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DH refers to himself as my “Dad”

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GingerBreadGinge · 29/10/2024 18:22

Weird one! DH has for a long time referred to himself as “Daddy” when it comes to me. (Not sexual!)

For example if I need his help he will say “Your Daddy will do it” “Daddy do” or “Let your Dad help you” or “Your Father will fix it” He keeps saying he should really stop calling himself my Dad.

Is this infantilising? We do have kids so he is used to being “Daddy” but he refers to himself as my “Dad”

AIBU? Is this weird?? He also says “Good girl!” When I’ve done a task etc. Or “You’re a good girl!” I’m in my forties!! DS has even begun to correct him saying “She’s not a girl, she’s a woman” Etc.

AIBU?

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BoudiccasBangles · 29/10/2024 18:59

Oh. No. That’s weird.

Boiledbeetle · 29/10/2024 18:56

I have the ick on your behalf!
<Shudders>

Disgusted Ew GIF by Jeopardy!
ChemtrailsandCountryClub · 29/10/2024 18:55

I’m surprised you’re so convinced it’s not sexual.

Zone2NorthLondon · 29/10/2024 18:55

Creepy as fuck
Tell him it stops right now

RedRoss86 · 29/10/2024 18:55

Wendysfriend · 29/10/2024 18:30

Every time he says it shout really loud "WHO'S YOUR DADDY" he'll soon stop

🤣🤣🤣🤣 brilliant.

HarkALark · 29/10/2024 18:54

Fucking gross.

MrsKwazi · 29/10/2024 18:54

‘Daddy’ porn is a thing.
Grim.

buffyspikefaith · 29/10/2024 18:53

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Wish it did, customers use it at work and I'm "ew"

Maria1979 · 29/10/2024 18:52

Do you have a daughter OP?

HildaHosmede · 29/10/2024 18:51

Ewww. Bloody horrible.

I refer to dh as dad (teens) or daddy (dc3) when talking TO the dc. 'Oh you'll have to go and ask daddy where it is' or even if he's there, 'what do you think daddy?' - when clearly referring to a question asked by the present dc. He does the same to me.

But you don't talk to each other that way when there's no dc there. And as for the 'let your dad help you' and similar when speaking to you - eugggghhhhhh.

Like a pp said, I'd be checking the bloody hard drive. And I'd be keeping my dc away from him.

Daleksatemyshed · 29/10/2024 18:51

Oh good lord @GingerBreadGinge this is going to wear very thin on you. The dynamic of him as responsible adult and you as a child will grow to annoy you more and more. There's an under tone to all this that makes me cringe - can he not cope with adult women with a mind of their own?

Original poster
GingerBreadGinge · 29/10/2024 18:48

RachelGreep87 · 29/10/2024 18:47

Of course it is sexual

It’s not sexual but it is potentially a power imbalance.

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BlunderMifflin · 29/10/2024 18:48

Oh god no.

You need to NOT tell him it's weird, but tell him it's GROSS and makes you feel sick and that it really puts you off him!

Tell him you really struggle to be attracted to someone who pretends he's your dad.

🤢

RachelGreep87 · 29/10/2024 18:47

Of course it is sexual

Maria1979 · 29/10/2024 18:47

GingerBreadGinge · 29/10/2024 18:22

Weird one! DH has for a long time referred to himself as “Daddy” when it comes to me. (Not sexual!)

For example if I need his help he will say “Your Daddy will do it” “Daddy do” or “Let your Dad help you” or “Your Father will fix it” He keeps saying he should really stop calling himself my Dad.

Is this infantilising? We do have kids so he is used to being “Daddy” but he refers to himself as my “Dad”

AIBU? Is this weird?? He also says “Good girl!” When I’ve done a task etc. Or “You’re a good girl!” I’m in my forties!! DS has even begun to correct him saying “She’s not a girl, she’s a woman” Etc.

AIBU?

Seriously ? 🤢🤢🤢 Tell him to shut up or "daddy" will get his balls kicked for being so disgusting.

wavingfuriously · 29/10/2024 18:46

Yuk

DemonicCaveMaggot · 29/10/2024 18:45

Is he Tucker Carlson?

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GingerBreadGinge · 29/10/2024 18:45

For added info - I have ADHD (diagnosed as an adult) and there are things that I struggle with and more so when we first met (I was unaware of ADHD then) DH is highly intelligent, efficient, thinks extremely fast and is a self confessed “control freak” It feels like he has always treated me like a child and him referring to himself as my “Daddy” and him calling me a “girl” cements this.

I do things differently to him, not necessarily wrong but different.

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NeckolasCage · 29/10/2024 18:45

🎵gettttt riiiiiiiiid 🎶

drowninginsick · 29/10/2024 18:44

This is one of the weirdest things I've seen on here and that's saying something

HalloweenHaribo · 29/10/2024 18:43

Tell him it ends now.

If he calls himself daddy one more time, call him a pedophile EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.

TarantinoIsAMisogynist · 29/10/2024 18:43

Ick ick ick ick ick ick... 🤮

It's creepy as hell

Thestrawberrydrill · 29/10/2024 18:42

LegoTherapy · 29/10/2024 18:24

How has your vagina not clamped shut?

This and how have you not lost the fucking plot?

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 29/10/2024 18:41

Yuck. Eew. I'm so sorry.

StressedQueen · 29/10/2024 18:40

GingerBreadGinge · 29/10/2024 18:37

I have told him it’s weird but he still does it.

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That is even stranger??

He needs to respect your boundaries