DH refers to himself as my “Dad”

It sounds like the male equivalent of ‘Bitty’ from the dreaded Little Britain. It’s a hard NO from me turns away in chair

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This is revolting, the (thankfully) few people saying it’s just a kink, if it is, it’s a kink he’s playing out IN FRONT OF HIS CHILD.

If there’s no Dom/sub aspect to your relationship, then yes it’s weird

What would he say if you reply "don't be ridiculous, my dad is all the way in <different town>, why would we ask him to come all the way over here to fix this?" - assuming your father is alive. My dad has been dead for a while, so I'd probably say "my dad's been dead for over a decade, kind of hard for him to manage this problem at the moment"

Also, BLERG, how gross. This would give me unrecoverable ick.

This except make yourself "Granny"

OMG...my bum cheeks have gone all crinkly

I wouldn’t like it at all,nothing normal about it.

I'd cope with DH calling me girl but only because I've known him since I was one and he'd probably do it in a deliberately condescending tone to be funny. ("Well done, good girl!") At which point I'd probably mock thump him.

Did he grow up with his parents calling themselves Mother and Father? What rationale does he give for his odd behaviour? Maybe just tease him that the 1950's called looking for a missing person? Or insist he calls you Muther in a strong Northern accent?

My DH very occasionally refers to me as Tut Wife in a Midlands accent. He says he might say 'Let tut husband do it' but otherwise would just refer to himself as 'me'... I sometimes call him Huss -Band (as opposed to Huz-bund) if I want him to do something.

Our DC didn't feel comfortable with Dad either. He's always been Papa to them.

‘Say thank you Daddy’ is creepy as fuck!!!!

I may just have vomitted Hed have said that to me once and once only!

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This

you seriously think he's joking?
I doubt he's joking.

He says things that are strange and inappropriate and he tells you they are jokes and to lighten up when you tell him these things are not ok with you.

That doesn't make them jokes.

I obviously pull him up on saying such things, it’s odd, he doesn’t genuinely believe that, however he says deliberately inflammatory statements to get a rise out of me.
(On the "wives are property" comments)
It isn't funny. He isn't funny. If you love someone you don't keep deliberately goading them and saying awful, stupid things that they don't like. And I'm extremely concerned about the effect on your kids.

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Run!

Join in and reciprocate and see how he likes it;

• Mummy will do this for you.
• Well, I am your Mummy so of course I know better.
• What are you going to get Mummy for her birthday?
• Are Mummy and Daddy going to go out this weekend?
• Well done! You've been a really good boy and Mummy is pleased with you!

My dh only does similar saying " Good girl" dad (meaning the.dad of the family, not my dad) always sorts everything, etc when he wants to annoy me Usually grinning, winking at the kids waiting for my reaction. But it is thankfully a relative rare occurence
Ýour husband is weird. Does he take care of you, do you let him lead you? I mean are youpassive on the relationship? I didn't read the thread sorry if already answered

Oh ffs. He says he knows it's weird and he shouldn't do it, but he still does it? He's deliberately being a dick.

Don't underestimate the effect of weirdness on your kids. Your son must be still very young, yet he already doesn't like it and pulls his dad up on it. Your husband will end up being intensely disliked by his kids, like my parents did.

Mine weren't quite the same as this, but both used ridiculous baby talk and infantilised each other and us. Relentlessly. Mum would call me stupid babyish names in a silly voice when I was over 40. They both seemed to think it was charming and funny. They would sneer at us and get angry if we asked them to stop. I and my sibling ended up really despising them and not wanting to spend time with them.

Your son may well end up the same, despising your H for this stupid behaviour, and you for allowing it.

Yep. Where they vote for Trump.

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Yes it's VERY weird!

A joke is only funny if you a laughing to. Clearly you are not. Never mind telling you not to be so serious 🙄

You need an open conversation with him. I couldn't be with a man that saw me as property.
If he sees it as he bought you from your parents I'd be return him to his mother as faulty.

How are things generally? Do you feel like you get equal say in decisions?

Sounds like he feels he is more important than you and that he is looking after you/rescuing you?

Each and every time stop what you are doing. Look at him. And tell him that is not okay. Stand him out.

People sometimes 'joke' around things they mean seriously so they can normalise it and sneak it in, under the radar.

If you object and call them out on it, then they were only joking, you were being over sensitive, you're the weirdo for having an issue with it or thinking its anything more than a joke... etc etc.

With those comments in mind, I am not sure the 'Daddy' stuff is entirely non-sexual as he almost certainly claims and you currently think. I think he absolutely IS getting off on treating you like a child, viewing you as a girl, not a woman, vs him as the adult man...

Ew. I would throw this one back but I appreciate its not that easy as you have kids with him.