Is it just me who finds this odd?

I never comment on weight loss or weight gain. Maybe I've learned the hard way because of my own eating disorder, but it's also just bad mannered. And problematic to give praise, approval or positive comments about loss or gain of weight. It's just too personal. It's about sensitivity not jealousy.
I pay people compliments on generally looking great, love what you're wearing etc.

People get criticised if they comment, and if they don’t comment - just be direct ‘I’ve worked hard to lose weight, and want to stay this way - please help by not bringing me cake/chocolate/whatever’

Yes and then you get comments like “I can’t offer you a cake as I know you’ve lost weight / on a diet” and it makes you feel awkward. OP doesn’t realise how lucky she is

It depends on how it's done. They might be sabotaging or showing you up, they might be offering a lovely treat, or they might just be offering what they have and thinking nothing about your weight.
Either way you can still say No thanks, I'm cutting down on sugar/fat at the moment.

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I agree with you.

I lost a stone and a half last year. I only had a stone and a half to lose. And people commented.

But it felt so shallow and awkward and made me feel so uncomfortable (especially the praise/compient event of it) that I deliberately put the weight back on.

I hated the focus on it tbh.

They're jealous

Simple as

If/when you put the weight on again would you want them to comment then too?

Take it & throw in nearst bin.

I wouldn’t comment on anyone’s weight - friend or family. How would I know the reason - diet, illness, exercise? It’s best not to open a can of worms and let them broach it if they want to. At best I might say that they’re “looking great”, if they are.

Unpopular opinion but I think it’s a good thing that no one has mentioned your weight. When I lost weight everyone told me I looked far better and it fuelled my desire to lose weight and my mental health suffered. When I gained weight I was worried people would say something as they commented on my weight loss.

Your family seem brilliant, it’s 2024 let’s stop talking to woman about their bodies

Have you been explicit about how you have adjusted your lifestyle and diet?

Tell them, but not at the point they are pressing biscuits on you.

Just find a way to drop it into the conversation .

Thing is, most people would think oh @Threetrees745 is skinny now, maybe they want to eat all the unhealthy stuff.

just take it and stick it in the bin. And don’t think about it any further.

I absolutely resent when someone comments on my body - good or bad! I think if you talk about it first it's different, otherwise I wouldn't expect anyone to comment.

Also second the PP who said that your close family won’t comment on your weight because they don’t care what size body you have.

You might care - and that’s fine (it’s your body). But other people (especially loved ones) shouldn’t value you more or less based on your weight.

I think your family sound amazing - I wish more people could take heed of their respect & consideration

I don’t think the offering unhealthy food (ie asking you to take home chocolates and packets of leftover biscuits) is odd at all.
Your weight loss is a huge deal to you, but not to them. They probably just aren’t really thinking about it. Also you can diet and eat healthily but still like a treat every now and then, they aren’t to know that you don’t want it at all.

The girls and I often get together for takeaway/movie nights and there are always loads of snacks, more than we ever need. When we leave, whoever hosted will always say “oh god guys, please take these sweets and chocolates, I won’t eat them all!” And some people take a couple and others don’t. It’s no big deal. The host would probs just feel a bit rude keeping them all and thinks it’s nice to offer them out. But in these situations no one stops to think “oh is she on a diet, better not offer them to her” or “she’s given up chocolate for lent, won’t include her when offering them out.” Things just get offered, take them or don’t.

It’s really not that deep.

This 100% - commenting on anyone else’s body is not ok and it always contains some implicit judgement.

If you’re happy with personal comments just say when you’re declining a treat something about trying to keep some weight off. Once you’ve made clear the weight loss is intentional, I’m sure they will say “well done”, etc.

But the only body it’s ok to comment on is your own. So you need to be the one to bring it up.

(Think your family sound great btw!)

No, I think anything otherwise is rude and if hate it. I mean, if you raise the topic of your dieting and weight loss then I'd probably risk a 'wow, that's impressive, well done, or 'you look great' but otherwise I'd never comment on someone's weight as I loath it when done to me.
You say, 'have you lost weight' thinking it's a compliment but what I am hearing is ' I judge everyone I see on their weight and I thought you were fat before but now you are slightly less fat and I think you being fat was so awful I need to remark on you managing to be slightly less fat. Yay.'
I much prefer to believe people aren't really looking at me, thank you very much!
And bringing different foods would be bizarre, if you want to eat different things bring them yourself or let them know.

Presumably you mentioned going to the gym more and cutting out alcohol, so they may feel it has already been covered? As for still offering you food...when I go to stay with my parents my mum stocks the house with food I loved when I was 17. Perceptions become set and hard to update.

I think we are all much more aware of our own appearance than others are. I once commented on a colleague's lovely new scarf and she thanked me and asked why I thought none of our other colleagues had mentioned it - to her they must have noticed it and were deliberately not commenting, whereas I am 100% certain they were absorbed in their own stuff and hadn't noticed.

Say no thanks, and don't ever take it- they'll stop offering eventually

People will tell you that they're jealous and trying to sabotage your lifestyle. I think its far more likely they don't see the change as anywhere near as meaningful as you do and are just carrying on as they always did, on the basis you're the same person, just weigh less now.

How about you address the situation.

"That's kind of you but no thanks. I don't eat food like that anymore as I'm trying to maintain my weight loss."

Tricky as it's sort of implying "you were massive, now you look great", although not so bluntly. People get a bit awkward, either that or they're jealous!

If you see someone regularly gradual weight loss often goes unnoticed. It's people who only see you occasionally that spot the difference.

Do you speak about you going to the gym, eating healthily etc?

If you have told them and they don't show any interest, I'd put it down to possibly being a bit envious of your success. Well done OP for doing so well.