I do think it’s shallow.