DH refers to himself as my “Dad”

I once slept with someone who slipped in a few "Mum"s when we were in bed. I hated it and never saw him again.

This would be such a turn off for me.

This is making my toes curl
Have you directly asked him to stop it?
You sound a bit detached from the situation
It's concerning that your DS notices too

I agree sexual . You haven’t realised it and he’s never told you but he’s getting kicks from it .

How do you feel about that @GingerBreadGinge

So much pearl-clutching! 😂 Kink is common and this kind of talk is pretty mild (his big mistake is not to discuss it with her). I'd be much more worried if he introduced a cattle prod into the bedroom or unveiled an Andrews cross for her birthday!

OP, don't let other posters and their Victorian shock affect you. What he's doing is actually pretty common, but he should at least as if you're into it!!

I had a kinky boyfriend and he didn't like the whole Daddy thing, thank fook, because neither do I. He tied me up with silk and proceeded to play me like a piano. After he'd got the result he wanted, his unexpected soft kiss and whispered "Good girl" in my ear, while I was still blindfolded, was the cherry on the top.

He needs to drop the Daddying and keep it all to the bedroom, but honestly, you could be in for a whole new world if you keep an open mind! Sounds like he's ready to play!

This kind of stuff is what the wildly successful Fifty Shades of Grey was all about, it's practically mainstream, so I'm surprised by all the shock on here.

@GingerBreadGinge so he can refrain from it in front of others. So it’s not a habit he can’t stop himself from doing and he is purposefully doing it with you.

would be be embarrassed if you told friends and family - especially in front of him?

What are his parents relationship dynamics like? Can you ask his mum when you next see them if her husband likes her to call him Daddy…

For example if I need his help he will say ... “Daddy do”.

This shouldn't ever even be said to an actual child, but hells' bells at saying it to one's partner! Celibate for life.

Or “You’re a good girl!” I occasionally tell my cat that she's a good girl - but only when she is good (according to human standards, mainly based on my own comfort and convenience) which is pretty rare.

Can't tell from the info here if if it's nonconsensual kink, misogyny, or a really weird skewed view of, well, everything - but tell him to stop. If he can't or won;t or doesn't, you've got a problem.

YANBU. It’s weird.

It’s disrespectful and IMHO sexist. If he doesn’t say it in front of other people, then (a) he knows it must sound inappropriate/odd and (b) it shows he’s able to not say it. So, if he knows how it makes you feel, there’s no reason for him to keep doing it. Unless he wants to. Brushing it off as a joke is deflecting.

There may be some deep-seated explanation, even he hasn’t considered. Is your father alive? If so, what sort of relationship do you have with him? Could your DH subconsciously be trying to fill a perceived need in you? What’s his dad like? Could his dad have spoken to his mother like that and he’s repeating learned behaviour?

Whatever the reason, you can only ask him to stop on the basis it’s inappropriate and disrespectful. If he won’t, you need to let him know it’s a deal-breaker, as it would be for lots of women. If he still does it, I’d say that’s pretty concerning.

Everyone's over-reacting. Man's a bit kinky, that's all. The whole Daddy/good girl thing is very common in kink, but people usually discuss it first. OP should tell him to knock it off if she doesn't like it.

Or she could put the blindfold on and explore a whole new side to their relationship! 😂 Sounds as if he'd be delighted. 🤭

Ok this is possibly the weirdest thing I’ve read on this forum, and that’s a pretty high bar.

I couldn’t get past it being a kink thing, sorry. Absolutely a power move too. Utterly gross. How on earth do you have sex with him.

I don’t know how you feel about this.. but you can leave him over it if you want to.

Grim

I highly doubt he did this before they were married, and maybe not before kids. It's when you're really trapped that the mask drops.

Good girl? Daddy's a kinkster! 😂

Beurk.

Even if it wasn’t weird, you don’t like it. That’s the important bit - that you don’t like it. If your partner is doing something you don’t like (weird or not), you ask them to stop.

Did you feel unable to do that without confirmation that people agreed with you?

That's something, at least. I hope you get through to him.

OP, does he do this when you're around other people as well? Family, friends, in public ...

It really does come across as him dragging you into some DD/lg kink without consent (and if around others, those people as well). Time for a serious conversation.

UGH. That made my skin crawl.

I'm good thanks!! Not for me

@RachelGreep87 is 100% right. This is sexual

Whoaa ok 😄

To think you find this funny says a lot about you.