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AIBU to keep my baby with me when she’s unwell?

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MojitoNoIce69 · 29/10/2024 10:12

My MIL has come to stay for 10 weeks and spend time with our 6 month old.
She normally takes the baby to her room and I won’t see her all day.
This annoys me but I let it slide.
Baby unfortunately has developed scarlet fever and is pretty miserable.
I have a medical background so I’m monitoring her to see if she needs antibiotics.
I refused when MIL wanted to take baby to her room for a few hours.
I’m happy for baby to be held in the living room with me around.
MIL is angry and saying I’m unreasonable. Am I unreasonable to want to watch my only baby when she’s unwell?

OP posts:
BlackOrangeFrog · 29/10/2024 10:23

Tell her to fuck off.

Boobygravy · 29/10/2024 10:22

There's only one unreasonable person and it's not you.
Doesn't your baby miss you?

Original poster
MojitoNoIce69 · 29/10/2024 10:21

Thank you for your messages. It’s really helpful.
MIL feels she can look after the baby better than me and criticises everything.
I let her take the baby to try and keep the peace but I now feel empowered to say no.

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ItsTheGAGGGGGGGGG · 29/10/2024 10:21

Very strange set up indeed

Berthatydfil · 29/10/2024 10:20

Wtf - she wants her all in her room day every day for 10 week!
No just no. Time to stop that habit. Baby, you and her spend most of the day in communal rooms. Time to stop that.
Even more no if the baby is unwell.

Porridgeislife · 29/10/2024 10:20

She takes your baby all day? Don’t you miss her? What is the dynamic in your family that has let her think this is okay? Is it cultural?

jeaux90 · 29/10/2024 10:18

Your baby your rules. Your MIL maybe doing this from a good place but it sounds nuts to me.

GreenFlamingo11 · 29/10/2024 10:18

Why on earth would you allow her to take the baby in her room all day? That's absolutely bizarre.

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 29/10/2024 10:18

Why on earth are you letting her take her into her room all day every day?

Does the baby never leave the house? What is she doing with her in her room all day?

Bizarre

Original poster
MojitoNoIce69 · 29/10/2024 10:16

We were given antibiotics and told to wait 2 days to see if she’ll get better by herself.

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ExtraOnions · 29/10/2024 10:15

10 weeks … she would expect to take the baby to get room, every day for 10 weeks ?

I don’t understand why you would let it slide in the first place.

You are intelligent, competent, grown woman .. don’t be told what you can and can’t do in your own home.

Be assertive .. and just say No .. MIL will get over it, and if she doesn’t, tough luck.

Jollyjoy · 29/10/2024 10:14

Absolutely not unreasonable, for you to want to be with your baby and available to her. I thought scarlet fever always needed antibiotics though? When my DD had it it was almost over by time it was diagnosed but they still gave her the antibiotics.

Redshoeblueshoe · 29/10/2024 10:14

Staying for 10 weeks - you deserve a medal. Why on earth does she take the baby to her room all day anyway ?

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