Friend hasn’t brought up my pregnancy once

I'm in the minority here but I totally would talk about it with you more, if I were your friend. Having said that though, I've not battled fertility issues or had any losses. I have 1 DS so far. I take great interest in other people's plans in regards to kids (if they bring it up first). I could imagine it could be a triggering subject for others however.

YANBU - as close friends you check in with each other about big life events eg if you were buying a house, your friend would ask where you’re up to with it.

id expect a close friend to ask how I was /how it’s all going- at which point I’d update them on current preg situation. Normally people ask ‘are you all sorted, or you waiting to buy things?’ General curiosity really. Then you’d ask how they were, what they’ve got on etc.

i don’t know why people here act like someone is going to meet you and not reference a huge life event @Padronpeppersplease . If someone can’t be pleasant because of their own issues, they need to message/ avoid you.
however, they might just not know what to say if you’re at different stages in life. I was a poor friend to my friends who had a baby before me coz I didn’t get it. Now I’m a lot more supportive coz I know what is needed.

Exactly.

I have no interest in kids but I'd ask questions about it sane as I would if they got a new puppy or new car or new house/job.

If I had struggled with baby news I'd avoid the coffee meet up until I could cope. Not go and ignore the situation!

if you don’t know what’s going on in her life with regards to children and fertility etc then you can’t be mad at her.

she could have been trying for a child for years, she could possibly not be able to have children at all and longs for one. She could be going through relationship issues because she wants a child and he doesn’t. You simply don’t know what she is dealing with right now and how badly it is affecting her.

just the mere mention of pregnancy etc could be deeply hurtful to her so she’s doing what she needs to to protect herself right now.

be a good friend and respect that.

I dunno... I never wanted kids, have no interest in them at all, but I think I'd have the nous to understood that my friend was excited about such a big event and to encourage her to talk about it a little, just as a human kindness...

Has she shown jealousy of anything else in your life before? What is her own situation re kids? You may never know what's causing her to be uninterested, but might just have to accept it if the friendship is rewarding in other ways. I hope you have other friends who can share the joy with you.

And congratulations! You must be thrilled and I hope all goes well with you and your little girl, and that you enjoy this special time of life! 🙂

This. A good friend of mine who is genuinely the nicest person ever really really struggled with having children. Whenever someone was pregnant she would smile and that was all she could muster and then go to a private place and cry.

It’s your baby and everyone is entitled to celebrate the way they want - and oh yeah she did say congratulations twice.

Just a question, were you a bridezilla who continually said ‘it’s my special day’ when things weren’t going as you wanted, people weren’t totally focused on you and everyone wasn’t doing what you wanted them to?

It's sad how apologetic you feel you need to be in your post about wanting to talk about your pregnancy with a friend.

It's normal and healthy to want that. Pregnancy is a huge deal to most people and good friends should understand that.

You also say you’re sensitive to other people being triggered by pregnancy news but you’re complaining about her on here. For all you know she may have lost a baby.

Please leave the woman alone. It could be anything between no interest in children to devastating fertility challenges. How will pushing it help you or her?

To be honest have two children other than congratulations I wouldn't have spoken much. It may be your whole world and that's fine but kindly it isn't everyone else's.

She's congratulated you twice...

I don't think you do understand other people aren't interested in babies/pregnancy otherwise you wouldn't be griping that she's not said more.

Stop texting her then and tell her things in person if you want to talk about it.

Or accept she's either not in the frame of mind to celebrate with you for whatever reason.

If she doesn't do pregnancy and babies expect this friendship to frizzle away in the next few months/years.

I wouldn't necessarily bring up a pregnancy unless my pregnant friend did incase things hadn't gone well particularly before you are showing properly.

How good a friend is this friend? If a good one could you ask in a gentle/careful way “when I mentioned my pregnancy before you seemed kind of upset by it, is everything ok? I’m here if you want to talk“. Type thing.
Or you are in two completely different places RN and baby talk just isn’t something she interested in.

How are things going for her in life at the moment?
What else did you discuss when you met?