DS 25 still lives at home

My eldest went to uni at 18 and I fully expected her to come home after but she didn't. She got her own place and a job. She's 26 now. My youngest is 13 so he won't be leaving for a long time (hopefully one day so that he is independent but he's ND) and he can stay at home for as long as he likes. My daughter also knows she always has a home with me.

Yep and drives me nuts!!
She came home after graduating and currently earning £27000 in a job she fell into completely unrelated to her degree.
Constantly telling me her career plans while going away multiple times a year paying minimal rent.

It's a real bone of contention between DH and I.

I think she should pay more (currently pays £190/month with DH paying her £60 phone contact!)
When I suggest she ups it to £200 she freaks out saying she doesn't have any spare money!!!

We don't need the rent from her but she isn't saving anything that we can see. She's basically living in an all inclusive hotel 😡

I love the bones of her but wish she would just leave.

We've another one at uni. Thought by now we'd be able to start thinking about ourselves.

On the other hand I suppose it's quite nice she still wants to be with us.

Drives me nuts though

Eldest 30, went to Uni then worked elsewhere for a year but moved home during lockdown then got his own place, daughter lived here with partner until moved out at 25 when bought own place, youngest still here at 22 post-Uni. No way would I ever Chuck any of them out and they'll always be room for them if they ever need to return

Dd is 27. Lived away for four years whilst at uni but back now. It's just me and her. She can stay as long as she likes.

Yep, it depends a lot on where you live. I'm in London with adult DC at home, most of their friends also live at home. The only ones who don't tend to be those who have partnered up and got a place together.

My almost 22 year old DS lives at home.

We love it though, he's so helpful and easy going.

Might need to get a dog if he ever moves out 😬😂

My 24yr old has come back home after being at uni. I think he'd like to move out and live with his girlfriend but we're south-east and not a chance of affording anything anytime soon. I like having him here (even though he does eat me out of house and home!)

One of mine went to uni at 18 and stayed up there when she graduated.
The other moved out recently, aged 23, to rent with her boyfriend.

This is quite unusual though (SE/London). Most of their friends are still at home.

My eldest DD is 24 and moved out for work and to live with her boyfriend when she was 21 and my youngest DD, 18. is currently at uni. I wouldn't mind either of mine still living with us as long as they were working and earning and saving towards making that move to live independently, whenever that may be.

I think its really hard these days for YP to be able to make that move. Many want to buy and not waste money on rent so stay at home in order to save but it just seems to mean them staying in the family home longer.

is there any particular reason you ask?

Mine are only 19 & 18 years old but I suspect they'll be at home for quite some time. We are South East and on the border of London so house prices/rent is astronomical. It will be so more difficult for them to fly the nest than it was for mine and previous generations.

My nephews, 26 and 24, still live at home. At 24 I had not lived at home for 4 years and had bought a flat with a 100% mortgage. When I was young, kids in the UK were made to feel a bit unwelcome really if they stayed beyond about 21. As though they had somehow failed to launch, or were not 'independent'. It's different now. We enjoy our kids more for a start, and treat them with more respect as they grow up too.

What is wrong with a group/family of adults living together happily?

Yep.
Dd1 (24) back home from uni. Working and on 27k a year. Saving a lot (1k) each month for a deposit but the bank want her to have about 50k for a deposit so she will be home for another couple of years yet before she will have saved that up.

My DD’s eldest , 30 left home 2 years ago . His sister 28 is still there. My son’s eldest two 26 and 24 different still at home.