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I know I was really rude but - can anyone understand where I was coming from?

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iwasrude · 29/10/2024 13:05

I have a brother, he does mean well but I always find him really irritating. He doesn’t read the room at all, can be really loud and embarrassing (ranting at shop workers and waiters) and making a big drama if he is ill or has hurt himself. So when I’m with him I’m often a bit tense.

youngest child has just started walking. In the middle of a tense exchange where I was trying to get the older child to do something every time she stood up he yelled OH WOW LOOK. After five or six times where I smiled and said yes, wow, yes, getting really strong, I snapped and said YES OK WE KNOW.

i know it was really rude and I’m not normally like that. I suppose what I’m asking is - can people understand where I was coming from’b

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iwasrude · 29/10/2024 13:31

@Threeandahalf yeah I can definitely be like this and he does just really grind my gears somehow and I know it’s unfair, because if someone else was doing some of the things he does it wouldn’t bother me but because it’s him it does. I’m trying to see less of him but because he doesn’t read the room it’s really hard, he doesn’t get those ‘well mustn’t keep you!’ sort of things.

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KnickerlessParsons · 29/10/2024 13:29

I think you're making a mountain out of a molehill

Threeandahalf · 29/10/2024 13:29

I think sometimes with siblings we still feel we can be snappy/short with them and more critical of them because they are our siblings. I try to treat my siblings with the same politeness as I would treat a friend or a colleague, but don't always succeed. Basically it sounds like he was getting on your nerves, but he was just trying to be excited for your child. At least he cares !

Daleksatemyshed · 29/10/2024 13:28

You were rude Op but he sounds pretty rude himself- shouting at waiting staff is completely uncalled for. If he irritates you so much wouldn't you be better off seeing him less often?

1754sunset · 29/10/2024 13:27

Nah. Would have done the same. He sounds like he makes everything about him which would irritate the like out of me.

DazedAndConfused321 · 29/10/2024 13:25

He should know when to shut up! You may have been rude but it sounds like it was necessary.

Does he have other signs of being unable to function socially? Sounds like he could be on the spectrum