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DH refers to himself as my “Dad”

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GingerBreadGinge · 29/10/2024 18:22

Weird one! DH has for a long time referred to himself as “Daddy” when it comes to me. (Not sexual!)

For example if I need his help he will say “Your Daddy will do it” “Daddy do” or “Let your Dad help you” or “Your Father will fix it” He keeps saying he should really stop calling himself my Dad.

Is this infantilising? We do have kids so he is used to being “Daddy” but he refers to himself as my “Dad”

AIBU? Is this weird?? He also says “Good girl!” When I’ve done a task etc. Or “You’re a good girl!” I’m in my forties!! DS has even begun to correct him saying “She’s not a girl, she’s a woman” Etc.

AIBU?

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boulevardofbrokendreamss · 30/10/2024 18:22

I'd be out the door, that is revolting

SleeplessInWherever · 30/10/2024 18:20

Swishytwip · 30/10/2024 18:16

I wonder if he has a DD/lg thing?

Definitely. There’s some sort of DD/lg kink there, power dynamic thing with the “owning” etc etc.

BPR · 30/10/2024 18:19

SilverChampagne · 30/10/2024 17:59

None of this makes him sound less of an arsehole, op.
He sounds both peculiar and very nasty.

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I agree.
A real creep.
Her son is noticing it too.
Bet he won't be bringing any girlfriends home, any time soon.

BirthdayRainbow · 30/10/2024 18:18

This is all vomit inducing but him saying Say thank you Daddy has made me post.

Doesn't matter why he's doing it, the fact is you've said you don't like it but he's carrying on. He cares more about his satisfaction than your comfort..

Swishytwip · 30/10/2024 18:16

I wonder if he has a DD/lg thing?

BeTwinklyKhakiPanda · 30/10/2024 18:13

GingerBreadGinge · 30/10/2024 17:51

He has a “oddball” sense of humour.

Other stuff he says that I’ve pulled him on and our son pulls him on -

He says jokingly with a big smile in his face - “I own you” and “wives are property”

I obviously pull him up on saying such things, it’s odd, he doesn’t genuinely believe that, however he says deliberately inflammatory statements to get a rise out of me. He’s “joking” around when he says it. Tells me not to be so serious etc.

I'd have to say, that's a 'sense of humour' that really gives me the ick.

Marine30 · 30/10/2024 18:09

Just really, really, really creepy 😱

yeaitsmeagain · 30/10/2024 18:06

Is your dad still alive? I'd point out it's quite hurtful (even aside from the ick).

Jillybloop393 · 30/10/2024 18:02

Verrrrry odd .... I'd have to put a stop to it.

SilverChampagne · 30/10/2024 17:59

GingerBreadGinge · 30/10/2024 17:51

He has a “oddball” sense of humour.

Other stuff he says that I’ve pulled him on and our son pulls him on -

He says jokingly with a big smile in his face - “I own you” and “wives are property”

I obviously pull him up on saying such things, it’s odd, he doesn’t genuinely believe that, however he says deliberately inflammatory statements to get a rise out of me. He’s “joking” around when he says it. Tells me not to be so serious etc.

None of this makes him sound less of an arsehole, op.
He sounds both peculiar and very nasty.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 30/10/2024 17:56

This is absolutely a kink. The Daddy thing is a kink, it doesn't matter it doesn't happen during sex, men pay women to let them pretend they are Daddy/daughter, or Daddy Step Daughter, I shit you not.

The other things you've just described are a power/control thing too.

He sounds a wrongun.

YellowphantGrey · 30/10/2024 17:55

There's definitely a sexual undertone and power play here that he's getting off on.

He does make reference to the fact that he probably shouldn’t be saying it and that it is weird

Yet he still stays it?! He knows its weird and he's seeing how long you will tolerate his kink for.

Anyone who fetishes grown adult women as young girls are just grim, whether that's referring to themselves as Daddy or grown women dressed as schoolgirls for fancy dress.

You'll get accused of kink shaming but none of that is normal.

I don't even know how you've managed the relationship this long or even had sex with him

DodgyFriend · 30/10/2024 17:54

LegoTherapy · 29/10/2024 18:24

How has your vagina not clamped shut?

😂

Snowflakeslayer · 30/10/2024 17:52

GingerBreadGinge · 29/10/2024 18:22

Weird one! DH has for a long time referred to himself as “Daddy” when it comes to me. (Not sexual!)

For example if I need his help he will say “Your Daddy will do it” “Daddy do” or “Let your Dad help you” or “Your Father will fix it” He keeps saying he should really stop calling himself my Dad.

Is this infantilising? We do have kids so he is used to being “Daddy” but he refers to himself as my “Dad”

AIBU? Is this weird?? He also says “Good girl!” When I’ve done a task etc. Or “You’re a good girl!” I’m in my forties!! DS has even begun to correct him saying “She’s not a girl, she’s a woman” Etc.

AIBU?

This is a wind up surely? That is beyond creepy, and a massive ‘ick. What a weirdo. Why have you allowed that for even a second saying? People are odd….both parties.

Newsenmum · 30/10/2024 17:52

GingerBreadGinge · 30/10/2024 17:47

I definitely don’t see it as a sexual thing. For example, he says it in the way of “Your Dad has fixed it for you” or “Your Father has sorted it” He does make reference to the fact that he probably shouldn’t be saying it and that it is weird.

If he’s thinking of his sexual partner like he’s your dad then it is sexual.

EBearhug · 30/10/2024 17:52

It would be a bit odd if he said, "your husband has fixed it for you," but at least that would be accurate.

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GingerBreadGinge · 30/10/2024 17:51

He has a “oddball” sense of humour.

Other stuff he says that I’ve pulled him on and our son pulls him on -

He says jokingly with a big smile in his face - “I own you” and “wives are property”

I obviously pull him up on saying such things, it’s odd, he doesn’t genuinely believe that, however he says deliberately inflammatory statements to get a rise out of me. He’s “joking” around when he says it. Tells me not to be so serious etc.

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GingerBreadGinge · 30/10/2024 17:47

I definitely don’t see it as a sexual thing. For example, he says it in the way of “Your Dad has fixed it for you” or “Your Father has sorted it” He does make reference to the fact that he probably shouldn’t be saying it and that it is weird.

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BestBeforeddmmyy · 30/10/2024 17:45

You can’t have an adult relationship with someone as confused as your DH seems to be. Can you?

theotherplace · 30/10/2024 17:44

Jesus this is awful - why are you with this man

CatLady22222 · 30/10/2024 17:43

Oh dear this is a massive turn off. You need to tell him to stop doing it as its weird!

Flame1969 · 30/10/2024 17:42

LegoTherapy · 29/10/2024 18:24

How has your vagina not clamped shut?

😂😂😂😂😂😂

Sleepytiredyawn · 30/10/2024 17:42

😬🤢🦵🚪

Mosalahiwoukd · 30/10/2024 17:26

Yuk!!!!!! Is it the 60s?

StopStartStop · 30/10/2024 16:45

Bbq1 · 29/10/2024 23:56

Yes, was it more like, "Daddio" back then?

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If you had long hair and a beard, you might call someone Daddio. It implied someone who knew something, or had something you wanted. Women seemed to stick to Daddy. But I'm not an expert, I was just a child, watching.