To let me nephew see me naked?

I would ask his parents for their thoughts as it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks.

He’s not some random child she’s picked up off the street, he’s her nephew and she has been looking after him alone. My 3 yo stays in the room with my mum when she showers if no one else is up, much safer than letting her roam about by herself! Obviously when she’s older that won’t happen but nudity isn’t sexual to a child. Nor is bed sharing with a close family member who has been entrusted to look after them.

This.

Sorry if already been mentioned but I wouldn't tell him not to look. I think that makes it more awkward, more likely that he would look and suggests there's something shameful about bodies. He's still very little so you've got a while yet.

I agree it does definitely. I never gave being naked much thought around my children. Just gradually as they got older they wanted privacy and by 11/12 I’ve definitely not seen them naked or shared a bathroom or anything with them .

Dh & I have never been naked in front of our children & never would be,at least past their baby stage.The mere idea makes me cringe.

We have a very very relaxed attitude towards nudity within my extended family. All of my sisters/daughters and our kids would happily get changed in a room together. Every child is male in my family, after a generation of girls so it Is up to the boys to say they prefer a cubicle when they feel it's age appropriate ( eldest nephew is 12, has used a cubicle for 2 years, 9 yo dn doesn't care, neither does 5yo dn or any of my grand sons age 1-3). Obviously we wear pjs to bed and don't do naked cartwheels etc and we have kind of just silently agreed this approach as we all feel the same. If I was in the bath my sisters would come and talk to me and vice versa. It's just not a big deal for us and the onus is on the child to decide they are ready to get changed alone/dont want to see giant white boobs everywhere. It's not for the women to cover up to suit the kid , especially not in a place that's meant to be used for changing.

This nails it. You sound absolutely lovely OP and he's lucky to have you in his life

You sound weird and creepy!

I can imagine exactly what you mean about the most offended part 😂. It's not a bad age for them to start to learn not only about their own right to privacy but others too. This is a very gentle introduction to that (you don't really care about your own privacy for your sake) which is probably the best way.

@Tangerinenets yes! I guess I didn't know any different? Was home educated, no peer group and no access to the internet at home either.
I would say he almost encouraged it, so whilst I class him as an abuser in all other areas, I don't say sexual abuse although I think this does sort of fall into that category.

It’s frightening what’s going on In your head. THAT is weird and creepy.

I hope you never have kids. How the hell will they mean how to wash themselves if you think everything is weird and creepy. You do realised 3.5 is still very very little? No of course you don’t.

You were naked in front of your dad at 16? That is weird!

This! 🙌

I think you're over thinking it. In Europe, nudity is much less of an "issue" than it is here. He's your nephew and you're obviously a close family and he feels safe with you.
I certainly wouldn't care if my sister was getting changed around my DD. As you said, you're not skipping around naked, you're just getting changed. He's still little. He can't get changed alone etc so you need to be with him.
I'd speak to his mum and double check, but I don't think it's a huge deal.

No, not odd at all... 😲

Your dad saw you naked as a teenager? I could understand your mum occasionally, but your dad?

Given we're talking about going to the loo - child opens door and comes in, or in bed with clothes on, child gets in bed, or getting changed from swimming... all normal, every day things...

Not galloping around the house starkers, whirling genitals around...

I don't think it matters if its aunt/nephew or uncle/niece, (although it is a moot point as it isn't uncle/nephew) ... it may soon, but right now, no.

These are all situations where either the child is instigating proximity so clearly feels comfortable, or out of necessity.

Unnecessary nakedness, is.. unnecessary, but this doesn't seem to be that. Nakedness that makes the child feel uncomfortable would also be inappropriate but this doesn't fit that bill either.

Surprised at so many thinking it's fine.
Hmmm... how about uncle babysitting 3.5 year old niece. Is it still ok? It's fine, just family, right? 🤔

It does rather sound like a few people think you should be able to avoid shitting, pissing, showering or needing to change your clothes while in solo charge of a small human.

If the parents are uncomfortable and uncertain enough to instruct her to seek the opinion of strangers on the internet, as OP states, maybe they should not take advantage of her providing them with free childcare, then they can deal with any questions around a tiny child seeing wobbly bits all by themselves.

Wanted to add that at 3.5 years old you are just good aunty. He's not thinking about your self and you've got a few years yet.

The answer is you just adjust to it naturally. You sound like a good aunt. I think i'm good mum and had good aunties, and I take my lead from him, changing to get into sport clothes boobs out no problem, it's just a matter of fact.
You're DN has been with you doing sports and a quick change is normal. You are over thinking here. You are a good person (because you are asking what is appropriate).
My personal opinion is that people should see their family naked, in natural circumstances, .eg getting changed in a changing room

Bloody nora...

Showering with your cossie on is possible... explain how you get from wet cossie to dry clothing, in a small cubicle, with a small child, without getting naked at any point?

Set the small child out in the main changing room unsupervised?
Put your dry kit on over your wet stuff?
Magic?

You are in for a fucking shock if you have small children... they get in bed with you, they have the ability to move from very young, and open doors from not much older... they get in the bed and immediately grow six extra elbows and knees and apply them to your most sensitive parts.

As for going for a relaxing shit... not a chance, the second you sit down someones opened the door to come in there asking why the sky is bloody blue and did you know that Bluey is a girl and can we order a giraffe on Amazon..

I don't even have toddlers, just spent time with the ones my friends have produced and I have experienced all this!

She’s his aunt, he stays with her. You’ve obviously not spent much time around toddlers. They come into your bed and watch you do everything. @Whoknowsnotmeshrug is literally asking for suggestions of how to handle it. Stop making it werid

Yes, I agree with that. It was ok when he was a baby but he is growing now and things change naturally. Don't make a big thing of it but keep your bits covered from now on.

I had no nieces or nephews but often had friends' children staying over, I mean friends of my son. I'll never forget walking out of the bathroom naked and a neighbour's little boy being on the landing. That was many years ago and it makes me blush now! I didn't make a thing out of it because that would have embarrassed him, I just walked into the bedroom normally but was more careful in future. However that was accidental, I wouldn't have deliberately walked around undressed in front of him.