I don’t know if I’m unreasonable to be bothered by this.
My parents whom I see probably once or twice a year, no major issue just live in a different country, whenever they are here just keep telling me I look tired. I have two very small children and work full time so I imagine i do, but it just feels so unnecessary.
When I was younger and would come home from university occasionally, if I wasn’t wearing makeup my mother would always tell me I look sick and am I okay. So I never went home or met her without makeup on, however, I’m now mid 30s and busy and can’t be bothered. I don’t think it was a conscious insult, I think if I wasn’t wearing makeup she just thought I looked sick.
I am a very pale person and one who seems to have permenant darks circles, which I’ve always had even as a teen.
So, I suppose that was a bit of a rant but also a question. AIBU to think that telling someone they look tired is rude?