To think it's just manners to tell someone if you've broken something in their house?

Let her go and see if she sinks or swims !! She got the taxi to the port thought through so maybe the rest of it too …
A cruise is probably a safe choice really compared to other options.

then when she gets back get that LPOA for health and finance done before she give any other inclination if lacking capacity to agree to it. You may already be sunk in this but fingers crossed as court of protection is not an easy it cheap thing to deal with p

I understand your feelings.

Many years ago when I was young and single I rented unfurnished flat for myself. So all the furniture and decor was mine. At some point I decided to go traveling for 6 months and didn’t know what to do with my flat. I didn’t want to move out because I knew 6 months later I will be back and that area of town was lovely! But I didn’t want to pay rent for 6 months while I was gone. So I spoke with my friend who I know since we were 10 and she agreed to move in with her boyfriend while I am away. She said she would cover 90% of the rent and see if she is happy to live with her new boyfriend before they find their own place to live.
Landlord was fine with this.

6 months later I came back. My friend told me how she spent days cleaning everything so I can just unpack my bags and relax. However in the next 2-3 weeks I kept discovering breakages all over the flat.

I found out that my bedside lamp shade was all smashed. My new set of pots and pans (gift from my grandma) had enamel chipped everywhere. My iron board was burned and wallpapers were ruined in the hallway because of their cat.

When I called my friend upon those discoveries she told me “oh sorry my cat was running around and dropped your bedside lamp multiple times” or “sorry, yes, we did burn your ironing board, I wanted my boyfriend to learn how to iron his work shirts”.

I felt extremely upset by all these. She never mentioned anything to me until I confronted her. She offered to compensate all the breakages but her tone was not nice. Like “welll if you reaaaaly want me to buy you new shade I can do this next weekend” 😵‍💫

Or, get yourself a new set of mugs & glasses and give her the unbroken ones that you have remaining!

Wow. I have two boisterous boys, a crazy
dog and clumsy husband, we have never broken anything when staying away from home. If we did I would be mortified, own
up and offer to pay for damages without asking. I can’t believe the nonchalant attitude of your MIL. Definitely do not let her stay again.

Nobody stays in my home
Simple

Am delighted dh pulled his dm up. Now she knows the hotel is shut and she can't be blaming you! Get her a set of glasses and mugs for Christmas.. Take out the ones she owes you!!

What caused the burn marks?? I’d be worried about guests smoking or leaving straighteners or whatever on in my home

Really rude, I have stopped letting family stay in our house now. We live in a really lovely house in a beautiful London location and have previously let family stay when we are away. My brother has 3 young girls I've had damaged plaster broken tumble dryers and secret dogs when its a dog free zone (severe allergies from DS) No thanks or acknowledgemnet either so we leave our house empty when we go away and come back to it as we left it.

😮 astonishingly rude- I hope your DH told her how very unimpressed he was by her lack of care of your things!

I’m surprised that they were so careless. I would expect these sort of behavior from a teen due to being inexperienced about things but grown up women??? And this amount of broken mugs clearly indicates that something happened. I don’t mean they were playing mug football but no way it was unnoticeable.
I would go with the first reply if it’s feasible if not I would get DH mention it.
Tbh I probably would mention it myself ( my DH is too soft) more along the lines : What on earth you were doing?? And then see how she responds.

Totally off the point but Duralex glassware is brilliant if you’re clumsy like me. I’ve knocked it against granite worktops, dropped it on tiled floors and generally banged it about. It’s not unbreakable but it lasts longer than anything else around me.

Burn marks in carpets or marks on tables that can't be cleaned off are not good. I think I'd be more inclined to try and pay for those things. The mugs or cups I'd probably try and replace if I had time. It seems like that's a lot of damage tbh? I'm really clumsy and dyspraxic but wouldn't do that much in someone else's house?

As they are older people is there a chance they’ve not noticed the damage ? DH who is 60 might miss things like that without his glasses

Try a hair dryer on it, keep it moving about.You'll need to be patient, but I've had great success on a varnished coffee table in the past. Google it.

No. If it were a teen party, she'll be finding lager cans in odd places for the next 6 weeks.

Yes, they should have told you about the breakages, although I can understand the temptation not to. Ring mark - disappointing on good wood, but surely it can be removed by stripping and re-varnishing or re-waxing? I don't use coasters at home, but I always would in someone else's home, and they should have done too. Burn mark I'd be less concerned about - isn't that what hearth rugs are for? To stop the stray cinder damaging the floor underneath? Though if it were more than 0.5 cm across (ie they hadn't noticed it), I would be worried about their capacity to avoid setting my house on fire.

I was just going to type "did they have a piss up by any chance?" 😂
I'd be annoyed at them not telling me too OP, it's really disrespectful.

Will you let them stay again? If you will feel reluctant then you need to tell them. We had a cleaner who' d break and damage things accidentally and never said. It is one of the reasons we let her go.

Its horrendously rude!! Was it a big piss up?
Is there a chance they had a gathering?
Sounds more like a teen party with all that damage!

Yeah I do think it’s incredibly rude and I’d personally rather replace them myself or tell the home owner and offer to pay. I had a friend stay once and she cracked my blender whilst using it, and broke my french press, but chose not to tell me then when I asked her about it she said she didn’t remember if she’d done it 🙃 safe to say, I didn’t let her round again.

Hotel @WillowtreeHouse ‘s doors are closed. I wouldn’t let her stay again, even on her own.
I was on holiday away (I think Cuba?) I wasn’t using the internet much but had cctv. Thought I’d have a look and much to my horror mil decided to rock up when we were away, without asking and used it as a hotel. I was even more furious as she’d got the key from fil’s house (they’re divorced, can’t think why?).
I think you need to broach the subject or get your dh to do it, it’s his mum.

How long were they there for?, I don’t think I’ve broken 2 mugs and 3 glasses in total, ever.