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Thoughts on the 1 year vaccinations please ?

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Ellamaee · 28/10/2024 21:34

Positing on aibu in hopes to get more of a response .
my 1 year old has her 12 month vaccines on Wednesday, I wasn’t overthinking it until I seen TikTok’s of reactions to the vaccine , then all the comments saying how after the vaccine their child was having seizures, gave them health issues etc etc and how it is “literal poison” and that “they don’t make money if you’re not poorly, the vaccines are poison” also multiple stated they’ve never vaccinated their kids and they’re really healthy and never sick compared to those who have been vaccinated . My one year old is up to date with hers and now I’m absolutely dreading these one as obviously there’s 2 new ones she’s never had , am I massively overthinking this? I knowwww if she doesn’t get vaccinated she can get really sick, but then people telling me that it’s going to cause health issues, seizures, possibly Sid’s ? Is making me too scared to do it , I’m wondering if anyone has any experiences, and in hopes to reassure me that I’m doing the right thing by getting her vaccinated . I don’t want anything bad to happen to her I’m so scared . (Before anyone asks , yes I have bad anxiety as you’ll tell from my other threads lol) I don’t wanna pass it on to my daughter I just wanna do the right thing , thanks in advance

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AMonkeysUncle · 29/10/2024 23:01

Don’t worry about it. This is the least of your problems. If your child gets a serious illness, then you’ll know all about it - much worse than the anxiety you are currently experiencing and could even kill them. So get the vax and keep other people’s kids safe too. Win-win situation. Same as smear tests, just do it.

countbackfromten · 29/10/2024 23:01

For @Ellamaee and anyone else worried or wanting accurate information about vaccines from a genuine source, I cannot recommend https://vaccineknowledge.ox.ac.uk/home enough! Evidence based, well written and from a brilliant source.

Much better than Tik Tok or Instagram or any scare stories online!

Home

https://vaccineknowledge.ox.ac.uk/home

RampantIvy · 29/10/2024 22:38

Ellamaee · 29/10/2024 13:25

In saying that I remember being in high school and people came and gave us a vaccine , something to do with reducing ovarian cancer or something along those lines , I can’t even remember what it was for !!
I’ve never gotten flu jab, the only time I was offered that is when I was pregnant and even then I didn’t . Is that something she’ll need too?

That will have been the HPV vaccination. The vaccine helps protect against cancers caused by the HPV virus - mainly cervical cancer. The HPV vaccine also protects against mouth, throat, head and neck cancers caused by HPV.

Having seen a family member go through some horrifically brutal treatment for a mouth cancer caused by HPV I would suggest that refusing the HPV vaccine is not to be advised at all.

I find it worrying that you don't know much about the vaccines that you have had.

My daughter is a year older then you and needed her vaccination record when she volunteered at the local hospital. she asked her GP to print off her vaccination record for her. If you ask your GP they will do the same for you.

Londonrach1 · 29/10/2024 22:10

Yabu ...as previously mentioned growing up a toddler in the next street to me died of measles as her parents choose to not vaccinate her....I'd believe a doctor over some random on tic tock. We Lucky to leave in a country where we can have vaccinations.

averitablevampire · 29/10/2024 22:07

Yeh well, because of vaccines most people have never seen the devastation of childhood illness such as measles, polio etc.
Having worked in countries without these life saving vaccinations, I can hand on heart tell you, if you saw the results of these diseases you wouldn't think twice about getting your child vaccinated
Yes it's horrible having your little one on your lap getting 'stung' by a needle, and yes it's not much fun for them if they get the post vaccine snotty nose and or slight fever, but the actual disease causes so much suffering, that it's a very small price to pay, for something which will ultimately save their life/ prevent significant disability.
Both mine had their vaccines, both of them were a bit grotty a few days afterwards, and had horrible stinky nappies! But I have no regrets especially given the increase in measles cases.
The risks of not vaccinated massively outweigh the teeny tiny risk of an adverse reaction to the vaccination, but OP if you are worried then you can stay in the waiting area in the surgery for 20/30 mins after the vaccine. You can also talk to your health visitor about possible side effects, so you can make an informed decision.

Gnomy · 29/10/2024 21:16

OP - you’re doing a good job. Delay is fine, don’t worry.

Just get it done. You’ll be over it as the non-event it is, like everyone on this thread.

I’ve worked in and around drug discovery for 20 years (not vaccines). My DD has all the vaccines available and I’ve paid privately for chicken pox. Thats a later discussion. You’re doing the right thing.

Rycbar · 29/10/2024 13:48

I’m a teacher and before that I worked in early years (nurseries etc) for 15 years. I worked with babies aged 3 months - all the way to children leaving reception. I have never, in my entire career met a baby or child that had suffered from vaccinations bar needing a bit of calpol. I have taught or looked after over 500 children (at least!). Yes some children will suffer a negative consequence but it is such a small minority. If your child caught one of the diseases they could very well die.

Ellamaee · 29/10/2024 13:28

Emmentalia · 29/10/2024 13:27

Yeah they will tell you in the appointment, sometimes they get a very mild rash about 10 days afterwards, it is totally normal and it doesn't bother the baby. It's much milder than a HFM or chicken pox type rash.

Allergies to vaccines are really rare, and in the extremely unlikely event of a reaction, you'd be in the Drs surgery where they'd know what to do. Compare that to all the food allergens you have introduced her to in her life! There is an allergy risk in everything, but the vast vast majority of people are fine. It's so hard when you feel anxious, but you really are doing the best thing x

Thank you so much X

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Ellamaee · 29/10/2024 13:21

Thank you ! My girl didn’t have any reactions the her 8/12/16 week ones, which is why I’m so worried she’ll have a reaction to these ones because there’s 2 new ones she not had yet! But I know it’ll stop her from getting these awful diseases, it’s just the “what ifs” like bad allergic reaction etc that scares me , will have calpol at ready! How would I know if the rash is from the vaccine ? Is that a normal side effect ?

Yeah they will tell you in the appointment, sometimes they get a very mild rash about 10 days afterwards, it is totally normal and it doesn't bother the baby. It's much milder than a HFM or chicken pox type rash.

Allergies to vaccines are really rare, and in the extremely unlikely event of a reaction, you'd be in the Drs surgery where they'd know what to do. Compare that to all the food allergens you have introduced her to in her life! There is an allergy risk in everything, but the vast vast majority of people are fine. It's so hard when you feel anxious, but you really are doing the best thing x

Ellamaee · 29/10/2024 13:25

In saying that I remember being in high school and people came and gave us a vaccine , something to do with reducing ovarian cancer or something along those lines , I can’t even remember what it was for !!
I’ve never gotten flu jab, the only time I was offered that is when I was pregnant and even then I didn’t . Is that something she’ll need too?

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Ellamaee · 29/10/2024 13:22

Needanewname42 · 29/10/2024 13:18

Op talk to your mum, did she have you vaccinated - did your head fall off ?

No look at the kids around you 90% will have been vaccinated.
Please don't gamble with your kids live.

Note I'm never 100% sure on flu vaccines because they change every year but the standard vaccines that haven't changed in decades run and get them

That’s the thing , I’ve asked my mum if I had my jabs and she always told me “it was 23 years ago, I don’t remember” but i think I have been, my prenatal bloods say I’m immune from rubella , would that have mean I’ve had it or vaccinated? My mum still has my red book from when I was a baby, I will have a look to see if anything about vaccinations were on it 🤣

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Ellamaee · 29/10/2024 13:21

Emmentalia · 29/10/2024 13:17

Just to add to the reassurance, my baby had no side effects whatsoever from the 1 year jabs, not even a temperature. They were by far the easiest for us, she had temps and a bad tummy from the 8/12/16 week ones. Also got the chicken pox privately and no reactions to that either. A few friends little ones had a temp and a mild rash after the MMR but cleared up very quickly. You're absolutely doing the best thing for your little one by getting them jabbed.

Thank you ! My girl didn’t have any reactions the her 8/12/16 week ones, which is why I’m so worried she’ll have a reaction to these ones because there’s 2 new ones she not had yet! But I know it’ll stop her from getting these awful diseases, it’s just the “what ifs” like bad allergic reaction etc that scares me , will have calpol at ready! How would I know if the rash is from the vaccine ? Is that a normal side effect ?

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Needanewname42 · 29/10/2024 13:18

Op talk to your mum, did she have you vaccinated - did your head fall off ?

No look at the kids around you 90% will have been vaccinated.
Please don't gamble with your kids live.

Note I'm never 100% sure on flu vaccines because they change every year but the standard vaccines that haven't changed in decades run and get them

Emmentalia · 29/10/2024 13:17

Just to add to the reassurance, my baby had no side effects whatsoever from the 1 year jabs, not even a temperature. They were by far the easiest for us, she had temps and a bad tummy from the 8/12/16 week ones. Also got the chicken pox privately and no reactions to that either. A few friends little ones had a temp and a mild rash after the MMR but cleared up very quickly. You're absolutely doing the best thing for your little one by getting them jabbed.

Ellamaee · 29/10/2024 13:13

Wishingplenty · 29/10/2024 12:53

My dc had is one year old vaccine this morning. Popped a couple of cheerios in his mouth as the needle went in and he barely cried. He did fall asleep in the shopping trolley after though.

Aw bless him, I hope it’s not too bad for him!

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JassyRadlett · 29/10/2024 13:12

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sleepwouldbenice · 29/10/2024 13:03

BarbaraHoward · 28/10/2024 21:35

Get your medical advice from the NHS, not TikTok.

Sorry, hit post too soon. The vaccines are life saving. Please please give them to your DC.

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Wishingplenty · 29/10/2024 12:53

My dc had is one year old vaccine this morning. Popped a couple of cheerios in his mouth as the needle went in and he barely cried. He did fall asleep in the shopping trolley after though.

RampantIvy · 29/10/2024 12:47

MabelMaybe · 29/10/2024 11:51

@Ellamaee well done for asking for 2nd opinions on here, having seen things on TikTok that concerned you. As someone who is a much older mother than you, take a deep breath, and well done for asking on here. If you see something on TikTok or other social media that concerns you, step away from the media and look on reputable sites, such as NHS sites, or your health visitor, for guidance. You recognise that you're anxious, but you are definitely able to make good decisions for your baby.

This is a lovely post and I agree with your sentiments.
I am an older mother and had DD before all this social media nonsense started influencing people to make the wrong decisions.

TikTok is great for recipes and watching kittens, but for anything serious that requires peer reviewed research then checking on the NHS website is a good start. The NHS wants to spend as little as possible, so anything that prevents disease is going to cost them far less than having to treat people with a preventable disease.

Ellamaee · 29/10/2024 12:35

KeyWorker · 29/10/2024 12:00

Which vaccine specifically? There are 4 vaccinations at 12 months, 2 of which they will have had before if they are fully vaccinated on the UK vaccine schedules.

Id advise you delete TicToc to be honest.

Yes I know , it’s the other 2 she hasn’t had , can’t remember the name . Maybe measles ?

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Ellamaee · 29/10/2024 12:34

MabelMaybe · 29/10/2024 11:51

@Ellamaee well done for asking for 2nd opinions on here, having seen things on TikTok that concerned you. As someone who is a much older mother than you, take a deep breath, and well done for asking on here. If you see something on TikTok or other social media that concerns you, step away from the media and look on reputable sites, such as NHS sites, or your health visitor, for guidance. You recognise that you're anxious, but you are definitely able to make good decisions for your baby.

This is a lovely comment , thank you so much for noticing that I’m making the right decision 💐

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AlteredStater · 29/10/2024 12:18

Your anxiety is pushing you the wrong way! You know vaccines prevent horrible childhood illnesses. Forget about the rubbish on TikTok!

TwinklyAmberOrca · 29/10/2024 12:16

Ellamaee · 29/10/2024 11:31

youre right , good observation! Because my anxiety is bad and seeing that is only going to make it worse and create doubt . But does that mean I’m gonna listen to them? No!

If you're anxiety is so bad that utter rubbish about vaccines on TikTok is making you have anxieties about them, then you put your MH first and delete your TikTok account and remove the app from your phone!

DreadPirateRobots · 29/10/2024 12:03

Do medical professionals and medical researchers get their DC vaccinated? Yes. Overwhelmingly. Unless there are genuine medical contraindications.

Case closed. The people who know by far the most about vaccines give vaccines to their DC because they want the best for their DC.