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Passive father, son is 5 and a half years old and he never took him out by himself

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elenna55 · 29/10/2024 17:19

Hi everyone, I wanted to see a fresh perspective on my concern that I have over my husband who is being a very passive parent. I have mentioned this to my husband on various occasions, and I said that I see it odd that he doesn't want to go out with his son on his own. He will only come if I ask him to come with us, and even when his own son asks him to come along with us to the park he flatly refuses.

Our son is 5 and a half years old, and my husband has never been out with him on his own even once! He doesn't take him to any extracurricular activities, he doesn't plan any holidays for him. He says that a 5 year old goes to school and he doesn't need anything else. That he won't go on a family holiday as it is too much stress. Therefore, I am lucky enough that my mum goes with us and we do travel with her instead of my husband. He is very passive and would spend all of his free time sitting, either on the sofa, in front of the laptop or sitting in the garden always with his headphones on!

He doesn't contribute financially either, as all the cost for travelling, outing and extracurricular activities I cover.

I wanted to see if I am the one being unreasonable for wanting the father to actually participate in his son's life outside the house, and every now and then take him to the park or soft play. Just wanted to clarify, that the father plenty of free time that he could use to do that.

OP posts:
Darkfloods · 29/10/2024 17:33

Do you do anything together?

Victoriancat · 29/10/2024 17:31

So why are you with this melt?

Vettrianofan · 29/10/2024 17:31

I am curious how you ended up with deciding to have a DC together? He can't be that passive!🤣

Soonenough · 29/10/2024 17:30

Does he work and contribute financially to the household? Otherwise what actual use is he ? Please don't settle for this for you or your son. Gonna say it LTB

MoneyMill · 29/10/2024 17:29

Was he a complete prick before your son was born or just since?

Justcallmebebes · 29/10/2024 17:27

That's pretty sad. You say he spends his time sitting around at home with headphones on, so it doesn't sound as though he participates much in any sort of family life

Glad you have your mum to do stuff with as he sounds like a really crap dad and husband

Harvestfestivalknickers · 29/10/2024 17:26

What a poor role model for your son. I feel sad for your him.

AmandaHoldensLips · 29/10/2024 17:25

So he's effectively the sperm donor and nothing else since.

Igmum · 29/10/2024 17:23

Agree. What does this Prince among men actually add to your life?

I feel a LTB coming on.

saveforthat · 29/10/2024 17:21

Well I'm pretty sure you know YANBU so I really can't see the point of this thread.

Comedycook · 29/10/2024 17:21

Do you live together? What do you mean he doesn't contribute financially? Does he work? Pay bills?

starsbrawl · 29/10/2024 17:20

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