DH refers to himself as my “Dad”

Then leave him. He doesn't care about what you want

Awful for you. Glad you binned him. Wish I’d seen signs sooner..or recognised them for what they were. There are a lot of sick men…and women…out there. Because women can be the same and the numbers seem to be increasing

It's definitely creepy and giving pedo vibes. Even if not said in a sexual context any man that even wants to say weird stuff like that to a woman has issues. Also extremely inappropriate for your kids to hear. The misogynistic jokes statements are not jokes and is very telling of his attitude towards women. I would be very clear about how strongly you feel about it and how weird it is. If he continues start calling him twat face or cunty chops, and if he protests tell him he's overreacting.

Yuk. The bloke's odd a. f.

Op. Maybe just show him this thread? He can see what a disgusting specimen we think he is. Arse wipe.

I’m sorry to hear that.

i had a boyfriend when I was about 19 who used to pin me down and not let me move on the bed, and it would make me feel panicked and rageful. He always found it funny making me angry. But I absolutely hated him for it. And I didn’t quite know why.

but it was this. Power and control, under the guise of ‘jokes’.

he went in the bin.

Reminds me of Hugh Hefner. "Daddy" is fucking vile. Ask him to explain why he thinks that's okay to say to you.

Unless he IS your dad, in which case call the PO-LICE ASAP.

Creepy as fuck. Tell him you don't want to be called a girl, but will soon be happy to be called an ex!

This has to be a wind up?

I’ve had 2 husbands and a bf who all did this. It escalates. It’s the start of serious abuse and control. Misogyny , absolutely. Deliberately being annoying, doing the opposite of what you want. The way to deal while with them is reverse psychology, pretend you don’t care. Don’t react, Grey rock. While organising departure. Always a pity where there are children.

OK, I’m out. You’re still lol-ing about it so either you’re enjoying it or this is a windup.

Weird and creepy. Also, possible that he is trying to get you to say you're 'mummy' to him in response. Also weird and creepy! He needs to stop.

You seem really passive about this.

Don't you care that your poor son is having to get involved in this? Don't you care that your little boy has to hear this, and step in to stop it?

I'm starting to doubt the veracity of your posts tbh as I can't believe someone would so readily allow their child to be exposed to this.

🤢🤮 that’s not good …

that would seriously creep me out.

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The fact that you say he doesn't do this in front of other adults shows that it isn't a habit as he claims or he would 'forget ' & do it all the time even when other people are around.

It sounds like he is consciously using these controlling phrases & probably getting a kick out of it. 🤢

Agreed. Just so you know, a well-adjusted non-cunt of a man would never dream of making ‘jokes’ like this. It just wouldn’t cross his mind. I’ve had a LOT of boyfriends and none have ever approached this kind of twatiness. People who have hinted to this kind of attitude have been out the door quickly.

I think you need to do some reading around verbal domestic abuse and misogyny

This is very off. Misogynistic and cuntish.

it sounds like you are a complete walkover with this man. Do you ever show anger with him?

if my partner ever said anything to me like this I would make sure he never did again

I think you need to break this weird pattern and act like an adult. Stand up for yourself and tell him to never again talk to you like this. If he undermines you, don’t back down - get louder. Until he gets the picture. Deploy swearing if you absolutely need to. Etc etc.

Oh, he means it all right. He believes his ‘inflammatory statements. . He’s just pretending he’s joking so you accept it as a joke. “You are too sensitive/ don’t have a sense of humour/“ are enormous red flags. He is telling you who he is and what he believes. He knows it’s not acceptable to you but he is desensitising you. It’s about power and control, why he moved quickly with the whirlwind romance.
You have a problem , in my opinion. More serious than you think.

To be honest I would very bluntly say to him that calling you a girl and himself daddy, makes him sound like a paedophile and you find it disgusting.

Love bombing and moving really quickly to marriage. You do know that that is a huge red flag to most women? It’s not romantic. It’s a sign of a person who needs to get you into his power, under control before you find out just what he is like.

Have you been completely honest about how it makes you feel?

Tell him straight up that any daddy/girl reference gives you the ick. Tell him you are grossed out, offended and completely turned off him at present.

Because if this you aren't interested in any sexual contact, cooking his meals, washing his clothes etc. All because he is showing zero respect for you.

If he can demonstrate to you a bit of respect by stopping this behaviour you may reconsider.

Stick to your guns. His behaviour is vile and it needs to stop.

Oh dear. Ick ick ick

No no and no !! I may be unusual but I really don't like people calling each other baby either so daddy would really be a no for me!